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Funerals... DeidreLC 1 child; Spotsylvania, Virginia 1039 posts
23rd Apr '13

I'm attending my sons fathers funeral with my son. I need to travel there, and all that jazz. My sons paternal grandmother is saying it'll be to upsetting to HER if my son attends.



What would you do?
I don't want my son to grow up and ask me about his fathers funeral. "I want to say, I wanted you to attend, so you can say goodbye."



Idk. I'm confused.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
23rd Apr '13

How old is the child?



I'm sorry for your loss.

DeidreLC 1 child; Spotsylvania, Virginia 1039 posts
23rd Apr '13

He's 2.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5; 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
23rd Apr '13

I would tell her that is HIS child and he will be able to go! Regardless of how old he is and the fact that he doesn't understand he deserves to be able to "say goodbye" to the best of his ability! After all you only get one chance!!!!!

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18064 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" I would tell her that is HIS child and he will be able to go! Regardless of how old he is and the fact ... [snip!] ... doesn't understand he deserves to be able to "say goodbye" to the best of his ability! After all you only get one chance!!!!!"</blockquote>




This:!:

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:" I would tell her that is HIS child and he will be able to go! Regardless of how old he is and the fact ... [snip!] ... doesn't understand he deserves to be able to "say goodbye" to the best of his ability! After all you only get one chance!!!!!"

this exactly.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16806 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:" I would tell her that is HIS child and he will be able to go! Regardless of how old he is and the fact ... [snip!] ... doesn't understand he deserves to be able to "say goodbye" to the best of his ability! After all you only get one chance!!!!!"

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Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 19809 posts
23rd Apr '13

That day is for family to say good bye. That's your son's father, no matter his age he deserves to be able to go.

*WishingUponAStar* 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Lawton, Oklahoma 18437 posts
23rd Apr '13

I would let him go. Chances are he isn't going to even remember the funeral, but just knowing he had that chance when he is older may be of comfort. My husband and his siblings lost their mother when they were younger. (My husband was 14 or 15? and he was the oldest of the 4) They all went to their mother's funeral and I think they are all glad they did.

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Armpit, of, Ireland 29526 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Juggernog-aholic:" That day is for family to say good bye. That's your son's father, no matter his age he deserves to be able to go."


:!: it's not up to his mother who gets to go. Unless she's a psycho and makes it an invite only and doesn't allow you guys to go. Which would be seriously effed up.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
23rd Apr '13

I'd politely tell her to kiss my ass. That's his daddy. She may be grieving but she's been very selfish and unreasonable.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26131 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Juggernog-aholic:" That day is for family to say good bye. That's your son's father, no matter his age he deserves to be able to go."


This. That's screwed of her to not want him there.

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I'd politely tell her to kiss my ass. That's his daddy. She may be grieving but she's been very selfish and unreasonable."


:!:
He deserves to be able to go.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
23rd Apr '13

Then I would tell her that you can set up a specific time you and your son will attend so she doesn't have to be there at that time. That would be the extent of my effort to come to a compromise with her.If she agrees to that great, if she doesn't, it's her problem. But your child has the right to attend, it's not about accommodating anyone, it's about your son getting a chance to say good bye to his father even if he won't remember, you will be there to tell him what happened that day, and that will mean s lot to him to be able to hear that he was a part of his father's funeral.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18064 posts
23rd Apr '13

Oh wait I might understand a little better now. Did the mother ever met your son?