I don't get it??? Isn't spanking abuse?
I was spanked and turned out just fine. Spanking a child under one pisses me off though, hell under the age of two I dont see the point they dont understand why they are getting spanked.
I don't spank my child under one.
But HELL no. I would never physically abuse, or any other type to my daughter but sometimes. When redirection, time outs, early naps, and other forms of discipline haven't worked a quick pat on the butt and she quits mouthing off or bossing me around. It is generally a last resort when all else fails.
Quoting Projectpaige:" I don't get it??? Isn't spanking abuse?"
Not always. It depends on the person really.
stupid. you cant put every pro-spanking parent in one category. and who would spank a kid under one...
I don't correlate spanking with abuse. There is a difference. I was spanked as a child, and sometimes I spank my children. They aren't abused.
Sounds like a bunch of hippy bullshit. My mother spanked me and it never went beyond that. I on occasion spanked my daughter when all else failed, she's never been abused. None of my friends that spank their children beat them or abuse them.
If someone is going to abuse their kid, they are going to do it regardless what it "starts" with. It's not like we spank our kids and go "oh damn that was fun! I want to do that more often and harder!"
Spanking at 1 years though is a little ridiculous. I doubt spanking a baby or toddler does anything constructive to their rearing and behavior.
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I am a spanking parent and spanking under the age of 1, even 2, is rediculous.
IMO, yes. Anyone who thinks it's okay to spank an infant has the potential to turn abusive.
To me that's just as stupid as saying that everyone that drinks caffeine will do crack. That it's a gateway drug. Not everyone that spanks is a child abuser. And most abusers start LONG spanking a child.
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" Sounds like a bunch of hippy bullshit. My mother spanked me and it never went beyond that. I on occasion ... [snip!] ... though is a little ridiculous. I doubt spanking a baby or toddler does anything constructive to their rearing and behavior."
Seems that a lot of anti spanking people see us that way. Once you spank you get worse :roll:
I was spanked and sometimes worse and I turned out fine...my kids have been spanked and they are not abused. There's a big difference between spanking and abuse. Also who hits a baby that little? That's pointless. I remember a book being put out by a couple who said hitting a baby with a switch or a ruler was good discipline. I wish I could remember who they were...I read excerpts and it was awful.
I'd never spank a child that young, ever. But we do spank if we feel it is needed once they reach a certain age. I think I'm a very loving, gentle, consistent parent....far from abusive.
I've "auto-spanked" LO a few times, I don't think a pat on the butt is abuse but it often goes further than that repeated spanking until the kids butt is bright red or using a belt or spatula, ect. That is overboard IMO.
LO just got finished with therapy, and er therapist told us that spanking doesn't TEACH a child anything. It forces them to comply out of fear of being physically hurt. Even if it's not a ton of pain, a slap hurts and to a little child they will comply because they don't want to get hit. Whatever way you put it, it's a hit. I do not spank LO anymore. I feel bad for ever doing it.