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Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 6090 posts
23rd Apr '13

My son was 10, when my husband (his dad) started talking to him. It wasn't specific detail of actual intercourse, but it was more about feelings that he may have and things his body may be doing, or will do soon and ways for him to handle those feelings and changes. He also answered a lot of questions for him and let him know that he can always come to us with questions, so from that point on we've continued the conversation off and on answering whatever questions he has.



We're kind of following his lead on the amount of detail given.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" What if they don't have any questions? Will you just bring it up one day?"


I've never thought about that. I always just assumed that they would be curious :?
Hmm. Well, then I guess I will start bringing things up when they start to show romantic/sexual interest, or when puberty starts. This whole "my kid wanting to have sex" thing scares the ever-living shit out of me.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
23rd Apr '13

I think my 10 year old knows the basics, but we're waiting till sex ed next year (5th grade) to really, really talk about it.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16361 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Vault Dweller
LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16361 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Kaleighshaleigh:" My son was 10, when my husband (his dad) started talking to him. It wasn't specific detail of actual ... [snip!] ... conversation off and on answering whatever questions he has. We're kind of following his lead on the amount of detail given. "

Did his dad do the talking because he's a boy?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" I'm seriously contemplating doing that. "


If you do, just give me a list of what you want covered. I wouldn't want to cross over into areas you'd rather keep her out of right now.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16361 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Vault Dweller
user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" I think a basic overview of puberty and sex is what she needs now. "


That's what I was going with for Lilli too. I think I'll cover contraception and all that jazz in middle school.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 6090 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" Did his dad do the talking because he's a boy? "


Yes, and to let him know that he's been there so there is nothing that he should be embarrass to talk to him about. We've always been a pretty talkative family so I let him know afterwards that I was there to answer questions too. I'm glad that he does because his questions give me a little insight into what he already knows and doesn't know.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16361 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Vault Dweller
LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16361 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Kaleighshaleigh:" Yes, and to let him know that he's been there so there is nothing that he should be embarrass to talk ... [snip!] ... too. I'm glad that he does because his questions give me a little insight into what he already knows and doesn't know."


That is really good. I intended on letting my husband do more of the talking because I'm so awkward and don't want the kids to feel like they can't come to me to talk about it, I just wasn't raised in an open family and it's harder than I thought to be open.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" Yeah, when they're a little older I think they need to get more of the details but for now the basics is good."


I have diagrams and stuff all saved on the computer. :lol:



I also intend on taking Lilli to see a gyno about a year before her first pelvic exam just so she feels comfortable when she has to get up on the bed. I *think* I'll end up taking her to my annual so she realizes it's nothing horribly bad...and the doctor can explain what he's doing as he does it. My ob-gyn is in his mid 60s though so IDK if he'll still be practicing. :lol:

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" That is really good. I intended on letting my husband do more of the talking because I'm so awkward ... [snip!] ... like they can't come to me to talk about it, I just wasn't raised in an open family and it's harder than I thought to be open."


I think (and this is just my opinion) but I think that girls should hear it from a woman and boys should hear it from a man. It's not because I don't think either sex can teach the other but because there are some off the wall questions about breasts or periods that he might not be able to answer.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 6090 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting drunk boobs.:" That is really good. I intended on letting my husband do more of the talking because I'm so awkward ... [snip!] ... like they can't come to me to talk about it, I just wasn't raised in an open family and it's harder than I thought to be open."


It wasn't easy for my husband he was a bit uncomfortable with it himself, but once they got started and everything was said in a matter of fact kind of way and not like a serious lecture, then it became much easier when the questions started. Now it's not a big deal at all, and no one seems to feel awkward. It's usually a quick conversation. Just a straight up question with an honest response. Then he runs outside to play.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16361 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Vault Dweller