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... Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16186 posts
20th Apr '13
ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
20th Apr '13

Don't push her, kids will potty train when they are ready. DD didn't potty train until two weeks before her 3rd birthday, when she was ready

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
20th Apr '13

If she isn't ready she isn't ready. I Know it's frustrating but it will happen when she is ready for it. Trying to force It before she's ready (and she is obviously not ready) is probably actually causing more delay than help.



Besides, the average age for children to potty train is actually between 3 and 4, so really she's not behind or anything. Just give it a rest for a while and see if she starts to show interest again after a few months.

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
20th Apr '13

heh i got past the "will be turning three in july" part and lol'd.

meggg+J,B&L♥ 3 kids; Nasinu, Fiji 16900 posts
20th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting cunning cuniculi:</b>" heh i got past the "will be turning three in july" part and lol'd. "</blockquote>




Me too hahah

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16186 posts
20th Apr '13

thats what i keep telling everyone "she is only two, she has time" but at the same time it really bothers me that she will sit in her own feces for hours if i let her and just not care about it. i mean, she HAS to feel/know that there is something wrong there...it makes me feel like she will never even know when it is time because she doesnt seem to know the difference in a clean diaper vs a dirty one. :(

user banned 17 kids; Boston, MA, United States 9473 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting Fusselinchen:" thats what i keep telling everyone "she is only two, she has time" but at the same time it really bothers ... [snip!] ... she will never even know when it is time because she doesnt seem to know the difference in a clean diaper vs a dirty one. :("


yeahhh i would hold her down and change a dirty diaper. thats not good for her. shes not ready so it wont bother her, logan is the same way. (4 in august) but seriously, kinda gross to have her running around in a shit diaper for a couple hours.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
20th Apr '13

She will when she's ready. Don't push her. My daughter didn't Potty Train until she turned 4!

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16186 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting cunning cuniculi:" yeahhh i would hold her down and change a dirty diaper. thats not good for her. shes not ready so it ... [snip!] ... is the same way. (4 in august) but seriously, kinda gross to have her running around in a shit diaper for a couple hours. "


yea obviously thats what i do when i see that she has a dirty diaper. i gave her about 15mins ONCE to see if she would notice that her diaper is dirty, but she doesnt do anything. no reaction what so ever. and when i ask her she tells me no.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting Fusselinchen:" yea obviously thats what i do when i see that she has a dirty diaper. i gave her about 15mins ONCE ... [snip!] ... notice that her diaper is dirty, but she doesnt do anything. no reaction what so ever. and when i ask her she tells me no."

My daughter was the same. She is 3.5 and just potty trained but every few weeks she has like 2-3 days where she has tons of accidents then she is great for a few weeks then back to accidents. Just let it go. She will let you know when she is ready. She wont be in diapers forever.

Tyler and AJ's Mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Indianapolis, Indiana 15365 posts
20th Apr '13

I feel your pain! My oldest is 4 and not fully trained. We tried a number of times with no luck and finally just before his last bday we put him in real training pants and after the first accident he started peeing on the potty all the time when we are home. We had noticed he would pause and sometime cross his legs when he needed to go. He is just starting to tell us when he needs to go while we are out (he wears pull ups when we go out) and we are still really struggling with pooping. Sometimes i feel like he will never get it and its embarrassing when we are out and he poops. Hang in there and keep trying!

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16186 posts
20th Apr '13

well, all you guys definitely made me feel much better about it all!
thanks you!!! :)

2 little blessings 34 kids; Fort Bragg, North Carolina 2610 posts
22nd Apr '13

We used the diaper free effort 3 method. My son is 23 months and fully day potty trained. We've been at it consistently for 2 and a half months. Sounds harsh but I do not believe in the wait till their ready. After some of the research I've done about potty training and diaper companies it doesn't add up.With my son when we first started I set a timer every 30 minutes I never asked him if he wanted to go potty. I said Matthew its time to go potty. If he was playing or watching cartoons he could kick and scream and I let him. I reassured him that after we went potty he could go play again. As the days went on we set the time back to 35,40,45,50,55 an hour or of course if I saw him squirming. I don't believe in treating him for something that he has to do so we don't do treats. He wears cotton underpants or cloth pocket diapers without the insert. We go out in public in cotton undies even if he had an accident I'd change him and we'd be on our way. When he had an accident there was no yelling or scolding. I just said its ok but remember you need to tell someone before you have to go potty you have to say I need to potty. About 2 weeks ago he woke up and said mommy i need to go potty. From that point we have not had a accident.




http://www.smartpottytraining.com/book.html

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16186 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting 2 little blessings:" We used the diaper free effort 3 method. My son is 23 months and fully day potty trained. We've been ... [snip!] ... and said mommy i need to go potty. From that point we have not had a accident. http://www.smartpottytraining.com/book.html"



my dad told me to start beating her :roll:
he said back in the day it would have been VERY frowned upon if a child was still in diapers past the age of 2. he says there are children in china her age that have to work, if they can work, she can potty train.
or so he claims...:roll:



and i tried the 3 day potty method consistently for a week before i gave up again, its not happening over here.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Fusselinchen:" my dad told me to start beating her :roll: he said back in the day it would have been VERY frowned ... [snip!] ... and i tried the 3 day potty method consistently for a week before i gave up again, its not happening over here."

Different things work for different children. My 3 year old is stubborn and I refuse to battle my child over sitting on the potty. I will not force them while kicking and screaming. Its just not that big of a deal to me. The whole experience was very positive for her and I. Yes there were bumps and frustrations along the way but this is what worked best for her. Just like kids develop differently in emotional and physical ways they are ready to potty train at different ages. You just have to do whats best for you and your family.