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What do you personally consider bullying? Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
27th Apr '13

A friend of mine posted this question yesterday on her Facebook. She believes the word is often overused and I was wondering more opinions on it. She ultimately believes that as an adult, you make the choice to let people make you feel bad and lower your self esteem. Which also lead us to: do you REALLY have that much control over your emotions and reactions to human interaction? This will be sort of a post and run since I am at work. Be back in a bit :)

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
27th Apr '13

I think it is overused too, especially on BG.



when someone makes it a point to spend EVERYDAY harassing a person.




If someone is just being honest and saying 'you're an idiot' ...well, maybe you just ARE an idiot.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
27th Apr '13

Pinpointing one person and harassing them and getting other people to follow suit.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
27th Apr '13

Personally, as an adult, someone would have to be really harassing the shit out of me for me to consider something "bullying". It'd have to be a situation I couldn't get out of, like work or the gym or something. Even then, I probably would just say the person was an a*****e, not that they were "bullying" me, because I'm not 12 years old.




Totally overused and silly word.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
27th Apr '13

It is overused.



If harassment is occurring that is effecting your daily life and making it difficult to get through the day, then I would consider it bullying.



Someone telling you you're a stupid fuckass is not bullying.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45003 posts
status 27th Apr '13

It is definitely overused.



Also, this overuse is causing the word to lose its meaning, and those that are truly being bullied are being dismissed.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
27th Apr '13

I apologize. I should have elaborated more. The bullying conversation was about children. The conversation branched into adults and their emotions and self esteem.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
27th Apr '13

i consider bullying anything that makes another person feel bad about themselves i guess.

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
27th Apr '13

Children don't, adults do. I think its not overused just misused and an excuse now. But it does exist a lot more and people should teach their kids how to deal with these emotions, and keep a communication barrier open

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
27th Apr '13

I don't think it is over used. I consider bullying someone who is an inconsiderate judgmental disrespectful a*****e. Sorry but when people call out spelling on here, it's rude. Yes, your being a bully, Ever think maybe some have learning disabilities and were bullied in school now they have to deal with it from grown ass woman (mothers) on here. Being called idiots etc? Sorry but I am not one of those that thinks when someone turns 18 and they are an adult that now they have to "deal with it" or "take it like an adult".

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" I don't think it is over used. I consider bullying someone who is an inconsiderate judgmental disrespectful ... [snip!] ... those that thinks when someone turns 18 and they are an adult that now they have to "deal with it" or "take it like an adult"."


what about self esteem, thick skin, a back bone?



I think people who correct spelling look like idiots. You think they are being bullies? See , its all perception, and whos to say yours is right or mine is right?



Your thinking is putting labels out there on anyone who comments on something that may or may not hurt anothers feelings..thats a heavy load to carry

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" what about self esteem, thick skin, a back bone? I think people who correct spelling look like idiots. ... [snip!] ... labels out there on anyone who comments on something that may or may not hurt anothers feelings..thats a heavy load to carry"


Pretty much agree with you here.




So, anyone who ever says anything negative to anyone ever is "bullying" now. Jesus.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" what about self esteem, thick skin, a back bone? I think people who correct spelling look like idiots. ... [snip!] ... labels out there on anyone who comments on something that may or may not hurt anothers feelings..thats a heavy load to carry"


I understand having a back bone etc.. I am talking about people with disabilites and have been made fun of all their life. Now I do happen agree on those who call out others who talk like this do waz u goen waz dat do do de do ..that's not a a learning disability that is plain hell I don't even know the word for it lol..I guess laziness.

~*~*~*~ 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
27th Apr '13

To me, bullying is harrassment you have to deal with daily, in situations where you can not remove yourself, such as school or work. For adults I usually just say harrassment/aggrevating but for kids use the term bullying. I belive it is overused at times, but down played at others. If one person is consistantly targeted or picked on when they must indure it like school/work and then it continues by text or social media I think it counts. If it is a website on the internet, a mean person in a store, or people who live around you but do not harm your property I don't consider that bullying since you can remove yourself from the situation, and learning that there are mean people in the world is part of growing up. Of course, that is in general, there are special circumstances such as mental capability and if they are children.