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IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Soon 2 be mom of 3:" My kid who is the same age as yours and also has ADHD does the same stuff...he always finds a way around ... [snip!] ... care" attitude you don't really understand. OP I like your essay idea...I'm sure the homework is easier then essay writing!!"


I know a lot of times, things I do come off as not caring & soo many people don't understand the mind of a person with ADD or ADHD....I hate when people think I am doing this or that purposely and that I am using my ADD as an excuse when I am really not. Most of the time I really can't help when I forget things or when I can't focus long enough to get shit done kwim? Medicine does help me a ton, but I don't like taking it all of the time.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15210 posts
19th Apr '13

It doesn't sound like you've been working with his teachers at all. It also doesn't sound like he's being properly medicated for someone with ADHD.

MinnesotaMommy2One 1 child; Minnesota 2384 posts
19th Apr '13

I don't see it as being a bad thing although ideally he'd be doing his actual work. He no doubt is still learning through the work you've assigned so even though its perhaps not benefiting his grades, its still benefiting his education and giving consequences for his actions. What does his case manager think? Does she have any other suggestions for helping him remember his work?

Tasha & Nika TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 15867 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" Did you ever have to write lines as a kid? My dad made me write them a lot. It benefited me by teaching ... [snip!] ... get said school work done and keep his grades up. It's discipline, it has nothing to do with whether she can grade it or not. "


My point is, she can put in an effort in making sure his homework does come home, by possibly taking this straight to the teachers, and instead of making up assignments for him at home - he can do the actual work.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
19th Apr '13
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Soon 2 be mom of 3 Due November 6; 2 kids; Massachusetts 412 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The ... [snip!] ... likely to forget it KWIM? My brother has ADHD, ODD, & OCD so sadly I know quite a bit about this particular type of situation"

Why should the mother have to take him back for it?? He is responsible enough to remember it himself!! This is what is wrong with kids these days!! They don't have to learn to be responsible for their own actions cuz Mommy will always be there to pick up after him and wipe his bum bum!!! SMH I'm tired of the oh he has ADHD he can't help it!! My son has used that excuse too...if he can make an excuse for why it isn't done he is capable of doing it!!

♥Blondetourage 3 kids; FORT RILEY, Kansas 35907 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting IDGAF ❤:" Have you ever tried putting him on meds for it? It seems like you have not tried meds. Do you know how ... [snip!] ... ADD & sure enough I have it. 6th grade when I was put on ADD meds, I went from being a D student to almost straight A's."


he is medicated.



he was on medication since age 6....i took him off at age 9 to see if he really did have adhd and tried herbal alternatives which did NOTHING. So we took him back to the dr a few months ago and slow have been adjusting his meds since.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Soon 2 be mom of 3:" Why should the mother have to take him back for it?? He is responsible enough to remember it himself!! ... [snip!] ... he can't help it!! My son has used that excuse too...if he can make an excuse for why it isn't done he is capable of doing it!!"


Wow, you are f**king insensitive. How the f**k do you know what it is like for someone with ADD? that shit pisses me off when people think we can help the shit we do....ugh.....I have dealt with shitty insensitive people who think the same my whole f**king life, it really strikes a nerve. Ever think maybe it isn't an excuse? Or maybe you are too insensitive to see that shit.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30523 posts
19th Apr '13
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19th Apr '13

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~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13; 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon 2 be mom of 3:</b>" Why should the mother have to take him back for it?? He is responsible enough to remember it himself!! ... [snip!] ... he can't help it!! My son has used that excuse too...if he can make an excuse for why it isn't done he is capable of doing it!!"</blockquote>



I functioned perfectly well in school having ADHD myself but I got distracted so easily I forgot my stuff all the time. It WASN'T on purpose & I usually did it at school if I thought about it. She should do it if she doesn't want her child to fail but that's her decision. My brother has THREE mental disorders & he couldn't focus at all. How judgemental of you to assume you tknow every childs issues when they have ADHD :? Some really do struggle. Its not always an 'excuse'

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 44154 posts
status 19th Apr '13
Quoting Soon 2 be mom of 3:" Why should the mother have to take him back for it?? He is responsible enough to remember it himself!! ... [snip!] ... he can't help it!! My son has used that excuse too...if he can make an excuse for why it isn't done he is capable of doing it!!"

because she decided to have children and if she wants him to graduate shell do it

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13; 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting IDGAF ❤:</b>" Wow, you are f**king insensitive. How the f**k do you know what it is like for someone with ADD? that ... [snip!] ... life, it really strikes a nerve. Ever think maybe it isn't an excuse? Or maybe you are too insensitive to see that shit. "</blockquote>



She has a child with it too so you'd think she'd be more understanding. Her statement was just as insensitive as someone saying an autistic child is making excuses. A lot of the issues with both are a lot alike. Autism just has a wider spectrum of issues

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
19th Apr '13

I say talk to his teachers about it. Have them remind him/ give him his homework before he leaves their class.

LittleBear's mama 3 kids; Ontario 480 posts
19th Apr '13

OP, i think its fantastic that you gave him homework when he forgot his. My ten year old frequently forgets her homework and i do the same thing. One time i even had her write 100 lines...i will not forget my homework... I love the fact that you had him write a report on STDs, especially since he is at the age where things like that will be coming into play as he gets sexually active, if he isnt already. Fact is you can only ride your kids so much about their homework. When they go to college and get out into the real world no one is going to ride them about their academic responsibilities. College, they arent going to care if he hands it in or not, just take the tuition money and fail him if he doesnt meet the requirements. As for working, well an employer wont put up with it for very long before they fire. This is why i am riding my daughter about it now, drilling into her responsibility and its importance. Unfortunately her bd has none, so we are doing the best we can.