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Am I just being sensitive? Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
19th Apr '13

I know I post about this a lot but...DS' home therapist is starting to piss me off. He's 4 years old and globally delayed. He's been receiving services since October.



Now, I'm grateful for this program and the professionals willing to work with my kid, but between the make-up hours this agency piles on and the high expectations I'm starting to get irritated.



DS is with a make-up therapist now and she's so much nicer and better with him than his regular teacher. His regular teacher is nice but she's always saying "You should be able to ___ by now." "Every kid knows how to ____ so you have to too." I don't want her to baby him but I mean, really, if he was on par with other 4 year olds I wouldn't have her coming to my goddamn house every single day.



Then she gives me a progress report....and it has all the categories they are working on and how much he has been improving. And every single one was marked "Little to no improvement." Um, what? He is doing loads better....and I know it's because she and I are always working with him. So why would she downplay it? There might be a reasonable explanation for that but it kind of pissed me off.



Sorry so long, but would that get on your nerves too? Or am I just being sensitive and defensive because he's my child? Be honest!

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
19th Apr '13

It's horrible that she compares your son to other children right to his face.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
19th Apr '13

Maybe she is down playing it to ensure that he receives the services he needs! I don't like that she compares him to other children though especially right to his face!

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
19th Apr '13

If she is down playing it, it could be for different reasons.
Maybe since she is comparing him to other children, she may not be seeing past that issue. In her eyes... if he's not on another childs level then he isn't improving. Ya know?
Or maybe it's so he receives more of the service he needs.



But I don't think you're being sensitive. He's his own person. He is not these other children that she is trying to compare him to. If you see improvements, then he is most certainly improving!

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting A is Me:" It's horrible that she compares your son to other children right to his face."


That's what I'm thinking. I'm like...he's NOT like other children. Hence why you have a job, so STFU. Of course I would never say it like that lol.

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
19th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" That's what I'm thinking. I'm like...he's NOT like other children. Hence why you have a job, so STFU. Of course I would never say it like that lol. "</blockquote>




Lol I know but I would want to. Comparing him to "normal" children just isn't fair or good for his self esteem.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting The ℰffin' D!
Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" That's what I'm thinking. I'm like...he's ... [snip!] ... Lol I know but I would want to. Comparing him to "normal" children just isn't fair or good for his self esteem."


I know. I try NEVER to do that. I guess she thinks because he's not autistic or isn't diagnosed as SN yet, he should be like other kids. But he's not.