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Oh my son Tara plus 3! Due October 10 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Missouri 2773 posts
27th Apr '13

So my dad died march 1st and my son turned 3 in February everyday probably 6 times or so he says papa died. I don't even know what should I do? I usually say yeah baby but we don't need to talk about that. And he will say okay. Is this normal? I feel likes he's too young to be this involved I guess in talking about death sorry if I'm wording that wrong I'm tired.



Tia.

✿LilyBear09✿ 1 child; Oregon 5006 posts
27th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tara plus 2.5:):</b>" So my dad died march 1st and my son turned 3 in February everyday probably 6 times or so he says papa ... [snip!] ... I feel likes he's too young to be this involved I guess in talking about death sorry if I'm wording that wrong I'm tired. Tia."</blockquote>




My daughter is the same way with my uncle who passed. I just answer any question she has truthfully.. She doesn't talk about it much now. It's been a year. I let her lead the conversation.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
27th Apr '13

Next time he says that says "Yes he did"
Then open up the conversation for discussion.
simply ask him (depending on age) "how does that make you feel" "does that make you feel sad"
You can tell him that people pass away buts its ok because we still hold special places for them in our hearts, and they leave littles parts of them behind like part of him is in your son (however you feel most comfortable saying that to your son)



I lost my godbrother 1 year ago, my daughter and I where really close to him. It was hard on her because she say him be buried it was a open casket. She still talks about it, we have many items from his childhood, and we have a alter still set up in the living room for him and whenever she wants to share about him she can. Im really open about him and death with her and its been the best option for us (not all parents do this with there kids though) She is 3.5 and was little over 2 when he passed.

KillerMombie 3 kids; Belle Chasse, Louisiana 28282 posts
27th Apr '13

I agree. It sounds like he needs to discuss it and letting him express how he's feelings and ask questions will be very healthy for him.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
27th Apr '13

My son still tells random strangers that his brother died.



And says it to me several times a week totally at random.



We talk about it openly with him and have since it happened 18mo ago, but its still something he deals with daily with his fears for his sister and as he grows and sees his friends with their siblings, etc