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Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" Are you kidding? I really hope you're kidding. If you treat your husband like that he'll be wanting out ... [snip!] ... therapist they will tell you immediately that it's extremely healthy and even necessary for everyone to have their own time. "


Seriously. I love to meet my friend for coffee even if it's only once a month and my old co-workers and I try to get together for dinner once in awhile and I would have so much resentment and anger towards my fiance if he tried to deny me of that. I am a mother and I am with him but I am also a person and I need social interaction with other people my age once in awhile.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" Nope you have evey eit to be pissed I refuse to let my hubby hangout with friends without the kids and ... [snip!] ... to be with you and the kids when he is off isnt right and id sit him down and tell him how your feeling cause its not right"


...why don't you take turns if you both want time away? My husband watches the kids one day while I go out and then he will go out the next, etc. Everyone needs time away from the kids AND their spouses otherwise you get burnt out and resentful.

Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Conservative MAMA:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Derp:</b>" Does he not make time for you guys at all? Honestly, ... [snip!] ... He does not have weekends off.. He works 7 days/week and when he is home it's like he's not even here because he's doing work."

He's just trying to provide for you guys.



Look, I understand what it's like because my husband is gone a lot. In fact, he's about to be gone for a whole year. He leaves in July but we only have three weeks total together before I don't see him for an entire year. Why is this? Because he's working to provide security for our family. Even though he's going to be leaving soon I wouldn't dream of telling him how to spend his time. We're making the most of our time together but even then I totally understand if he wants to go out.



I mean hell, if he's working seven days a week and then some it's no wonder he wants a break from everything. I don't know what your husband does but most people don't work that long forever. Chances are he'll end up having more time soon enough and that's when he'll be able to spend more time with you guys. Until then just be glad he's willing to work that much to provide for you. I know it seems like it doesn't mean anything now but once it's better in a few years you'll understand.

mommy to C, B and F 19 kids; 1 angel baby; Escondido, California 1175 posts
21st Apr '13

Ok to everyone giving me shit let me put a little more detail in for you my dh never even lets me take a shower during the day cause of the kids ive tried to give him time alone but hes away from them 3/4 of the time so he doesnt need time from them plus im with them 24/7 im also pregnant I also dont have a car cause he refuses to take his motorcycle to work or school now and when we do go out its always with his friends never my friend cause he doesnt like her and doesnt give me a real reason he doesnt do house work unless I b***h I cook clean take care of kids all by my self he won't let me do stuff for my self alone unless I up and just leave saying im getting my hair cut or something but dont get me wrong hes a great guy but you can see why I push him being wih the kids whens hes off and when he is when were out he takes care of them along with his mom so ya dont b***h unless you know it all

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26141 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" Ok to everyone giving me shit let me put a little more detail in for you my dh never even lets me take ... [snip!] ... whens hes off and when he is when were out he takes care of them along with his mom so ya dont b***h unless you know it all"


Hold up little miss priss. "Don't b***h unless you know it all?" Well you never said all that, did you? You asked us a f**king question, "Should I be pissed or jealous?" Why as a question if you can't put big girl panties on and listen to the answer. Just because he works doesn't mean he doesnt need time away from them... we ALL have the right to get some time away from our kids. Do you work? If you are bitching because you don't have a car and such, what are you doing to fix the situation? If you don't want to go out with his friends, why do you tag along? Why don't you get a friend to come get you and he can go with his friends. And if he won't "let" you do anything by yourself or something for yourself... why the hell are you with him? If he won't clean up after his ass like an adult... why are you with him?



So next time you want to post a rant, don't become a haggard little ass because you don't like the answer. Maybe he wants to get away from you because of that reason alone. "What would you like for dinner?" "I don't know honey, maybe chicken?" "WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS MAKING ME COOK WHY DONT YOU COOK YOURSELF!" I can see you bitching like that... but YOU asked the question, don't fly off the handle because you don't like the answer.

.:Stacy Renee:. 19 kids; Ohio 6509 posts
21st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:</b>" Ok to everyone giving me shit let me put a little more detail in for you my dh never even lets me take ... [snip!] ... whens hes off and when he is when were out he takes care of them along with his mom so ya dont b***h unless you know it all"</blockquote>




Sounds like an extremely miserable marriage, for both of you.

mommy to C, B and F 19 kids; 1 angel baby; Escondido, California 1175 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Hold up little miss priss. ver said all that, did you? ... [snip!] ... I can see you bitching like that... but YOU asked the question, don't fly off the handle because you don't like the answer."</blockquote>




Haha im not the OP again knows the facts before you b***h

mommy to C, B and F 19 kids; 1 angel baby; Escondido, California 1175 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:Stacy Renee:.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:</b>" Ok to everyone giving me shit ... [snip!] ... so ya dont b***h unless you know it all"</blockquote> Sounds like an extremely miserable marriage, for both of you."</blockquote>




We actually have a great marriage but yes we have areas we need to work on like everyone but this post isnt even about me so why dont you all read the OP and not mine my post was for the OP not all of you

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26141 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Hold up little miss priss. ver said all ... [snip!] ... the handle because you don't like the answer."</blockquote> Haha im not the OP again knows the facts before you b***h"


I never notice who the OP was but even still, you are a haggard little ass. If you don't want to be all "WAH WAH WAH YOU DONT KNOW THE FACTS" then either shut the f**k up and SAY them, or don't say anything at all. If you don't like what people have to say then don't put your life out there. The internet is a cruel, dark place. Go cuddle in your blankie and rock back and forth...

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26141 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .:Stacy Renee:.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lil ... [snip!] ... everyone but this post isnt even about me so why dont you all read the OP and not mine my post was for the OP not all of you"


Public. Forum.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5; 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Conservative MAMA:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" I would be pissed and jealous! I would ... [snip!] ... let him know that he needs to pick his priorities and fast! What part of MA are you from?"</blockquote> Melrose, you?"

I am in fall river.