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How would you take this? saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
26th Apr '13

Okay so I just started college on Tuesday. I had dropped out of high school and gotten my GED and there were a lot of reasons I chose to do so. I believe that school isn't for everyone and I actually feel so good in college. It's a feeling that high school never gave me. I think it is because I am going for something I actually want to do.



So far, I love my school, the people, just the entire atmosphere. I'm extremely interested in the stuff I have been learning so far and I'm excited to PASS because I know I will. This is not only for me, but for my family.



I was talking to my mom telling her how happy I feel, because I haven't felt like myself in a long time, and how proud I am for taking the steps by myself, with the acception of my fianc

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
26th Apr '13

I would feel extremely discouraged. Sorry that she acted like that :/

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
26th Apr '13

Do we share a mother? Honestly, I got so used to hearing this crap growing up that it became a game for me to prove her wrong. She told me I'd never finish college with 4 kids. I got a triple Bachelor's degree. She told me I'd never go to law school. Just about done. She told me I would never be able to lose stay thin after 4 kids, I'm smaller than she is. Take her garbage, get mad, and then prove her wrong. For me, it's been awesome everytime and it certainly isn't hurting my life like it would if I let her get to me.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
26th Apr '13

Way to encourage your kid mom!



That was mean of her but I would use that negativity to prove her wrong the rub it in her face that she didn't believe in you.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
26th Apr '13

That would make me feel very discouraged but more driven to succeed and prove her wrong and laugh at her when I graduated and be like oh yea chick what now!

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
26th Apr '13

My birthday was two days ago. My best friend and I started college together, she graduated next month. I only take two classes. My mom said if I ever graduate she will have a heart attack......

MedicMom78 Due May 11 (boy); 1 child; Texas 18 posts
26th Apr '13

So sry ur having to deal with that. Same here, i always apparently make 'bad decisions,' paid my own way thru college with an infant and no support system from her and the baby brother got a full-paid free college ride complete with new car.
Even tho it still hurts at times and bothers me cause i just dont understand it i finally decided to stop trying to please her as it would never be enough. Finished college, on my dime, and am proud enough of myself. Yes it'll always hurt with the uncalled for comments but do it for u! Good luck to u and grats! :)

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5670 posts
26th Apr '13

It would make me work even harder to prove her wrong. Don't give up!

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
26th Apr '13

I'm too stubborn to feel discouraged, My dad pulled the same shit when I was busting my ass, going to school from 8am-10pm to make up all my credits to graduate from HS and walk with my class. He tried so hard to knock me down and what did I do? Got 146 credits (yea I was a total f**k up my first 2 years of HS) in one year and walked with my class. I proved him WRONG!
Prove her wrong!!!! You can do this!

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
26th Apr '13

My mom has said things like that to me since I was 8 years old. It used to discourage me when I was very young but the older I got I pushed me to excel in everything just to prove her wrong.

Not an active profile. 1 child; London, United Kingdom 112 posts
26th Apr '13

Sage, this has given you another reason to know you'll pass, prove your Mother wrong and when you pass if she still isn't proud of you, then I'm pretty sure you have one beautiful little girl that will be proud to call you there Mother!



Love you lots.
x*x

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
26th Apr '13

Thank you everyone! Glad to know that I'm not alone on this. I thought I might have been overreacting because she has a tendency of making me feel like I make huge deals out of small things

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
26th Apr '13

I dropped out of HS as you know in the 11th grade.. Everyone told me I'd never go back and graduate. It pissed me off that no one had faith that I could do it so what did I do. I finished my junior and senior year of HS in one year and graduated with my class. It was a big f**k you to them.



Then four months later I met my husband. We dated for three months and then ran off and got married.. Everyone was pissed. They told me I was stupid that it wasn't going to work for us that the man I was with was a POS and the whole nine yards.. Well guess what, I now have a beautiful son out of the deal, a man that loves and cares for us deeply and welp, He just bought me new car if that goes to show you how well we are doing... After this people have pretty much learned to stop knocking my ass down because I just show them up. My mom was really bad about it at first too until she realized I really did have my shit together and her other daughter didn't. Now all she does is tell me how proud she is of me.



Although it does suck that she isn't encouraging you just use her negative words as a way to encourage yourself to show her you are better than what she perceives you to be. As we all know you are anyway but obviously it's gonna take something huge like this to prove it, even then she may not even see it but f**k what she thinks anymore. If she can't be proud of you then her opinion should not matter. I know she is your mom but i've learned the hard way to not let what ANYONE (including family) get to me with their opinions. It's just easier that way and you have less hurt feelings in the end.



I know we don't know each all that well but i'm proud of you. You're actually trying to go to college and better your life for you AND Sophia! That's what matters. I have faith you will finish on top :D

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
26th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" I dropped out of HS as you know in the 11th grade.. Everyone told me I'd never go back and graduate. ... [snip!] ... trying to go to college and better your life for you AND Sophia! That's what matters. I have faith you will finish on top :D "</blockquote>




Oh my god stop I love you hahah :) thank you so much!



I'm so happy for you that you came up on top and showed them all wrong. That has got to be the best feeling ever

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
26th Apr '13
Quoting saageex3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" I dropped out of HS as you know in the 11th ... [snip!] ... you so much! I'm so happy for you that you came up on top and showed them all wrong. That has got to be the best feeling ever"


Sorrry :P



But really, It is an amazing feeling. That's why you need to do it to your mother. I still sit and chuckle about things that i've proved people wrong on. Especially when i'm down I will think about it and it makes me realize i'm tough and I can do anything I set my mind to!