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Meli ❤ 1 child; Don't worry about it, CA, United States 30989 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" i am sure he masturbates looking at porn videos and just be normal and loving as usual with me but why porn? can't he control like i do during pregnancy?"


Because porn is awesome and dudes are sexual creatures, usually more so than women. Be happy he is whacking it to porn & not out impregnating another woman.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" If he's watching porn a lot on top of being with you then chances are he's not having an affair. Besides, ... [snip!] ... just looking at porn because he's a guy and isn't getting his rocks off in any other way at the moment. It's nothing personal."


yes we haven't had any sex since i got pregnant cuz i told him in the beginning
that sex may not be a good idea when i was in early stages of pregnancy as sometimes that would make things complicated , but that said I had expressed interest sometime back that i am in mood etc. but he didn't bother

*Kristina G* Due August 18 (girl); 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 191 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" watching together is different he does this hiding, why shud he hide from me"</blockquote>



bcuz of the way your acting now. men are always horny they think of sex all the time most of the day nd with being pregnant nd almost due maybe he feels that if he asks you for sex it may cause an argument. or he doesn't wanna bother you with the discomfort of having sex

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" i am sure he masturbates looking at porn videos and just be normal and loving as usual with me but why porn? can't he control like i do during pregnancy?"


Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable to have sex with you at this point. You may want to talk to him and let him know you would like to have more sex. If you aren't willing to have sex then he needs some sort of release.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13

hmmmm he is kinda asking me that how will i reduce this body fat after pregnancy and how long it will take etc. he is like i am fatty and gaining pounds



but his love and effection, caring towards me has not changed, still the same but i am little worried as how this will lead to

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" hmmmm he is kinda asking me that how will i reduce this body fat after pregnancy and how long it will ... [snip!] ... but his love and effection, caring towards me has not changed, still the same but i am little worried as how this will lead to"</blockquote>




It's a normal question to ask, how long will it take for your body to go back to normal.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13

i feel he always choose porn over me. cuz we haven't had a great sex life since our marriage

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" hmmmm he is kinda asking me that how will ... [snip!] ... will lead to"</blockquote> It's a normal question to ask, how long will it take for your body to go back to normal."

he is like whenever we go outside always look at other women and comment wow she;s hot look at her boobs etc (right from the beginning , in general he is very expressive and don't feel shy talking about other women in front of me)

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16042 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" i am sure he masturbates looking at porn videos and just be normal and loving as usual with me but why porn? can't he control like i do during pregnancy?"



Why are you 'controlling' it? Are you not supposed to be having sex? Don't you get yourself off otherwise? If your preference is not to.. why should he suffer?



You need to explain the situation in more detail



Why is porn so offensive? They're just moving pictures. It's not like it's a real person, taht you know in real life that he's jacking off to.. That'd be odd.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
19th Apr '13

I don't think you have a problem with the porn ... I think you don't like his maserbating at all.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tasha & Nika:" Why are you 'controlling' it? Are you not supposed to be having sex? Don't you get yourself off otherwise? ... [snip!] ... just moving pictures. It's not like it's a real person, taht you know in real life that he's jacking off to.. That'd be odd."


i mean how can he watch porn videos and imagine other women and masturbate and hiding that from me? feel like slapping him

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Destiel:" I don't think you have a problem with the porn ... I think you don't like his maserbating at all."


yes ofcourse if he wants it he can freely ask me i am his wife. if he feel like he needs to be free with me rather masturbating and watching nude women pics and vids in restroom i dunno to me this kinda feels awkward that my hubby is doing all this shit

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11610 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" i feel he always choose porn over me. cuz we haven't had a great sex life since our marriage"

You're not alone. A lot of people don't have great sex lives during pregnancy. It comes with the territory for many. Women often feel uncomfortable with their bodies or just plain uncomfortable on a physical level and men just have to deal with it.



With that being said plenty of people continue to have healthy sex lives during pregnancy. I did for a majority of my pregnancy. I'm not sure why you thought it wasn't okay to have sex but just for future information it's more than fine to have sex while pregnant, even when you're far along.



Definitely sit him down and let him know how you feel. Get everything out on the table. This is something you two need to talk about and set boundaries with. You both need to listen to one another as well (like Red Bottom said). It's not just you who is pregnant here... He might not be physically pregnant but I can guarantee he's also going through a lot of changes right now.



One more thing: You're not crazy like someone else suggested. What you're feeling is perfectly normal. You're pregnant, you have a lot on your mind, you guys aren't having sex, you're wondering why he's watching so much porn, etc. Most women would react in a similar fashion if they weren't comfortable with porn to begin with so you're not insane. A good way to fix all of this is to simply talk with one another. Good luck.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" yes ofcourse if he wants it he can freely ask me i am his wife. if he feel like he needs to be free ... [snip!] ... and watching nude women pics and vids in restroom i dunno to me this kinda feels awkward that my hubby is doing all this shit"


wow ... so he's only allowed at it as long as its with you? Why don't you buy him a chastidy belt and get it over with? I had a friend who used to watch her husband in the shower and force him to leave the toilet door open because she didn't 'trust' him. That marriage didn't last long at all.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 542 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" You're not alone. A lot of people don't have great sex lives during pregnancy. It comes with the territory ... [snip!] ... with porn to begin with so you're not insane. A good way to fix all of this is to simply talk with one another. Good luck."

Thanks i am gonna talk about it but i am sure he would just ignore the topic and walk away, i bet !