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Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" ....Anywhere my child goes the rules regarding his safety are going to follow. Just because we are ... [snip!] ... Just because we are at my parents house, it doesn't mean they can care for my son however they choose. That's not stupid, IMO."


I completely agree with you, they should not let your DH nephew hit the child without telling him what he did was wrong blah blah blah.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5767 posts
19th Apr '13

I would stop taking him over for awhile. If they ask why they haven't seen him just say that they are not respecting your way of parenting and are being very disrespectful so to avoid issues, you aren't going over until they respect your ways. Just because someone has 4 kids, doesn't mean they know what's best or right for yours. That's like them telling you that their child wasn't allergic to something so neither should yours be

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:" I disagree with this. If another child hurts my infant, I am going to tell them they were wrong and yell at them to get down, ESPECIALLY if they are my family!"


Exactly!! I don't care who you are if you hurt my infant I will get on to you ESPECIALLY if you are family and have been told several times!

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53720 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" ....Anywhere my child goes the rules regarding his safety are going to follow. Just because we are ... [snip!] ... Just because we are at my parents house, it doesn't mean they can care for my son however they choose. That's not stupid, IMO."


Caring for your child and trying to enforce rules on a child that isn't yours are totally different. You walk into someone else's house and get your panties in a bunch because your nephew is too rough and doesn't listen. He isn't your child, you have no say in how he is raised.



Stop bringing your son over like one of your family members said. It will save you a lot of "disrespect." Idk why you keep doing the same actions expecting different results. It's idiotic.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting supa~~fly:" Exactly!! I don't care who you are if you hurt my infant I will get on to you ESPECIALLY if you are family and have been told several times! "


Plus, at 6 years old he knows that hurting a baby is wrong! Its not like he is 1 -2 years old!

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" ....Anywhere my child goes the rules regarding his safety are going to follow. Just because we are ... [snip!] ... Just because we are at my parents house, it doesn't mean they can care for my son however they choose. That's not stupid, IMO."

i also agree with this....i still have things i don't want dd to try...and i worry about her when she goes to other peoples houses especially without me being there! but at least if your nephew goes over to your house you would be able to say "hey, my house my rules"

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" Caring for your child and trying to enforce rules on a child that isn't yours are totally different. ... [snip!] ... It will save you a lot of "disrespect." Idk why you keep doing the same actions expecting different results. It's idiotic."


When was I trying to enforce rules for a child that isn't mine? My father, the owner of the house, tells my nephew to not get on the chair when the baby is in the chair. We lived in the house for the first 2 months of my sons life, so that was my sons home and my nephew was told then....not to climb on the chair. The rule isn't going to change simply because my son doesn't reside there any longer. That's a pretty idiotic way to look at it.



I'm not expecting a say in how he is raised, but when he elbows my son in the face after he was told not to be on the chair multiple times...I have a right to get my panties in a bunch.



Also, I did not post this looking for advice.

Mommy*Allie* 2 kids; New York 110 posts
19th Apr '13

Sometimes distancing yourself and your child from other family members can go a long way. If you feel he isn't safe then its your responsibility as his mother to get him out of there and keep him safe. Picking up or son and walking out can make a stronger statement than an argument.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Mommy*Allie*:" Sometimes distancing yourself and your child from other family members can go a long way. If you feel ... [snip!] ... to get him out of there and keep him safe. Picking up or son and walking out can make a stronger statement than an argument."


Which is exactly what I did. My parents love my son to death. So, hopefully, me keeping him at home can make my mother and everyone else see that I am serious.

Alyssa Marie Smith Due December 1; 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 193 posts
19th Apr '13

My cosuins are 8 and five, Rylie, the youngest shares a birthday with my son. She held him when he was a few weeks old (i have adoarble pics of that) she was four at the time and they both listened to me when i said "if you wanna hold Ben please wash your hands really good then come sit with him" i was very protective because he was five weeks early born with breathing issues, he was still grunting with each breath. They went washed their hands and Rylie came over sat down, held out her arms and held Ben for a good ten minutes. when he was fussing she said, "Benny is sad" and i took him back. they know my rules are my rules



ur family needs to teach that boy that he needs to behave. dont take LO over....EVER. i would probably go far as threatening them with not bring LO to any family function unless its at ur house. god that story made me mad too

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Alyssa Marie Smith:" My cosuins are 8 and five, Rylie, the youngest shares a birthday with my son. She held him when he was ... [snip!] ... go far as threatening them with not bring LO to any family function unless its at ur house. god that story made me mad too"


I don't think he did it on purpose, but...The fact that he was careless(even though he's been told countless times to be easy around the baby) and the fact that he didn't listen is what upset me. Even though....My mother and sister both claim that "He's 5...not 15. He's not going to listen..." And hell! My baby was bawling, of course I was going to be upset.....But what set me off was the fact that IMMEDIATELY excuses were made. It was DHs fault for playing with him...He was knocking my nephew around with this bag and even though my nephew was smiling and laughing about it...He randomly jumped up and started whining...to climb in the chair. So, the excuse was "he only did it to protect himself" as if he was being abused or something. Every person was at fault, except for my nephew.......



So, I'm just going to keep DS at home with me. That's the only solution to the problem, as mean as that may sound. I'm allowed to protect my son, regardless of where we are.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I don't think he did it on purpose, but...The fact that he was careless(even though he's been told countless ... [snip!] ... That's the only solution to the problem, as mean as that may sound. I'm allowed to protect my son, regardless of where we are."


its not mean, don't feel bad. I would be livid, hell im still kinda livid about the situation and its not even my situation lol. Your protecting your child because they were not (in a sense atleast) A 5/6 year old is old enough to learn and his mother needs to be disciplining him for not listening. Like holy shit if every parent was just like "Oh, he/she is 5/6 their not gonna listen anyway so why try?" We'd be in a hell of a lot of trouble.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Brantley + 1:" its not mean, don't feel bad. I would be livid, hell im still kinda livid about the situation and its ... [snip!] ... parent was just like "Oh, he/she is 5/6 their not gonna listen anyway so why try?" We'd be in a hell of a lot of trouble. "


Exactly!! But I'm just batshit crazy for thinking that a 5 1/2 year old should have rules and consistent discipline....It may not be any of my business, but when it comes to my son....I'm going to say something!

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 2723 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I don't think he did it on purpose, but...The fact that he was careless(even though he's been told countless ... [snip!] ... That's the only solution to the problem, as mean as that may sound. I'm allowed to protect my son, regardless of where we are."


Its not an excuse, he IS five. They were trying to explain childhood development. Five year olds get overly enthusiastic and forget sometimes.



No offense but people who have only infants make me LOL sometimes. "When my child is five, they will follow all the rules, all the time"



SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
19th Apr '13
Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:" Its not an excuse, he IS five. They were trying to explain childhood development. Five year olds get ... [snip!] ... who have only infants make me LOL sometimes. "When my child is five, they will follow all the rules, all the time" "


Oh don't get me wrong. My son will act out, every child does. I'm not someone who is naive enough to think my boy will be perfect. He'll do things he shouldn't and I'm sure there will be times he won't listen. But just because he is 5 it does not give him the right away to ignore what is being told to him, without consequence and I won't excuse his behavior as just being a child. If every parent of a 5 year old just said, "He's 5, he shouldn't have to listen because he doesn't have the mental capacity to do so...", then there would be a hell of a lot of disrespectful hellions running around.