So my mom pretty much confirmed that she never had a baby shower with my sister or I and she is making up for what her mother didn't give her. I am grateful that she is doing the everything but I'm worried she isn't listening to what I want. I told her I wanted to invite some guys, mostly husbands of my friends but some of them are friends of my boyfriend who passed away when I was 16 weeks. I really want them to feel included in the pregnancy but she says guys have no right to be at a baby shower. She has even gone as far as to say where I will be sitting and who will be next to me. This seems totally unfair. I know this is her first grandchild but I'm an adult and have been on my own with my boyfriend for five years. She didn't like my boyfriend and has now taken it upon herself to run my life and pregnancy. How much should I let her do for me before I put my foot down?
Well this is a tricky situation. I can understand how you'd want the men to be there, but people don't throw their own baby showers. People throw them for them. Let her do her thing.
After baby is born, have a "meet the baby" party and invite the guys over.
Her saying Men have no place there is weird though, since it's to celebrate a baby.
I wouldn't let her do everything. You have a right to have a say in some things too especially about the guys wanting to be there. I had kind of the same problem, my sister threw one for me and told me pretty much my own husband couldn't be at it. That quickly went out the window. I can understand ppl having their own opinions but to tell you that certain people you want to invite can't come is just wrong. It's to celebrate you and the life of a new baby and you want people there that truly care about you and want to be involved in that celebration. I say if the guys you want to invite aren't uncomfortable with attending a baby shower, invite them and your mom can just get over it. Bc it's not HER baby shower and she can't tell you who you can and can't invite to come.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:</b>" I wouldn't let her do everything. You have a right to have a say in some things too especially about ... [snip!] ... and your mom can just get over it. Bc it's not HER baby shower and she can't tell you who you can and can't invite to come."</blockquote>
I agree with this. Even though you don't throw your own baby shower, you definitely should have a say about who attends. Rather men/children attend or not is a personal choice not a "baby shower rule". There were men and children at my Aunt's baby shower, niether will be at mine besides my baby's father and my step dad.