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Does your SO.. BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4359 posts
26th Apr '13

Does your so question and doubt every little thing you do...



Weather it be parenting, work or everyday life.



It could be the simplest things or the complex and any and everything in between.



Im fed up with it. I feel like a child and not an adult.



I tell SO a hundred trillion times how fed up i am with it.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
26th Apr '13

No, he doesn't. He got into the phase of doing it once, I set his ass straight.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4359 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" No, he doesn't. He got into the phase of doing it once, I set his ass straight."


Ugh its been non stop for almost 2 years.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" Does your so question and doubt every little thing you do... Weather it be parenting, work or everyday ... [snip!] ... Im fed up with it. I feel like a child and not an adult. I tell SO a hundred trillion times how fed up i am with it. "


Nope, he never does that.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
26th Apr '13

sometimes he will come home and ask me if i changed dd's diaper. im like no she sat in shit at day :roll: but normally no the only thing he sticks his nose in is how much juice or junk she gets which is his right as a father. he leaves most of the judgment calls up to me and tells me what a good mom i am

ModernMan'sHustle ♥ 1 child; Akron, Ohio 983 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" No, he doesn't. He got into the phase of doing it once, I set his ass straight."


Agreed. I put a stop to the nonsense the minute he tried it. I don't comment on how he handles our daughter and he doesn't me. Life is easier that way.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22307 posts
26th Apr '13

No and we wouldn't be together if he did.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" Ugh its been non stop for almost 2 years."

It went something like this.




Me: How old am I?



28



So I'm an Adult?



Yeah.



Then treat me like one. I don't need to be questioned or monitored. If you can't trust me to do a simple task or trust any answer I give you, then you don't trust me. If you don't trust me, then we have a problem, because trust is essential to a relationship, right?




um... yeah




So, you're going to knock that stupid shit out now, right?




Yes Ma'am.



Yeah, I asked him a billion questions, but it worked.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4359 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" It went something like this. Me: How old am I? 28 So I'm an Adult? Yeah. Then treat me like one. ... [snip!] ... So, you're going to knock that stupid shit out now, right? Yes Ma'am. Yeah, I asked him a billion questions, but it worked."


Ive had that type if conversation about 15 different times

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" Ive had that type if conversation about 15 different times"

Ahh. Is it something you'd follow through with though? We've had different talks about all sorts of things and I've made it pretty clear what types or behaviors I won't deal with. He knows that if he doesn't treat me fairly and like an Adult, I'll leave. I refuse to waste years of my life away with someone who would treat me like that.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4359 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Ahh. Is it something you'd follow through with though? We've had different talks about all sorts of things ... [snip!] ... me fairly and like an Adult, I'll leave. I refuse to waste years of my life away with someone who would treat me like that."


I tell him its to the point to where i dont even wanna be here

SamanthaCG Due June 12 (girl); 2 kids; Tennessee 133 posts
26th Apr '13

My Fiance' tries this with me. I just ignore him. !! He does always tell me I'm a good mom and all that kind of stuff, but he's got some issues in life that stem from his parents babying him all his life, so he feels like he has to question EVERYTHING I do like his parents STILL try to do to him. !!! And I think it's BS ! They want to question him about his life, and everything he does, and try to control him, BUT won't pay his bills, buy groceries, put gas in his car. BUT still feel they have a right to control his life. . .




SORRY, tmi. I just felt I had to express that little bit of information somewhere. lol.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" I tell him its to the point to where i dont even wanna be here"


kick him out for a little bit show him who is boss!

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Whatever he is lecturing you about, let him handle it. <shrug>"


heck yes! id say here see if you can do any better and go take a nap

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4359 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Whatever he is lecturing you about, let him handle it. <shrug>"


Its every little thing. It could be anything from Work to Parenting to hanging out with a friend (which I hardly ever do and when i do its only for like 2 hours)



Its like we argue about everything. I can barely smile anymore. I feel like im just a complete waste of space. I feel like my daughter will have it better with out me. I have no self esteem, no self confidence, I cant even cry anymore about anything. I just feel dead inside.