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is your dh/so affectionate? Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
20th Apr '13

How does he show you he loves you? What about in public?



I honestly feel like dh doesn't love me.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 117295 posts
status 20th Apr '13

He didnt used to be, he wasnt loved on as a child and he only saw his parents fight so it was something I had to teach him. He didnt understand it at first. But now he is. He shows me he loves me with kind words, thoughtful things and affection.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
20th Apr '13

He's not a big fan on PDA, but we do cuddle and kiss a lot in private.

Adan's Mama :) 1 child; Phenix City, Alabama 457 posts
20th Apr '13

SO is super affectionate, in public and at home, but im not. Im more affectionate at home than in public. Has your SO given any reaaon for you to feel this way?

Princess Celestia +1 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3636 posts
20th Apr '13

Yes. He'll hold my hand, kiss me, hold me by my side... in and out of public view.



Does he not touch you at all? Some people just aren't naturally 'touchy feely', especially in public... I'm kind of weird about PDA as well.

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
20th Apr '13

DH has always been handsy :lol: In public and not.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5652 posts
status 20th Apr '13

He tells me he loves me all day long. I think its in part that his parents did not love him, were very physically abusive to him etc... so he always wanted to feel love so now he over compensates a little in a way? In public he likes to hold my hand, stroke my hair, kiss my cheek etc... He tells me Im pretty/beautiful every day. He also tells me he likes my b**bs every day lol

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
20th Apr '13

I wonder if my husband feels this way. I'm not affectionate at alllllll.. I hate cuddling and kissing and hand holding. He is always poking me and rubbing my arms and I think it's soooooooo f**king annoying :oops: I show love by cleaning and cooking his favorite meals and buying him stuff at the store and surprising him with a gift he likes. I'm not touchy feely at all, almost cold :oops::cry:

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
20th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Adan's Mama :):</b>" SO is super affectionate, in public and at home, but im not. Im more affectionate at home than in public. Has your SO given any reaaon for you to feel this way?"</blockquote>




He only touches me when he wants sex. Like right now I'm sitting on the couch... where is he? In his chair. I have to before him to cuddle. I had an anxiety attack last night and just wanted to be held and he played his game. He didn't come near me at our baby shower today. ... he only tells me he loves me when I say it first or when he is leaving.. or were getting off the phone. :(

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
20th Apr '13

He tells me everyday at least once, he holds my hand, tries to kiss me in public on the lips or cheek, he wears his ring everyday, he likes to surprise me w flowers for no reason or something i need but wont buy myself bc i dont like spending for me need or not, when he leaves/comes home he makes sure to kiss me. I'm the opposite- his family is affectionate mine was/is not. He had to teach me how to show PDA/love. We cuddle a lot on the couch n in bed it still makes visits w my family uncomfortable bc they don't show any affection/love in front of anyone but I grew up w seeing that. I won't put my kids through that. They deserve to see love and affection and not be afraid of expressing it.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
20th Apr '13

He had to be taught. Growing up he never had positive physical love and didn't know how to express it. Now the man is mr handsy :D

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting ♥Love♥:" He tells me he loves me all day long. I think its in part that his parents did not love him, were very ... [snip!] ... my hair, kiss my cheek etc... He tells me Im pretty/beautiful every day. He also tells me he likes my b**bs every day lol"


Dh tells me multiple times a day he loves me.
He'll just yell it to me in another room randomly :P



LOL about your b**bs :lol:

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 117295 posts
status 20th Apr '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I wonder if my husband feels this way. I'm not affectionate at alllllll.. I hate cuddling and kissing ... [snip!] ... and buying him stuff at the store and surprising him with a gift he likes. I'm not touchy feely at all, almost cold :oops::cry:"


different people respond to love differently. There is a book called the 5 love languages. affection is only one language. he may not feel unloved because you arent affectionate.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4314 posts
20th Apr '13

Posts like these shows my relationship is pretty messed up...



SO and I rarely ever kiss, hug or even i say i love you. Cuddle maybe once a month (sometimes not even). The only compliments i get are "Hey you did a good job cleaning (insert room)" I constantly get ridiculed on how much of a shitty mother i am.

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
20th Apr '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" Posts like these shows my relationship is pretty messed up... SO and I rarely ever kiss, hug or even ... [snip!] ... i get are "Hey you did a good job cleaning (insert room)" I constantly get ridiculed on how much of a shitty mother i am."


*hugs* I am so sorry hun. Have you ever talked to him about how he makes you feel?