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Does this make someone a bad parent? LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16186 posts
21st Apr '13

A friend and I were having a discussion about the city we live in. There are great neighborhoods here as well as terrible neighborhoods. Our jobs as parents is to not only provide for our children (mentally, physically, and emotionally) but it is also to keep them safe. Do you think parents that knowingly live in or move to crime ridden areas are bad parents because they put their child more at risk to violence?

Shannon +4 Due February 16; 52 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 7622 posts
21st Apr '13

I don't know but hubby and I pay about 700$ more each month just to live in the safest areas

[yo.] 1 child; Gayville, South Dakota 13371 posts
21st Apr '13

If its what they can afford then I don't think so

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
21st Apr '13

Not really because you have to live where you can afford to, and for some, that leaves "undesirable" areas.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
21st Apr '13

If they knowingly moved to a dangerous neighborhood with high crime and poor education and had the option of living somewhere else, yes, that would bad parenting IMO. I literally just finished tonight writing a 20 page paper on the damaging effects of growing up in poverty and being exposed to crime ridden and littered neighborhoods. However, that is not the case for most people living in those areas. Many of them can't afford to live anywhere else. For example, I live outside the Philadelphia area. A 3 bedroom house in the worst areas of Philadelphia is only around $650. A one bedroom apartment 20 minutes into the suburbs can go up to $2,000.

GrumpsMama 1 child; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 16073 posts
21st Apr '13

I kinda think so, actually. Because I live in one of the cheapest towns in America and the crime rate is extremely low. It's also how this town was built on train tracks.

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20273 posts
21st Apr '13

If it's all you can afford, and you take safety measureswhile you're there then no. I think it would be worse to try to live above your means in a "better" neighborhood, and struggle and not be able to afford basic necessities.

#1HBIC Japan 134 posts
21st Apr '13

Not at all. It's better than being homeless.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16186 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" If they knowingly moved to a dangerous neighborhood with high crime and poor education and had the option ... [snip!] ... the worst areas of Philadelphia is only around $650. A one bedroom apartment 20 minutes into the suburbs can go up to $2,000. "

That sounds like here in Chicago and I agree. I do know some people that live in crime ridden areas and can afford to live in other places but they are just comfortable where they grew up and wouldn't be comfortable living in the suburbs.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting drunk b**bs.:" That sounds like here in Chicago and I agree. I do know some people that live in crime ridden areas and ... [snip!] ... to live in other places but they are just comfortable where they grew up and wouldn't be comfortable living in the suburbs."


Yeah it's a drastic price change, but it's also a drastic environment change as well. Chicago and Philadelphia do have a lot of similarities that way, and I guess that's why the rent is so incredibly low in the really bad parts of the cities. Some people also refuse to reduce their expenses (car payments, cable tv, designer clothes, etc.) and could have the option of having a few hundred more to put towards rent in a better area.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
21st Apr '13

it depends on the situation. If they could afford to live in a safer neighborhood without struggling and choose to live in the unsafe neighborhood then yes.

Shannon +4 Due February 16; 52 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 7622 posts
21st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brantley + 1:</b>" it depends on the situation. If they could afford to live in a safer neighborhood without struggling and choose to live in the unsafe neighborhood then yes. "</blockquote>




This !

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5691 posts
21st Apr '13

If they have other options, then it doesn't make them great parents, but I'm sure many in those areas don't have a choice.

XDaniGirl 2 kids; Fayetteville, Arkansas 1407 posts
21st Apr '13
Quoting [yo.]:" If its what they can afford then I don't think so"


This. When I was a single mom the only thing I could afford was a one bedroom apartment where I was one of the three white people in the complex. I pulled in one night after work and there where at least 4 police cars at the building catty corner from me.
When DH and I moved away from my horrible roommate we moved into another apartment that we thought was safe. Right after we found out I was pregnant, there were multiple gun shots. Before that a drug dealer moved in not too far away from us and broke into DH's best friend's apartment.
But it was what we could afford. We couldn't move until we could pay the deposit on another place.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
21st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" If it's all you can afford, and you take safety measureswhile you're there then no. I think it would ... [snip!] ... be worse to try to live above your means in a "better" neighborhood, and struggle and not be able to afford basic necessities."</blockquote>




This!
Although I will say SO and I moved into a very bad area because its what we could afford. Once we realized just how bad it was we realized we didnt feel safe there at all and it would be irresponsible to bring a child there if we had another option so we went back to renting his parents basement to live in an extremely nice neighborhood where we could feel safe going outside alone even at night.