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If you tore/ had an episiotomy... LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
22nd Apr '13

with your first, how did you try to prevent it with your second? Did it work?

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16186 posts
22nd Apr '13

I tore, with my second child my OB did the massage, I can't remember what it's called though :x

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
22nd Apr '13

I tore with both. Sigh.



Neither was bad. First baby was very little, 2nd was much bigger, but I tore both times.

JΔS Georgia 72562 posts
status 22nd Apr '13

I had an episiotomy with my first and no tearing/cutting with my second. I didn't do anything special but as gross as it sounds, my midwife had her middle finger up my ass when I was pushing. It helped guide his head out better.

Binky ♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6236 posts
22nd Apr '13

I tore with my son because I was too amped on getting him out lol. With DD I let my body stretch and waited a little longer in between pushes so I didn't tare with her. Also I made sure to massage myself with olive oil a few nights a week when I was near the end.

[Boats&Hoes] 2 kids; Youngstown, Ohio 62966 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting drunk b**bs.:" I tore, with my second child my OB did the massage, I can't remember what it's called though :x "


perrineal massage.



If I were smart, I would've done that with my son. But nope.

LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" I had an episiotomy with my first and no tearing/cutting with my second. I didn't do anything special ... [snip!] ... but as gross as it sounds, my midwife had her middle finger up my ass when I was pushing. It helped guide his head out better."


Lol. I just imagined myself asking my ob to put his finger in my butt hole so I wouldn't tear.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3454 posts
22nd Apr '13

I tore upwards toward the the c**t area, didn't have it stitched (if its minor just keep your legs together and it mimics a stich) and its healed fine. But im in the same position as you and all the other UC and home birth mama's have been telling me to hold myself with my hand and support myself that way.
I dislike episiotomies...i disagree that they help prevent tearing, so for anyone who delt with that and didnt actually tear...well get off your back and dont let them cut you and you might not tear. (<----said in a totally non judgmental way lol).

Purple Pumpkin Tits 2 kids; 8484 posts
22nd Apr '13

With my first I was going to tear so they cut me.
With my second (with a dif doctor) he just had me pace it and told me when to relax and when/how to push and I didn't tear. She only took 15 minutes to deliver.



Mind you my 1st was 9lbs and my 2nd was only 7lbs

Buffy♥ 2 kids; Japan 3741 posts
22nd Apr '13

I avoided another episiotomy by getting a doctor that didn't do them lol. I also think letting my son descend on his own helped a lot. I was pushing from the moment I hit 10cm with my daughter. With my son, it was about 2 hours after. My contractions pushed him down and he was out in two pushes

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
22nd Apr '13

I only had a paper it tear ...one stitch with my second,with my first I had a second degree tear and she was smaller then my second.... The doctor with my second did something different then my first I do t know what but I could tell he did something that the first doctor didn't

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16186 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:" perrineal massage. If I were smart, I would've done that with my son. But nope."

There you go.



I knew there was a name for it :lol:

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16186 posts
22nd Apr '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" I tore upwards toward the the c**t area, didn't have it stitched (if its minor just keep your legs together ... [snip!] ... get off your back and dont let them cut you and you might not tear. (<----said in a totally non judgmental way lol)."

Ouch!

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
22nd Apr '13

Tore with both. But in a considerably different ways. First was a terrible 3rd degree, pain and healing was a 12 week long process. Second was a few stitches and I felt like a champ by week 1 :lol:

LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
22nd Apr '13

Thanks ladies! I'm just aiming for not tearing. I'll try that massage for sure.