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blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
26th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" As far as bottles are concerned, I would just take them away. Throw them out, be done with them. Period. ... [snip!] ... escalating the problem. At this age, they need consistency more than anything and tons of praise when they do something RIGHT."</blockquote>




I am into gentle patenting. I'm non cio and I have regard for her feelings. That us great advice for moms with orher parenting styles but not the approach I want to take.



I am going put more effort into doing sippy cups and less bottles though. I'm going to try to cut ends of pacis little by little.



Thank you though.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
26th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting drunk mayhem.:</b>" That's pretty normal. DD recently went through that. She's gotten better now but still has tantrums ... [snip!] ... she doesn't hurt herself. And then walk away if you need to. Sometimes even looking at DD will make a tantrum so much worse. "</blockquote>




Yea I don't look until she starts slinging things. I put her in her room in her crib or make her sit in her chair. I just hate to have her scream and cry for long periods. This is when her paci and blanket help calm her down and she goes to town just sucking away. I can tell its frustration and I try to help her but she wants everything her way right now

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
26th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting naturally crunchy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's ... [snip!] ... when you're ready to cuddle or play and I understand that you're angry/sad/frustrated'. Throwing during playing or tantrums?"</blockquote>




I need to start saying that she is angry or frustrated thanks I don't do that much. Good tip



She doesn't throw just slings. She does this if she is done eating and there is food left on her tray and she wants it gone. She smudges it then will try to sling it but shes good about not doing it if I tell her we don't sling food. Do you want down? All done? Then I sign them too




She can sign them and milk, more, eat, done, down but only when.she wants to. She can say them too but rarely does she.




If she can't jump which she tries so hard, get a toy from.the bottom of the pile, put her shoe on or sock, or our baby doll clothes on she gets frustrated and slings. She trite all these motor skills but doesn't have the coordination. I will tell her to calm down, its ok. Ill ask her does she need help and hold her hand and walk her to what she needs help with, point and say just ask momma for help. Show me what you want/need. Ill help her then.say yay you did it. Then she claps. Its just frustrating bc I can see her brain working and frustration build but she won't use her communication.




Thanks for all the tips :)

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting naturally crunchy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting drunk mayhem.:</b>" That's pretty normal. DD recently went ... [snip!] ... she goes to town just sucking away. I can tell its frustration and I try to help her but she wants everything her way right now"


My mom always said that a bed is a bad place to put a baby when they're tantruming because it might turn their bed into a negative association for them. Not sure how true it is, though!

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7766 posts
26th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting naturally crunchy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... bc I can see her brain working and frustration build but she won't use her communication. Thanks for all the tips :)"</blockquote>




You're doing everything right. The behaviours won't just stop, she will just develop impulse control and better understanding. Throwing and hitting are sensory activities, they feel great to do. Try doing activities which involve throwing like throw and catch (not that they can catch at that she, but the throwing part is fun!) haha.



It is a good idea to give her names for her emotions, not just sad ones but happy ones too. It is heartbreaking when DD says 'mummy I'm sad', but it's great that she can articulate it to me. She can't always tell me why, but we talk about how we can make her feel better.