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♥Blondetourage 3 kids; FORT RILEY, Kansas 35907 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" How is it going to benefit the kid?"</blockquote> How is grounding him going to? At least this is an educational punishment."


yup. grounding him does NOTHING. Because he knows eventually he will get his stuff back so he just says "oh well i'll get my stuff later"

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
19th Apr '13

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♥Blondetourage 3 kids; FORT RILEY, Kansas 35907 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" Why not just make him do the original ... [snip!] ... be "piling on more" if he actually did the original homework. She's just making him write essays at home as punishment."


exactly. I would never add on more if he actually brought it home or had no homework that day. If that were the case he could freely go see his friends or w/e

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
19th Apr '13

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♥Blondetourage 3 kids; FORT RILEY, Kansas 35907 posts
19th Apr '13
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user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" You are answering the question 'what is she doing if for', I asked, how it is going to benefit the ... [snip!] ... to what he is studying at school, and eventually be tested on. Can she even appropriately grade the reports the kid writes up?"</blockquote>




Well I guess you should never punish your child unless it "benefits the kid". :roll: at least she's trying to take steps towards making him realize he should bring his homework home or he will have an essay to do if he fails to do so.

Soon 2 be mom of 3 Due November 6; 2 kids; Massachusetts 412 posts
19th Apr '13

My kid who is the same age as yours and also has ADHD does the same stuff...he always finds a way around us making sure he has his homework. We check his planner for the "missing homework" stamp, taken stuff away,grounded him and NOTHING lights a fire under his butt. I figure if he made the conscious decision to not do it (and that's exactly what it is as he has said so) then he's made the conscious decision to stay back or fail. Maybe it's harsh and I'll probably get crap for it but until you've dealt with the "I don't care" attitude you don't really understand. OP I like your essay idea...I'm sure the homework is easier then essay writing!!

user banned 3 kids; Portland, Michigan 15675 posts
19th Apr '13

I know it sounds harsh and all but honestly if he fails his grade one time, he'll learn that next year he can't mess around and not bring his homework. It sounds like he's just a typical teenager who thinks school is a joke. I think most people go through this phase. Does your son do the assignment that you require him to do or does he shrug that off too? Have you tried talking with the teacher and maybe having his teachers e-mail you his assignments that way you know what homework he has to do? Maybe punish him by making him stay after school and having a one-on-one with the teacher.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
19th Apr '13

I don't think this has anything to do with being a good or bad mom. I don't think it's necessary. I think that you should just work worth his teachers and have them double check that he has his homework assignments written down, and then check the assignment book every night and require him to finish them all each night and show you when he's done.

♥Blondetourage 3 kids; FORT RILEY, Kansas 35907 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Soon 2 be mom of 3:" My kid who is the same age as yours and also has ADHD does the same stuff...he always finds a way around ... [snip!] ... care" attitude you don't really understand. OP I like your essay idea...I'm sure the homework is easier then essay writing!!"


thank you!!!!



ive done it a few times and even gone to the library to get books on like sharks or something to have him write an essay about.



the reason I chose STD's this time is bc he's ya know......around that age as sad as it is lol.



when he was in 5th grade we had 5th graded appropriate math problems for his grade printed out for him to work on if he "forgot" his work.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45151 posts
status 19th Apr '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" You are answering the question 'what is ... [snip!] ... to take steps towards making him realize he should bring his homework home or he will have an essay to do if he fails to do so."

Do you have a school aged child? when you punish them for not doing their school work wouldnt you want them to get their actual school work done? That what the other mother is talking about benefiting the child him doing the essay will teach him something but in the end his homework is still not done :roll:

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
19th Apr '13

Meh, I have ADD & never did that shit in school. I probably would of though if I wasn't on any medications for my ADD. Seems like when I don't take my meds, I forget everything even if it is right there in my face. So maybe punishing him for forgetting which is due to his ADHD is not the right thing, because he obviously can't help it. I would try to find other ways to remind him to bring his homework home like texting him to remind him or maybe even calling up the school & seeing if you can pick up all of the homework he needs done for the week in advance?

♥Blondetourage 3 kids; FORT RILEY, Kansas 35907 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Michelle Obama:" I know it sounds harsh and all but honestly if he fails his grade one time, he'll learn that next year ... [snip!] ... you know what homework he has to do? Maybe punish him by making him stay after school and having a one-on-one with the teacher."


we have literally tried EVERYTHING. He even has an IEP that has followed him for the past 4 years.



He gets modified homework assignments and testing areas because of his ADHD.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tasha & Nika:" You are answering the question 'what is she doing if for', I asked, how it is going to benefit the ... [snip!] ... to what he is studying at school, and eventually be tested on. Can she even appropriately grade the reports the kid writes up?"

Did you ever have to write lines as a kid? My dad made me write them a lot. It benefited me by teaching me a lesson about appropriate behavior. Same goes for her making him write an essay. The point is to teach him to bring his school work home, there by helping him to get said school work done and keep his grades up. It's discipline, it has nothing to do with whether she can grade it or not.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" Why not just make him do the original ... [snip!] ... be "piling on more" if he actually did the original homework. She's just making him write essays at home as punishment."</blockquote>



So he'll fail from 40% of his grade being homework for the year because his actual homework is being substituted by the work he's punished with at home? I just don't understand why they wouldn't go back for it & make him do the original as well so it actually benefits him. If he has to sit & do twice as much he'll be less likely to forget it KWIM? My brother has ADHD, ODD, & OCD so sadly I know quite a bit about this particular type of situation