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★★★★★ Life is a Highway ♫ 18 kids; Australia 9381 posts
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LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16429 posts
22nd Apr '13

Sounds like you might be dealing with a little more than just a low sex drive. Have you spoken to a professional about this?

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting drunk boobs.:</b>" Sounds like you might be dealing with a little more than just a low sex drive. Have you spoken to a professional about this?"</blockquote>



I was trying to find a way to word this...



OP have you seen a counselor?

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
22nd Apr '13

So you're just not physically attracted to him? Or is it that you find yourself attracted to men until it becomes time to actually "do the deed?"



I think maybe speaking to your dr about any options might help. Sex is an important part of life and you shouldn't miss out. That being said, there are times when two people just aren't sexually compatible...But if you and your husband have an otherwise decent relationship, Id try to work on your sex life before calling it quits...

.Jezebel. 1 child; Sumter, South Carolina 9527 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting drunk boobs.:</b>" Sounds like you might be dealing with a little more than just a low sex drive. Have you spoken to a professional about this?"</blockquote>




I agree with this. Are you not attracted to him physically?

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
22nd Apr '13

I had no idea. Are you ok? If you want to talk you know I've been there before.



For me I felt the same. I really regret my decision to leave now. I can't replace what I had. But even though my ex was attractive I never wanted to have sex. I felt like my feelings were always to hurt to want to be close. I had a bit of a "why should I when he said this" mentality which was toxic for our relationship.



Part of it was that I was unhappy with myself. If you don't like yourself then your relationship will suffer IMO. More arguments etc.



Concentrate on getting you happy, hopefully the rest will fall into place.



Seems like he also has a very high sex drive. We do maybe once a week or once a fortnight. Every couple is different though.



Do you still love him? Or do you just love the idea of the life you currently have?

Life is a Highway ♫ 18 kids; Australia 9381 posts
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MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Life is a Highway ♫:" Haven't spoken to a professional at all. Couples councilling is out of the question because he refused ... [snip!] ... I'm medicated for that but it still feels really out of control, so yeah there is definitely much more to take into account."

Did you have a upbringing that made sex sound negative? Abuse? Those can factor into you having sex issues.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
22nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Life is a Highway ♫:</b>" Haven't spoken to a professional at all. Couples councilling is out of the question because he refused ... [snip!] ... I'm medicated for that but it still feels really out of control, so yeah there is definitely much more to take into account."</blockquote>



Does you leaving not make him want to try harder and do the counselling?

Life is a Highway ♫ 18 kids; Australia 9381 posts
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MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting Life is a Highway ♫:" I have a few sexual things that happen when I was really young but haven't really thought about them. ... [snip!] ... maybe there's something they can do. He says I'm just a person that doesn't like sex and he wishes he didn't need it as much."


No, sometimes not, sometimes you can go through phases of hyper sexual, and non sexual. Usually happens when the comfort zone has been hit where it will taper off.

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