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No idea what to do! lokaloca Due June 9 (girl); 1 child; Massachusetts 3 posts
20th Apr '13

My boyfriend has been getting to me...BAD. Not sure if it's because of the pregnancy or because he's just clueless. The things he says just irritate me...even the tiny things he does..like move an item of mine..even if it's just a foot away! I was thinking maybe time apart til the baby comes? Feedback?

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
20th Apr '13

Sounds like you just need a breather. I would say that the problem lies more with you than him (maybe hormones), if you're getting that upset over something so little. Take a time-out and gather your thoughts before talking to him.

lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA* 21 kids; Sherwood, Arkansas 17987 posts
20th Apr '13

I had the same feeling with each one of my past pregnancies. Around 7-8 months I got so irritable and angry that I ended up kicking out my SO at the time for a while. I would recommend trying to stay calm and possible take a day here and there away where you can get a break but don't do anything rash!

Rachel Whalen 1 child; New York 406 posts
20th Apr '13

im going thru a similer problem me and my boyfriend were great till I got pregnant now he is a total jerk. he says things that r really mean and hurt my feelings hes not really interested in the baby or pregnancy my parents even said they will fix up my room so we can live together when shes born til we get our own place and he doesn't even want too he said. im just so hurt by him and now im at the end I really think we are not going to last anymore it sucks to say it but im so upset hes a 43 yr old man also and is acting like a child how can the man I love turn into such an a*****e all of a sudden it sucks but try to hold on till after the pregnancy maybe he will stop irritating you so much that's what im trying to do

Smash Fins ; 2 kids; Denver, Colorado 1292 posts
20th Apr '13

I think it's just your horomones. Just take it one step at a time or do couples theropy.

lokaloca Due June 9 (girl); 1 child; Massachusetts 3 posts
20th Apr '13

No idea if I seem like a crazy person for getting mad when he states the obvious like when he says "after the baby *makes a deflate sound*" over my b**bs..or says they're getting bigger..like in my head he wants them big and isn't okay with how they were before...overthinking?? I don't know. I already said it bothers me but he keeps on with it.:shock:

the BEAST Wisconsin 15638 posts
20th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:</b>" Sounds like you just need a breather. I would say that the problem lies more with you than him (maybe ... [snip!] ... if you're getting that upset over something so little. Take a time-out and gather your thoughts before talking to him."</blockquote>




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Agree. I have days like that where every little thing annoys me (even the way DH puts things on the table at dinner time). I tell him to leave for a while or I go into another room and read, watch TV something to just get away. I don't leave bc I don't want to drive when I'm THAT pissed off, especially over something little.

lokaloca Due June 9 (girl); 1 child; Massachusetts 3 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting Rachel Whalen:" im going thru a similer problem me and my boyfriend were great till I got pregnant now he is a total ... [snip!] ... it sucks but try to hold on till after the pregnancy maybe he will stop irritating you so much that's what im trying to do"


Holding on is so difficult! Plus the craziness can linger even after the baby is born.

Kirstin Lauman Due August 1 (boy); 1 child; Oregon 8 posts
20th Apr '13

It's your hormones nothing more, I feel you though I'm pregnant as well and there are things my husband does that grinds on my nerves. And it's sad because most the time it's nothing to get upset about. Time apart I don't think will help out any, it may make thinks complicated.