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~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Tavi 1 child; Washington 24382 posts
24th Apr '13

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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
24th Apr '13

Shared custody generally doesn't call for child support. If its roughly 50/50, he's right, you won't see much from him, if anything, even ordered from the courts. He will be asked to cover costs when the baby is with him, and you will cover when the baby is with you.



If suggest getting a second job, if the baby is with the dad half if the time.

Blessed x2♥ TTC since Dec 2013; 146 kids; Fort Wayne, Indiana 20171 posts
24th Apr '13

My advice is take him to court, Because you have him more yes he is entitled to help pay for child care! Court order it!



Im not a single mom anymore but I was the first almost 2 years of my sons life, message me any questions if you'd like! It can be a hard time I know.

Tavi 1 child; Washington 24382 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Shared custody generally doesn't call for child support. If its roughly 50/50, he's right, you won't ... [snip!] ... and you will cover when the baby is with you. If suggest getting a second job, if the baby is with the dad half if the time."

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Shared custody generally doesn't call for child support. If its roughly 50/50, he's right, you won't ... [snip!] ... and you will cover when the baby is with you. If suggest getting a second job, if the baby is with the dad half if the time."


this.

im a single mom of 3, work full time. have my own house tho and car, etc. i dont get any govermental assistance. BD pays child support when he feels like it. he watches the kids so i can work tho (and eats all my food) so he thinks thats good enough, other than that he rarely sees our 3 kids, who are 7,6, and 17 months.

Tavi 1 child; Washington 24382 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting Blessed x2♥:" My advice is take him to court, Because you have him more yes he is entitled to help pay for child care! ... [snip!] ... but I was the first almost 2 years of my sons life, message me any questions if you'd like! It can be a hard time I know."

Lumen.Ash Due November 23; 1 child; Denver, Colorado 1272 posts
24th Apr '13

Does he make a lot more than you? Even if it's 50/50 and he makes a lot more than you he will still have to pay you child support.

Tavi 1 child; Washington 24382 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting I Stab People:" this. im a single mom of 3, work full time. have my own house tho and car, etc. i dont get any govermental ... [snip!] ... (and eats all my food) so he thinks thats good enough, other than that he rarely sees our 3 kids, who are 7,6, and 17 months."

Tavi 1 child; Washington 24382 posts
24th Apr '13
Quoting Lumen.Ash:" Does he make a lot more than you? Even if it's 50/50 and he makes a lot more than you he will still have to pay you child support. "

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
24th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tavi:</b>" Let me just say it's not shared. I have primary custody of her. He gets her Friday until Sunday. It's not 50/50 It's more like 80/20. PP is still getting the kinks worked out to it though."</blockquote>




You technically have your child one day a week more than the father. Your child support will be minimal.



Custody has nothing to do with child support. Visitation is what determines it.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
24th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tavi:</b>" Let me just say it's not shared. I have primary ... [snip!] ... father. Your child support will be minimal. Custody has nothing to do with child support. Visitation is what determines it."</blockquote>




My sister's dad has the same setup and pays my mom a lot of child support....

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
24th Apr '13

Also op, look into your state's department of disabilities, or whatever it's called there. I finally got on my feet because my aunt got me into the business. I worked at group homes for adults with special needs. I worked overnight while my daughter slept at a family members house until i could afford to send her to preschool and switched to days. The companies almost always pay above minimum wage, they have good hours, and it's easy to get hired on because there's a high turnover rate.