i know how you feel :( i've only been a stay at home mom for about 4 months and i sometimes go crazy. already am today because i had a lot of cleaning and a very cranky teething baby. plus im not going to even see SO for another 4 hours or so.
<blockquote><b>Quoting KyliesMommy2012:</b>" I am not saying I'm SOOOO overwhelmed that I just sit her and leave her alone lol. I'm just saying, sometimes, ... [snip!] ... gets home too. Obviously I'm not the only one who needs a second, but if you don't get that way at all, MORE POWER TO YOU. :)"</blockquote>
No I understand. I wasn't being judgmental or condescending. I promise. If i came off that way, i apologize. I think I'm a special case. I have a friend that actually thinks I'm too attached to DS and that's why i love it so much. :oops:
But I do get quiet time for a little while after DH gets home, so maybe that helps.
I will fully admit I am not SAHM material.. It drives me nuts!
<blockquote><b>Quoting KyliesMommy2012:</b>" :!: Sometimes I just need a long shower hahaha. That's all i'm trying to get at. Not saying I need days or hours away. Just a shower would be wonderful. "</blockquote>
I totally get what your saying. ive only been away from dd overnight once. or twice and she is 4 next weekend. i love.my baby girl but damn. it sometimes i need to just breath and do something without having to worry about what shes getting into or having her follow me everywhere lol i have a whole new appreciation for uninterrupted showers lol
Quoting Angel's (Army) Wifey:" Maybe try to make Mommy friends? Or playdates? Nothing wrong with a breather, but when they get older they will follow you around so there is no escape! :evil:"
ain't that the truth.
i have a girl who will be three in a month and a son who is 8 months.
kal follows me everywhere.
when go for a smoke she needs to come outside.
thank god it's getting warmer here and i just try and stay outside now.
we have a trampoline that my daughter LOVES and i just put dev in his bumbo chair.
BUT my house is a damn mess. ugh.
Every SAHM needs a breather, it's what's best for you, your child, and your relationship with your spouse. Letting a 7 month old pitch a fit when you know nothing is wrong and they don't need something while you take a couple minutes in the next room isn't a bad thing, it's a necessary thing some days! Better to collect yourself and then go back to being the good mommy than to get overwhelmed while dealing with baby. -And they can feel what you feel so try to stay chilled out. When my 3yr old was little and right before Daddy came home from work, I'd start supper while she had her play time (exersaucer, bed play time, swing time) just kept the monitor close :) while I cooked I'd have a simple glass of wine, or if you don't drink chocolate, and I relaxed a bit before supper. It made the evenings so much more peaceful than having a stressed out mommy and a tired from being at work daddy and a needy baby. We all had cooler heads.
Try play dates with other SAHM! It's wonderful!!
I think with a first baby, it can be very difficult to adjust to 24/7 baby time. It's gotten easier .. or i have more patience/tolerance with baby #3, but everyone needs a break sometimes. Back in the early days when my 5 year old was a baby, the hubby would take the baby after he got home from work so i could go and get a coffee and clear my head a bit. There are still days i go and have a coffee break after Dh gets home from work if it's been an especially long day with screaming toddlers. ;)
The friends issue -- I think you'll see that the friends you had before might not end up being the friends you have after you've had the baby. You probably don't have a lot in common your friends who don't have children. They're still basically kids themselves having fun, partying,etc. They just don't understand the responsibility yet. Eventually, you'll start making friends with moms who have kids. The park is a really good place to meet other moms too. They also have library story time and they might have local parenting groups in your area.
As far as the guilt goes, I remember it being a lot worse than it is now. I love my kids and all. But now when i get a break from them, I know they're fine and they're busy driving someone else nuts for a little while (muhahaha) It's also easier when the kids are a little older. Babies are hard to leave.
Quoting andrea&kali +:" ain't that the truth. i have a girl who will be three in a month and a son who is 8 months. kal follows ... [snip!] ... now. we have a trampoline that my daughter LOVES and i just put dev in his bumbo chair. lol. BUT my house is a damn mess. ugh."
Haha thats cute. Mine are 6yr and 8yr old and are my shadows. I go the bathroom 2 sec later *knock knock* "mom!" "yes" "can we have or do ___?" "yes where is your Dad?" "He's on the couch, but I want you to do it." :x
Quoting Angel's (Army) Wifey:" Haha thats cute. Mine are 6yr and 8yr old and are my shadows. I go the bathroom 2 sec later *knock knock* ... [snip!] ... *knock knock* "mom!" "yes" "can we have or do ___?" "yes where is your Dad?" "He's on the couch, but I want you to do it." :x"
My youngest (18 months) started pulling up the stool when i was in the bathroom and pretends to go potty. He even pretends to wipe with invisible toilet paper. It's so cute. :D I can't remember the last time i was allowed to be in the bathroom by myself without a crowd of kids in there. :)
Quoting Summerfrost:" My youngest (18 months) started pulling up the stool when i was in the bathroom and pretends to go potty. ... [snip!] ... so cute. :D I can't remember the last time i was allowed to be in the bathroom by myself without a crowd of kids in there. :)"
Awww so sweet! If I can get in and out without being interrupted it's a major accomplishment. :D