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Cast Your Vote:

    • I would let her wear it -- Votes: 24
    • I would not let her wear it -- Votes: 34
    • just the bathing suit/onsie is ok -- Votes: 17
    • I dont care about any of them -- Votes: 2
_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Tasha & Nika:" Pretty much. ... Does that mean that the 'Monster' onesie I put on my child when she was 6 months old ... [snip!] ... had an impact of her self-esteem and has potentially, shaped her personality for the rest of her life? O.O What have I done?"


Nice job with the extemes, lol.



I don't think anyone is saying that a 6 month old in a shirt like that will have issues. When explaining WHY we would not buy them for our child, those are the reasons. The same things in me that want my daughter to grow up feeling she has options are the same that would shy away from labeling her as nothing more than a future bride.



Do I think at 6 months old that shirt would harm her? Obviously not. But it's the same feelings in me that would mean I wouldn't put her in it.

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16040 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I wouldn't get those for her either. I clarified because being a bride takes nothing. Yes, being a great ... [snip!] ... do, rather then being told, from the start, that she is a female and thus amounts to a "future bride" or "future baby-maker.""


Like I said, I'd only put one of those on my kid if it were to be for a 'themed' event, such a wedding and the like.



But if I were to see a little girl or boy wearing them, I wouldn't feel like their future is being impacted by the matter in any distinct way. They're just words, equivalent to 'cutie'. Sure, I want my kid to be more than a 'cutie', but that's why a lot of things are going to get done in order for that to happen, a onesie or shirt she won't remember by the time she goes off to college, graduates, gets her first successful job and the like.. I just don't see it as a contributing factor

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
23rd Apr '13

Ya I have a onsie thats says " I will kick your babys ass" it was given to me, I had her in it one day at home and for got I needed to got to Joanns. Rushed over there and saw a friend she said "nice onsie" Then the girls at the register said exact words " Why couldn't your kid be in here earlier! " LOL

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" It's weird how the ones who don't see an issue with the onesie are mocking those who find it offensive....like I said it speaks volumes about the parent. "</blockquote>



I wasn't mocking you....I just wondered if it applied to the rock star, heart breaker, etc.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" SOME of the ones. I don't care about the onesie, but I can see why it would bother others. *shrug* I ... [snip!] ... put it on mine. Just because it's not our family's style, lol. We're more into band tees and Tapout/Marvel/TMNT shirts. "


The only graphic tee of any sort that I own is a TMNT one, lol

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" It's weird how the ones who don't see an ... [snip!] ... the parent. "</blockquote> I wasn't mocking you....I just wondered if it applied to the rock star, heart breaker, etc."


I also take issue with pants with words across the butt, lol

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16040 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Nice job with the extemes, lol. I don't think anyone is saying that a 6 month old in a shirt like ... [snip!] ... months old that shirt would harm her? Obviously not. But it's the same feelings in me that would mean I wouldn't put her in it."


Oh come on, I was just making fun of the situation.



I think clothes these days, in general are stereotyped whether we want them to be or not - girls dresses have berries, cupcakes or flowers on them, and most of the boys clothes have something sport-related on them, or vehicles. That's already an underlying stereotype, without 'Bride' or 'Champion' being printed on the stuff, ya know? I don't think that a cupcake dress is any different to the Bride onesie, just another 'gender specific' thing, if you really think about it

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16040 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" I also take issue with pants with words across the butt, lol"


Nika had a pair that had 'Stinky' across the butt. :oops:

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Tasha & Nika:" Oh come on, I was just making fun of the situation. I think clothes these days, in general are steretyped ... [snip!] ... that a cupcake dress is any different to the Bride onesie, just another 'gender specific' thing, if you really think about it"


And I agree, which is why I try hard not to force any of that on my kids. Does it happen? Sure! But I take special exception to ones that are a way of putting women in their place. That is the entire idea behind a shirt like that. Is that what people think when they get it and wear it? No. That doesn't change that it's the mindset behind it that makes it true.



A man doesn't get married, he's a bachelor. He's okay, just wants to be free.



A woman doesn't get married by a certain age and she's a tragedy.



Society says that woman NEED to be married. I don't like that idea. It is that idea that leads to the onsie, which is why I don't care for the onsie. Will wearing it hurt my daughter? Of course not, but it still is part of a system I don't like, which means I don't care for the shirt.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I also take issue with pants with words across the butt, lol"</blockquote>



My DD can't wear those either. I didn't buy onesies with cuss words or gross things like the ones that say "all mommy wanted was a back rub" or other references to their creation on them either.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I wouldn't get those for her either. I clarified because being a bride takes nothing. Yes, being a great ... [snip!] ... do, rather then being told, from the start, that she is a female and thus amounts to a "future bride" or "future baby-maker.""


Have you not seen Bridezilla!! It takes a lot of work :)

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
23rd Apr '13

2 pieces are easier to get kids out of than a one piece.



My kids aren't wearing clothes because they're "sexy"; they're wearing them because they like the color or pattern.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I also take issue with pants with words ... [snip!] ... or gross things like the ones that say "all mommy wanted was a back rub" or other references to their creation on them either."


Yeah, I don't care for those either. I got a few of them for my kids as presents, and I just found them tacky. If others what to use them, whatever. I just don't care for them.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" Have you not seen Bridezilla!! It takes a lot of work :)"


To be a basketcase bride, sure. But not a bride in and of itself. To be a bride you just need to get married, lol. ALl you really need is another person and someone to do it. Las Vegas can manage that pretty fast, lol.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" Pretty much. ... Does that mean that the 'Monster' onesie I put on my child when she was 6 months old ... [snip!] ... had an impact of her self-esteem and has potentially, shaped her personality for the rest of her life? O.O What have I done?"</blockquote>




Lol for real.




My kid has a lot of stuff that says she's cute, beautiful, princess, beauty queen, etc. Doesn't mean that's all she is.