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J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5889 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Canadian-momma:</b>" First of all, it wasn't at his house. It was at an access centre because he is an abusive, irresponsible ... [snip!] ... really immature. Especially if you don't supply anything for your child to begin with. But thanks for the supportive advice."</blockquote>




Regardless if it was at his house or not, you sent your kid with spare clothing that referenced his step dad. Of course your BD is gonna get pissed and take it.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" First of all, it wasn't at his house. It was at an access centre because he is an abusive, irresponsible ... [snip!] ... really immature. Especially if you don't supply anything for your child to begin with. But thanks for the supportive advice."


He might have thought it was inappropriate to rub a step-parent in his face. You asked for advice. So we're not bending over saying "oh what an a*****e thing for him to do" like you wanted us to do....get over it.

White Jesus +2 & 3/4 Due December 4 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 24000 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" First of all, it wasn't at his house. It was at an access centre because he is an abusive, irresponsible ... [snip!] ... really immature. Especially if you don't supply anything for your child to begin with. But thanks for the supportive advice."


So you feel like a step-dad shirt was helping your child bond with your BD?



Psht, BULLSHIT. I don't believe anyone would pack a shirt like that for parent visitation and not think twice about it.

Canadian-momma 1 child; Ontario 134 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:" you could put anything in there for a change of clothing, why would you choose something that says something ... [snip!] ... house that said something about his stepmom was the best., how would that make you feel? and just assume there is a stepmom"


As long as the person is a healthy role model for the child, I think step-parents are great. Just more people to give the child love and support. It's too bad that some people are so insecure and egoistic.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3473 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting White Jesus +2 & 1/4:</b>" So you feel like a step-dad shirt was helping your child bond with your BD? Psht, BULLSHIT. I don't believe anyone would pack a shirt like that for parent visitation and not think twice about it."</blockquote>



No doubt, it was on purpose.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" First of all, it wasn't at his house. It was at an access centre because he is an abusive, irresponsible ... [snip!] ... really immature. Especially if you don't supply anything for your child to begin with. But thanks for the supportive advice."


I understand both sides.
I'd be upset if DD came home in something with "step-mom" on it. Regardless of who takes care of her, she is MY blood. If he is abusive than you shouldn't expect any less of him by taking it.



And I can understand your point of view too. DD's dad see's her maybe 2-3 times a year and his mom constantlyyyyyy sends her home with "I love daddy" shirts. It really offends my husband because they don't acknowledge at all that my husband is the one who takes care of her every single day. Pays for ALL of her needs.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" As long as the person is a healthy role model for the child, I think step-parents are great. Just more ... [snip!] ... are great. Just more people to give the child love and support. It's too bad that some people are so insecure and egoistic."


And it wasn't egoistic of you to put an 'I support my step-dad' t-shirt in the diaper bag? You were plainly rubbing in his face.

White Jesus +2 & 3/4 Due December 4 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 24000 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I understand both sides. I'd be upset if DD came home in something with "step-mom" on it. Regardless ... [snip!] ... they don't acknowledge at all that my husband is the one who takes care of her every single day. Pays for ALL of her needs."


They are your ex's parents. Of course they aren't going to smooch your husbands ass, but it's really not worth being upset over. Most parents try to make up for where their children slack, it's just what comes natural to them.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" As long as the person is a healthy role model for the child, I think step-parents are great. Just more ... [snip!] ... are great. Just more people to give the child love and support. It's too bad that some people are so insecure and egoistic."

bullshit, my ex did things to spite me when he was married to his 1st wife, like saying his wife was a better mom than me to our daughter, and they were trying to force her to call her mom, and that hurt, and thats probably the way your BD saw it.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" And it wasn't egoistic of you to put an 'I support my step-dad' t-shirt in the diaper bag? You were plainly rubbing in his face. "

I totally believe this

Canadian-momma 1 child; Ontario 134 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting White Jesus +2 & 1/4:" So you feel like a step-dad shirt was helping your child bond with your BD? Psht, BULLSHIT. I don't believe anyone would pack a shirt like that for parent visitation and not think twice about it."


I never said jack shit about the shirt helping my son bond, so I don't know where you pulled that from. It was a back up that was shoved in the diaper bag. I wasn't rubbing anything in his face. Apparently some parents rather their infants be in wet pissy clothes than a harmless piece of clothing that says something that hurts their ego.



What I think is bullshit is how this is suppose to be a supportive online community for moms and yet so many women attack others.

White Jesus +2 & 3/4 Due December 4 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 24000 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" I never said jack shit about the shirt helping my son bond, so I don't know where you pulled that from. ... [snip!] ... I think is bullshit is how this is suppose to be a supportive online community for moms and yet so many women attack others."


You were trying to make a dig at your ex.
You already let us know you feel like he isn't shit.
The shirt let him know you feel like he isn't shit.



Quit whining because he took a shirt away. If you are going to be a b***h
OWN UP TO THAT SHIT

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting White Jesus +2 & 1/4:" They are your ex's parents. Of course they aren't going to smooch your husbands ass, but it's really ... [snip!] ... not worth being upset over. Most parents try to make up for where their children slack, it's just what comes natural to them."


Who said anything about smooching his ass :?
Her son is a horrible person and there is a reason he only sees her 2-3 times a year. And BDs mom knows why, but ignores it. I would be ashamed of my son if he was my son.
But she can put all the shirts with daddy on them all she wants if it makes her happy. Everyone knows my husband is her dad anyways, including her bio-dads family, all but his mom.

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
23rd Apr '13
Quoting Canadian-momma:" I never said jack shit about the shirt helping my son bond, so I don't know where you pulled that from. ... [snip!] ... I think is bullshit is how this is suppose to be a supportive online community for moms and yet so many women attack others."


Does your child not have any other clothes that could have been packed instead? Of course he does, you put that step parent shirt in his diaper bag ON PURPOSE. Own it.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
23rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Canadian-momma:</b>" I never said jack shit about the shirt helping my son bond, so I don't know where you pulled that from. ... [snip!] ... I think is bullshit is how this is suppose to be a supportive online community for moms and yet so many women attack others."</blockquote>




If it was just shoved in the bottom of the bag how the hell did you remember what the shirt said? Oh yeah cause you put it there on purpose to tub it in BD's face.
I never remember what clothes are in DS's bag unless I packed it that day!