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Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6099 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Head of Pots:</b>" This sounds like some swingers type of shit. ... [snip!] ... slept with and I don't sleep with his friends or anyone else. I am just another person in the world that he's sleeping with."


I find that really odd, that you just don't care that you don't mean anything other than sex to him. I mean that's so odd, but each their own.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" I'd either: A: Tell BIL to fuck off and mind his own relationship and business -OR- B: Tell him ya'll ... [snip!] ... him ya'll stopped seeing each other so he will quit worrying about it. You only see each other privately, so how would he know?"</blockquote>




Him and his brother are close and even though my FWB and I want to keep it quiet in a public setting, between them and my sister and I it's pretty common knowledge. So even if I say we've stopped my FWB would probably let it slip.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1804 posts
19th Apr '13

i've had 1 fwb, we ended up being best friends up until i met my husband and we slowely just went our seperate ways. if i was in your situation, i would've told my bil to stay out of my sex life along time ago. as long as your happy then thats all that matters, who cares what other people think about how you live your life

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" I find that really odd, that you just don't care that you don't mean anything other than sex to him. I mean that's so odd, but each their own."</blockquote>



That's what friends with benefits are all about. Just sex, no emotional connection otherwise.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" I find that really odd, that you just don't care that you don't mean anything other than sex to him. I mean that's so odd, but each their own."


Hey, sometimes sex is all you want. I wanted a relationship with my FWB in the beginning, but then I realize I'd never be able to have a relationship with him.. I didn't care for his attitude, but that dick was awesome! :lol:

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lin Brown:</b>" i've had 1 fwb, we ended up being best friends up until i met my husband and we slowely just went our ... [snip!] ... time ago. as long as your happy then thats all that matters, who cares what other people think about how you live your life"</blockquote>



Thank you for saying this. I really appreciate you saying that you were able to stay friends and keep it respectful. I think that's my bil's fear, which I need to just tell him to stay out. Thanks

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LayLu:</b>" Hey, sometimes sex is all you want. I wanted a relationship with my FWB in the beginning, but then I ... [snip!] ... I realize I'd never be able to have a relationship with him.. I didn't care for his attitude, but that dick was awesome! :lol:"</blockquote>



That is exactly how I started. I had feelings and wanted a relationship but realized him and I are not a good fit personify wise. I could not handle his attitude but as you said that dick is amazing!

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6099 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting LayLu:" Hey, sometimes sex is all you want. I wanted a relationship with my FWB in the beginning, but then I ... [snip!] ... I realize I'd never be able to have a relationship with him.. I didn't care for his attitude, but that dick was awesome! :lol:"


That just doesn't make sense to me. I guess I just don't get it because I am an emotional person. I mean if I was sleeping with someone I don't know if I could just not care about the person. I mean sex shouldn't be just sex, I think that's disrespectful of your self and your partner. I guess I'm just weird though, it seems that a lot of people are fine with FWB now, which makes me old fashioned.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LayLu:</b>" Hey, sometimes sex is all you want. I wanted a ... [snip!] ... but realized him and I are not a good fit personify wise. I could not handle his attitude but as you said that dick is amazing!"


lol It is what it is and it aint what it aint. I'm pretty sure my FWB was seeing other girls while we were seeing eachother.. I didn't care, we just didn't talk about it. We'd just meet up, do our thing, sometimes hang out for a few, then I'd leave. I ended up meeting a guy I wanted a relationship with, he ended up meeting a girl he wanted a relationship with, and we went our separate ways.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" I find that really odd, that you just don't care that you don't mean anything other than sex to him. I mean that's so odd, but each their own."


That's the whole point of friends with benefits. It's sex, not an emotional relationship. Some people are capable of it... even if it isn't your thing.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" That just doesn't make sense to me. I guess I just don't get it because I am an emotional person. I ... [snip!] ... your partner. I guess I'm just weird though, it seems that a lot of people are fine with FWB now, which makes me old fashioned."</blockquote>



Oh I understand where you're coming from because I too am a very emotional person and never in my life thought I'd be able to have a just sex relationship. But it has evolved over the past few months and I am really happy with it. Since I'm not really wanting anything serious and want to focus on my kids and myself and not a new relationship at the same time. A girl had needs sometimes, and that's where he comes in.

Akeema 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 6099 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" That just doesn't make sense to me. I guess I ... [snip!] ... on my kids and myself and not a new relationship at the same time. A girl had needs sometimes, and that's where he comes in."


I figure a toy would be a better solution, but again to each their own.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Akeema:" That just doesn't make sense to me. I guess I just don't get it because I am an emotional person. I ... [snip!] ... your partner. I guess I'm just weird though, it seems that a lot of people are fine with FWB now, which makes me old fashioned."


I mean I'm not one for one night stands and almost all of my relationships are long and committed, but this was more of a rebound thing.. I had gotten out of a bad relationship, I didn't wanna date anyone and run them through the ringer knowing I wouldn't stay with them, so we just did our thing and had fun with it.

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
19th Apr '13

I get where he's coming from cause I had/have a similar sitaution w/my SIL and a cousin of mine which didn't end well. Since then I dont mix family with well in laws. I think your BIL is just trying to avoid a situation that has the potential to get messy real quick.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
20th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LayLu:</b>" I mean I'm not one for one night stands and almost all of my relationships are long and committed, but ... [snip!] ... date anyone and run them through the ringer knowing I wouldn't stay with them, so we just did our thing and had fun with it."</blockquote>



This is a rebound as well. Like I said before I don't want anything serious right now. I just got divorced and want to focus on myself. I have some issues to work on before I get into another serious relationship.