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user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" Well first what does FWB mean, and second. He's your brother in laws half brother. Doesn't that mean you're married? o-0 I'm confused."


Friends with benefits.
It's probably her sister's husband.

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6203 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Friends with benefits."


Oh okay :oops:

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6203 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" Friends with benefits. It's probably her sister's husband."


That's not creepy at all. o-o



OP . . . I really don't see this ending well; however, it's your life do what you want to. Just make sure that it doesn't effect your children.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
19th Apr '13

I'm just like. . . aren't you guys technically family, in some weird way? Just not by blood?
Fuck all that...if you're just FWB, then you could easily find another guy, who isn't part of your family, to have sex with. And then there wouldn't be tension in the family.
IDK, that's just my opinion. I wouldn't do it.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" :!: Especially when they are "family""</blockquote>




In general, even though he's "family" we don't see each other in social settings. The few times (a total three times in 4 months) we have its because I invited him and some friends to hang out. And he told me before he came he was bringing this girl or that girl. So be it, I appreciate him telling me before he shows up. Its respectful. I'm not his girlfriend so he can see who he wants.



I am ok with him seeing other people and he's ok with me seeing other people. We see each other as friends first and we happen to sleep together. We aren't anything serious and most likely never will be. And we both know that. We are adults and carry ourselves as such.

♥♬♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 10385 posts
19th Apr '13

I have had a few FWB situations going on lol years ago! we are still cool, as long as you do not develop those type of feelings then itl be ok.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" Friends with benefits. It's probably her sister's husband."</blockquote>




Bingo! My sister's husband's half brother. They have same dad different mom.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" That's not creepy at all. o-o OP . . . I really don't see this ending well; however, it's your life do what you want to. Just make sure that it doesn't effect your children."</blockquote>



He has never met my kids and we only see each other when my kids aren't around. I am very set on my kids not knowing who I am with and will make sure it stays that way.

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6203 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" :!: Especially when they are "family""</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... We aren't anything serious and most likely never will be. And we both know that. We are adults and carry ourselves as such."


Well then tell him it's your life what ever. Like I said as long as it doesn't effect your kids or you don't get in over you head and hurt your family. Who cares.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫♥♬:</b>" I have had a few FWB situations going on lol years ago! we are still cool, as long as you do not develop those type of feelings then itl be ok."</blockquote>




Feelings are totally not involved and we stay open to each other about the fact that we are only FWB and not anything more.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting jazzzzz*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" Do what you choose. How does it not bother ... [snip!] ... sure I would do what op is doing. Your bil wants it to end because he may end up in the middle if things get messy. Bad spot."</blockquote>



My bil is the one who originally introduced us and like I stated before was totally ok with in the beginning. He was pushing us to see where we went. And now that we have and it was more than a one time thing he is backtracking.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Head of Pots:" This sounds like some swingers type of shit. Eww! I could not be able to speak and be perfectly fine ... [snip!] ... or had been sleeping with. Anyways, what makes your BIL, your BIL? Is he your bd's brother or just the SO of your sibling?"


There is a difference between a SO and FWB though.
If there is no emotional attachment I don't see why it would bother her.



OP, do what YOU want. If you guys are enjoying yourselves that's all that matters. Your BIL needs to stay out of it. And if it does end badly the two of you need to keep him out of it.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Apr '13

I say do what makes you happy. I've only had one FWB before and it was fun while it lasted but kinda got out of hand. At first it was all about sex.. then I wanted a relationship but he didn't, we stopped talking, then we started back up again, this time he wanted a relationship but I didn't. It was a mess, but the sex was awesome. :lol: He was also my best friend's brother but we kept quiet about the whole thing.. everyone kinda suspected we were messing around, we just never openly talked about it.

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20835 posts
19th Apr '13

I'd either:
A: Tell BIL to fuck off and mind his own relationship and business
-OR-
B: Tell him ya'll stopped seeing each other so he will quit worrying about it. You only see each other privately, so how would he know?

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Head of Pots:</b>" This sounds like some swingers type of shit. Eww! I could not be able to speak and be perfectly fine ... [snip!] ... or had been sleeping with. Anyways, what makes your BIL, your BIL? Is he your bd's brother or just the SO of your sibling?"</blockquote>



Definitely no swinging involved. I'm not sleeping with anyone that he's slept with and I don't sleep with his friends or anyone else. I am just another person in the world that he's sleeping with.