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Pusherman user banned
22nd Apr '13

Push it real good

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
22nd Apr '13

1 in four women will be sexually assaulted some time in their life I believe is the statistic. Im not sure about just rape though.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
22nd Apr '13

I'd venture to say sexual abuse as a child is probably the most common route.



I used to think that some women lied for attention (kind of like lying about miscarriages) but after someone entered our home and fondled me as I slept, I realized it is far more common than I thought.



It is not something I ever expected to happen.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
22nd Apr '13

We need to change our culture, mostly. We need to really start shifting the blame from the victim to the perpetrator. We need to teach boys not to rape and girls that short skirts doesn't mean they're asking for it.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Pusherman:" I never thought it was so common, but I see a lot of women post about the fact that they've been raped ... [snip!] ... Or preventative measures like more education, self-defense classes, etc.? What can make men not want to rape women, though?"


For some men nothing as they are sadists, and just don't care. Others need to understand that sex without consent is not something tolerated. Parents need to stop with the mentality that it's okay to lock up their daughters for protection, but have no issues with their sons being out to prowl. And be taught that sex is for both people, and they won't tolerate their son forcing himself on someone. And to be honest society needs to shame rapists, not the victims. Maybe that would get a lot of them to think twice about it. I also think they should go to jail for life.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
22nd Apr '13

I was molested / raped from age 5-6 by an uncle. My mother caught him at it. He has never been reported. I think the statistics woul be much higher than you think, a lot of people don't say anything

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" I was molested / raped from age 5-6 by an uncle. My mother caught him at it. He has never been reported. I think the statistics woul be much higher than you think, a lot of people don't say anything"

You are correct with that one. What happened to you is pretty much the norm with most families. Either the parent was molested as a child, and thinks it's normal. Or they are in a situation where they feel trapped. Or due to the fact it is family they won't report them. Also women rarely get reported when caught doing it. So yes the number is much much higher than reported.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" You are correct with that one. What happened to you is pretty much the norm with most families. Either ... [snip!] ... won't report them. Also women rarely get reported when caught doing it. So yes the number is much much higher than reported."</blockquote>




It's sad when you think about it. I know two other girls well enough to know thy have been raped, both were children, one a family friend the other a grandfather. One was reported but never charged, the other was not reported. Scary to think about. I am so overprotective o my daughter because of it

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Vault Dweller
MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" You are correct with that one. What happened ... [snip!] ... but never charged, the other was not reported. Scary to think about. I am so overprotective o my daughter because of it"


It is really, because you'd think people would be rushing to report people. The other issue rarely talked about is positive recollections of the act by the parent. Usually due to the abuser filling an emotional void in their lives, which lead them to think of it non negatively, so they don't equate the act on that level. It's sad really, that so few people get reported. And immoral to, because you place other children at risk, to protect a family member.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 58568 posts
status 22nd Apr '13

I feel like this is a pretty easy statistic to simply google.



http://www.rainn.org/statistics

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" I feel like this is a pretty easy statistic to simply google. http://www.rainn.org/statistics"</blockquote>




It's about more than just the statistics.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 58568 posts
status 22nd Apr '13
Quoting Pusherman:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" I feel like this is a pretty easy statistic ... [snip!] ... statistic to simply google. http://www.rainn.org/statistics"</blockquote> It's about more than just the statistics."


What you want to talk to read people rape stories? Because there's blogs for that you could use without triggering people who don't want to read it.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" What you want to talk to read people rape stories? Because there's blogs for that you could use without triggering people who don't want to read it. "</blockquote>




No. :? And I put "caution" in the title. No one has to read it. Did you even read my post? I didn't ask anyone to share their stories. It's a discussion about girls on BG think can be done to make it a less common occurrence. You don't have to be so antagonizing.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16013 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" What you want to talk to read people rape stories? Because there's blogs for that you could use without triggering people who don't want to read it. "


There is a caution on the title..and it is clear what the subject is about. No one if forcing anyone to read this or respond. She never asked to hear peoples rape stories :?