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Leaving Children at a Party Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3303 posts
21st Apr '13

So my DD is 3, will be four in August and she was invited to a birthday party for a child at her daycare.



It was at an indoor playcentre. Slides, ropes, climbers that kind of thing. The space wasn't rented out soley for the party, it was the party as well as other people who had come to play.



The party mom was not able to keep an eye on ALL 20 children in such a crowded place so most parents stayed and watched their own 3/4 year old.



Some parents didn't however. They left the child at the front door and came back in two hours.



I am aware though that DD is my first so maybe I am over protective.



What age do you think its appropriate to leave your child alone at a birthday party? In what setting?

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3308 posts
21st Apr '13

My oldest is 8 and I would still have a hard time leaving him at a party (in a public place, a house party would be different). But I'd probably be considered one of those crazy "helicopter" parents. *shrugs*

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
21st Apr '13

last year at our nieces party when this happened I was like :shock: then as the party went on and the parents who were there did nothing but sit on their butts I thought, hrmmm....why do we need to be here? Its a great way to get 2 hour of shopping done, some r & r or some nookie :) :)



I think I would do it when I know he'll be comfortable with out us. Could be any age, but at 3.5 he is not ready yet.

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7276 posts
21st Apr '13

If it were a family member or close friend who was throwing the party I would be fine. But if it were just a kid from her school I would be nervous

Smash Fins ; 2 kids; Denver, Colorado 1292 posts
21st Apr '13

I'm always friends with the parents so I stay at the parties to talk to them.



I honestly don't know what I would do if I wasn't a friend with the parent.

Andie. 3 kids; Oregon 7883 posts
21st Apr '13

I won't even do that with my 11 year old yet. I do sit away from the party usually, but I stay in the building. I hate when people do that to me, I really don't want to be responsible for all those kids in a public place. So I don't do it to them.

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3303 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" last year at our nieces party when this happened I was like :shock: then as the party went on and the ... [snip!] ... :) :) I think I would do it when I know he'll be comfortable with out us. Could be any age, but at 3.5 he is not ready yet. "


Haha!
Thats what I said to DH, it was our anniversary!

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
21st Apr '13

I let DD1 go with my stepmom to my step-niece's birthday party when she was 2 without me(I don't get along with my stepsister to put it nicely, but knew DD1 would have fun with the other kids and likes my stepsister's daughter so felt wrong to hold her back). I was okay with it since my stepmom was taking her and knew it was her job to watch her. If they had told me if I could just drop her off that would have been a no-go. I don't think I'd be okay leaving a child at a party until they're at least 8, and even that would partly depend on if it's a public setting or home setting.

Lauralie89 3 kids; Pennsylvania 2244 posts
21st Apr '13

Id worry too much. What if my son got hurt? What if he went missing? Being mixed up with so many kids it could easily happen. But I always put "what if" scenarios in my head lol

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3303 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Lauralie89:" Id worry too much. What if my son got hurt? What if he went missing? Being mixed up with so many kids it could easily happen. But I always put "what if" scenarios in my head lol"


So do I.



There is just like a front door that leads outside. I mean obviously you would hope staff would notice but who knows?

~Mommyof3girls1boy~ Due October 5 (boy); 3 kids; Ohio 2686 posts
21st Apr '13

3 or 4? Hell no! I'm too over protective and worrisome to leave my 4 and 5 year old's alone lol Maybe when they're 11 or 12....maybe ;)

one of each 4 me Due January 8; TTC since Mar 2014; 3 kids; Ohio 6201 posts
21st Apr '13

at a public setting like that i would watch. my daughter is 8 and went to a party at the ymca. i sat in my car until they were going to the pool then went and watched. she's not a strong swimmer so i wanted to keep an eye on her there. i knew it would be hard for the lady who was running the party to watch all the kids.
if it was at someone's house i wouldn't stay probably.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
21st Apr '13

Honestly I don't know how old is appropriate to leave my child at party without me. I think it would depend on the circumstances. My children are only 4 and 5 years old and I wouldn't leave them alone at a party at their age especially at a public establishment. I also wouldn't leave them at someone's house without me if there was a pool involved. Also, my 4 year old is a busy body and very curious so I wouldn't leave him alone with someone else because I would feel guilty

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27181 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Lumen.Ash:" I'm always friends with the parents so I stay at the parties to talk to them. I honestly don't know what I would do if I wasn't a friend with the parent. "


Yup, you stayed at Lils party :) (I actually found some of my favorite pics of Tony and Lily the other day, it was from that first birthday party that you went to... her 4th I think? Maybe 3rd? Ash was a baby... I'll give you the pics if you want).



If I'm friends with the parents they usually stay, or I will stay. I honestly haven't had Lily gone to many parties with people I don't know. I was a nervous wreck leaving her at one party because I dont like the parents but like the grandparents. She came home soaking wet (I was not told they would be playing in the sprinklers) and ruined an expensive pair of leather moccasins. I was pissed to be honest.



I don't care if people leave their kid with me at her parties, I tell them to go shop or do whatever. I keep an eye on all of them and have fun. If they were hell-children I probably wouldn't invite them anyways, lol.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5990 posts
21st Apr '13

My two oldest 10 &7 were dropped off at their first party today. I knew the parents and my boys were together. 3 is far too young to be left at a party.