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Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49484 posts
Apr 20th '13

He isn't a big fan of PDA, we hold hands, he'll hug me....but we don't make out or anything.



At home, it's an entirely different situation. He won't leave me alone lol.

Adan's Mama :) 1 child; Phenix City, Alabama 457 posts
Apr 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Adan's Mama :):</b>" SO is super affectionate, in public and ... [snip!] ... shower today. ... he only tells me he loves me when I say it first or when he is leaving.. or were getting off the phone. :("</blockquote>




Have you talked to him about it? Told him how you feel? He may not know that he needs to show you he loves you in a pjysical manifestation. Like a lot of people have said he may need to be taught how to show you he loves you. If you havent talked to him you should, he wont know what you need unless you tell him.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4691 posts
Apr 20th '13
Quoting Moses.:" *hugs* I am so sorry hun. Have you ever talked to him about how he makes you feel?"


Yeah hundreds of times. I tell him that i really cant stand being in a relationship with him anymore. Then he pulls out how im gonna f**k up our Daughters life

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
Apr 20th '13

DH dances with me all the time, doesn't matter where we are. He also holds my hand. Then at home we cuddle and kiss :).

Vivian Due August 26; 2 kids; Austin, TX, United States 14245 posts
status Apr 20th '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" different people respond to love differently. There is a book called the 5 love languages. affection is only one language. he may not feel unloved because you arent affectionate."


We actually read the book and took the quizzes online during a rough spot in our marriage. Out of 12, how he needs and shows affection, he scored an 11 for physical touch. I scored a 2. I needed love shown to me by acts of service, like helping around the house. We were so opposite :cry: I try to touch him at least once a day, it's so incredibly hard for me, no idea why. My parents were very loving and not in an overbearing way at all. I'm extremely affectionate to my kids, I kiss them and hug them all day, just can't seem to do that with any man I dated, including DH.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
Apr 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" Posts like these shows my relationship is pretty messed up... SO and I rarely ever kiss, hug or even ... [snip!] ... i get are "Hey you did a good job cleaning (insert room)" I constantly get ridiculed on how much of a shitty mother i am."</blockquote>




I feel ya!



I know my marriage is failing. I love him so much but I know deep down he doesn't love me. :(

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
Apr 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Adan's Mama :):</b>" SO is super affectionate, in public and ... [snip!] ... shower today. ... he only tells me he loves me when I say it first or when he is leaving.. or were getting off the phone. :("</blockquote>




Do u tell him straight out what you want though? Or is it like subtle hints? Maybe if u could initiate the cuddling, hand holding, kissy faceyness he'll get it and react back?

Vivian Due August 26; 2 kids; Austin, TX, United States 14245 posts
status Apr 20th '13
Quoting ♥Love♥:" Its funny but he will just walk past me and say "nice b**bs" or He will be like I want to tell you something, ... [snip!] ... you something, I like your b**bs, they're hot. hahahaha. I guess its because he has never seen any other b**bs besides mine?"


DH is an ass man :lol: He is always hitting my butt. I think if he were a b**b man and hit my b**b, right now he'd get squirted :lol:

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4691 posts
Apr 20th '13
Quoting Juliette:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" Posts like these shows my relationship is ... [snip!] ... I feel ya! I know my marriage is failing. I love him so much but I know deep down he doesn't love me. :("



I cant stand my SO. Its a consistent cycle of bullshit.

Dragon Queen Salem, OR, United States 9936 posts
Apr 20th '13

Ha, no not really. He'll kiss and tell me he loves me but that's it. And it's not allll of the time. Of course, my DH has his own issues and he shows me he loves me in his own way. Talk to your guy.

one of each 4 me TTC since Jan 2015; 3 kids; Ohio 6294 posts
Apr 20th '13

My husband is. I find it kind of annoying bc I like my space.

♥Love♥ 1 child; 2 angel babies; California 10382 posts
status Apr 20th '13
Quoting Juliette:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" Posts like these shows my relationship is ... [snip!] ... I feel ya! I know my marriage is failing. I love him so much but I know deep down he doesn't love me. :("

Have you seen the movie Fireproof? Its old but I saw it recently and really liked it. Its the movie about the "love dare"

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
Apr 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting DifferentDay:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Adan's Mama ... [snip!] ... Or is it like subtle hints? Maybe if u could initiate the cuddling, hand holding, kissy faceyness he'll get it and react back?"</blockquote>




I've talked to him about it several times. It doesn't change anything. I initiate things, he doesn't go with it. Ill say, come cuddle with me, he says I'm not ready for bed yet or I want to sit in my chair. :/

Arks Mama! ಠ_ಠ 1 child; Utah 2401 posts
Apr 20th '13

DH is very affectionate, very cheesy. I love it. :)
He'll randomly say you're beautiful, and says I love you all of the time.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
Apr 20th '13

My SO doesn't show me affection... I sometimes don't think he loves me but I know he does.