I really don't care, and no1 can judge me unless they are payin my bills I have 3 kids 2 diff fathers and they have become good friends and are awesome fathers, if any 1 wants to say something to me, they can pay my house payment haha
If I was considered promiscuous, then whatever, the men who i did havethey children with i wanted, and no 1 was surprised when they found out who was preg by...
and my fam tells me to close my legs but only because i have a depo baby and mirena baby, they joke that i just look at p***s and get pregnant :?
My mom had 3 different baby daddies/3 kids. My sister has 3 different baby daddies/4 kids. My sister was in a long term relationship with all (married to this last one) and the other 2 cheated on her while she was pregnant 3 years into their relationship. I have 3 baby daddies/4 kids. My first 2 we were together for 4 years had 2 kids he walked out on me for no said reason. My youngest son right now was a one night stand with someone at a party that I don't remember. I don't know his name, I was on vacation and out with family and 4 months later I found out i was pregnant, and then my SO is my unborns daddy. But my SO is also my LO#3's daddy as well. He's been here for dr's appt's the birth and he's here now.
There's nothing wrong if a woman has more than 1 baby daddy. It's the story behind is all that should matter. The only thing that should matter in the end is that the kids are loved and taken care of. Now if the kids are not getting taken care of by either the mom or the dad that's when it becomes a problem.
I don't have any sort of strict views on marriage and I definitely don't think that because you have a child with someone, you should marry them. I really do believe that as long as children are in a stable home and not always moving around or seeing different guys move in and out, it won't affect them negatively to have parents who aren't married or who weren't married when they were born.
To me personally, I don't care. I don't think anyone should judge either because shit happens and people change. Telling you to keep your legs closed is hurtful and demeaning.
I have 2 different fathers to my children and I am now married and trying to have another child. I am by no means a wh**e and have had all my children in very long committed relationships. My oldest sons father was a loser and I was blind to it and he ended up in jail for most of my sons life. When I got back into a relationship with my highschool sweetheart we thought it was a sign and we were engaged to be married after a year and then he started cheating so it was over. Now I am married and really want to have one last child with my husband. He does great with my boys and I realize my mistakes but I dont think I deserve to be judged by those standards. I take excelent care of my children and my husband and stepped up and is a better dad to my children then their own dads so I think he deserves a chance too.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" But would it make it ok if she was married to all of them? "</blockquote>
Yes, if it was a real committed relationship each time and it didn't work, I wouldn't judge. But she gets with a scum bag no job loser guy, gets prego, the guy leaves. Every time. THAT'S who're ish to me, but it's grey and shit happens most of the time, like I said
My mom has 5 kids with 5 guys (married 3 of the guys) and was potentially pregnant with her 6th with a 6th guy. That's a little much to me personally.
<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" But would it make it ok if she was ... [snip!] ... and are devastated when it happens...but I guess the answer to that is don't have sex, right? Yeah, ok...in a perfect world."</blockquote>
Me and my SO don't have actual intercourse because I don't want to get prego. We do other things, so ya, it's possible in a not so perfect world. It's up to the person what happens and if they choose to risk it then they can handle the judgement from it.
Quoting Mrs. Grinch:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" But would it make it ok if she was ... [snip!] ... gets prego, the guy leaves. Every time. THAT'S who're ish to me, but it's grey and shit happens most of the time, like I said"
I was in a committed relationship with my oldest sons father, I wasnt married to him. You can have commitment without the need to being married. The other 2 guys I got pregnant by were losers and did leave me. So I guess I am whorish to you? Again, who are you to judge? Like the other poster said it shouldnt matter because there are stories behind the pregnancies and such.
Quoting supa~~fly:" My mom had 3 different baby daddies/3 kids. My sister has 3 different baby daddies/4 kids. My sister ... [snip!] ... taken care of. Now if the kids are not getting taken care of by either the mom or the dad that's when it becomes a problem. "
Exactly! I don't get why people are so eager to judge how many BDs someone has. That isn't the determining factor of anything.
I had DD1 with a man whom I never intended on being with. I decided the next time I had a child, it would be after I had gotten married. Enter DH, biological father of DD2, father of DD1. He's been here since she was 18 months.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I was in a committed relationship with my oldest sons father, I wasnt married to him. You can have commitment ... [snip!] ... who are you to judge? Like the other poster said it shouldnt matter because there are stories behind the pregnancies and such. "</blockquote>
You choose what you do fully aware of the consequences. Idk why everyone wants to "not judge" so you can do shit and not feel bad when it's wrong. I will judge all I want, because I can. If you can't handle it don't air your dirty shit and don't put yourself in a place to get judged. End of story.
I dont think there is a too many (maybe 15 kids 15 different dads ;)) my mom has three children. We all have different fathers. She was 21, 28, and 38.
Sometimes things happen, relationships fail, people pass away, birth control fails, so on and so forth.
All it boils down to is if they have all o them and each one is getting properly taken care of.
And yeah there are double standards, but most of the time guys bail out, and not support all of their children, or not know about them all. Women know how many children come out of them, that cant be changed.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Grinch:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" ... [snip!] ... so perfect world. It's up to the person what happens and if they choose to risk it then they can handle the judgement from it."</blockquote>
Wow. I would say that you are definitely the exception. Idk of too many people who would refrain from sex completely in the fear of getting pregnant, especially in a committed relationship but that's of course your choice. I don't, however, think getting married is the definition of a committed relationship when two people who meet on the courthouse stairs can walk in, get a marriage certificate, and get married within a matter minutes.