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Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" yes ofcourse if he wants it he can freely ask me i am his wife. if he feel like he needs to be free ... [snip!] ... and watching nude women pics and vids in restroom i dunno to me this kinda feels awkward that my hubby is doing all this shit"

Did you grow up in an environment where people didn't talk about masturbation and sex being perfectly normal and healthy? If so then that explains a lot here.



If no one has said it before, you need to know that masturbation is 100% normal. Everyone does it, men and women alike. It's healthy and it's a great way for people to learn even more about their own bodies.

Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" Thanks i am gonna talk about it but i am sure he would just ignore the topic and walk away, i bet !"


You might be surprised. If it genuinely bothers you and he knows that he should be willing to at least talk about it.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" Did you grow up in an environment where people didn't talk about masturbation and sex being perfectly ... [snip!] ... Everyone does it, men and women alike. It's healthy and it's a great way for people to learn even more about their own bodies. "


I know masturbation is normal but why does he need to if he has me? i told him once that i am in mood and stuff indirectly i am sure he knew what i was talking but he ignored...

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" You might be surprised. If it genuinely bothers you and he knows that he should be willing to at least talk about it."

i am sure he is either gonna be quiet or say yes i watch those videos so what?..he has got that attitude

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" he is like whenever we go outside always look at other women and comment wow she;s hot look at her b**bs ... [snip!] ... etc (right from the beginning , in general he is very expressive and don't feel shy talking about other women in front of me)"</blockquote>




You should've addressed that a long time ago if it bothered you.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" i mean how can he watch porn videos and imagine other women and masturbate and hiding that from me? feel like slapping him"</blockquote>




Watching porn is getting aroused by the act if sex. Not him picturing himself with other women.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" Thanks i am gonna talk about it but i am sure he would just ignore the topic and walk away, i bet !"</blockquote>



Then he's an a*****e and you have bigger problems.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mrssenorita:</b>" yes we haven't had any sex since i got pregnant cuz i told him in the beginning that sex may not be ... [snip!] ... make things complicated , but that said I had expressed interest sometime back that i am in mood etc. but he didn't bother"</blockquote>



My DH and I didn't have sex my entire pregnancy with both kids. He was not comfortable with it. He watched porn and took care of himself once in awhile and so did I. Not everyone is comfortable having sex while pregnant, it doesn't mean they are cheating.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18293 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" wow ... so he's only allowed at it as long as its with you? Why don't you buy him a chastidy belt and ... [snip!] ... the shower and force him to leave the toilet door open because she didn't 'trust' him. That marriage didn't last long at all."</blockquote>



Holy shit. Now that is f**king crazy lol

Eli&Elliot's Mommy! 2 kids; Brooklyn, New York 2109 posts
19th Apr '13

I used to hate it when DH watches porn too. I would feel like I'm not good enough for him but then I realize I don't have Sex with him because I don't feel like it. I'm pregnant and tired. I didn't want to have sex when I was pregnant with DS. After DS, we had sex just once (when DS was 4-5 months) and I got pregnant AGAIN! So we barely have sex. I don't mind him watching Porn cause he has his needs. As long as he's not cheating or anything.