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Lost the father of my baby Jessica (Missing my Love) Due July 23; 1 child; Florida 14 posts
27th Apr '13

We were together for 5 years and he was an amazing, good man. He was so happy to find out we were gonna have a baby. He came to my 13 weeks u/s and even got to hear her heart beat at 16 weeks. That weekend he was in a fatal accident. I wanted him to meet our baby just once and hold her but he never will, physically at least. I just keep thinking about how I can have him be a part of her life. I want her to know who her daddy was and how much he loved her even though they never met. I have so many pictures and videos of him and can't wait to share the memory of him with her. I can't even decide on a name for her, I just keep wondering if he would have liked anything that I think of. I just don't know what to do, I keep praying for some kind of understanding but how can I make sense of this change in my life? Losing him was so senseless and wrong.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9193 posts
27th Apr '13

I'm so sorry. We didn't have any children together, but I had a boyfriend that was killed on a 4-wheeler at age 25.

*hugs*

Nomo 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
27th Apr '13

My beat friend has 3 kids and lost the father an we husband when the toungest was just a few months old. She has just kept him involved in why she does an knows he is still around.km sure he will love the name you pick out. You will find a way to do things :) good luck him and I'm so so sorry for your loss.

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
27th Apr '13

I'm so sorry sweetie. with my husband being in the military its a fear I live with every day. I hate that it became a reality for you.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4293 posts
27th Apr '13

I am so so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how it would feel if I ever lost my husband. But sorry, I have nothing I can add to how you're feeling because I've never lost a SO before like this. Hugs. Even though it won't change anything, I'm sure he will be watching over you and your daughter. Had you guys discussed possible names before you lost him? Bc maybe if you had something that he liked or some kind of indication looking back...something that was sacred to him, you could use it. As for telling your daughter about your SO, I would talk to her even as a baby, show her pictures. She may not understand yet but it will help you and her connect and be able to keep a part of him between you. When she gets older and starts physically questioning where her dad is, try to explain it in simple terms that she can understand and let her know how excited he was and looking forward to the days of being able to spend with her. Other than that, I don't know much else to do. Hang in there. That's unimaginable pain but I'm sure he will live on in your hearts. Remember, you are carrying a little piece of him with you always through your daughter and that's something that nobody can take away from you :)

slayera 4 kids; 3 angel babies; nowhere, ca, United States 699 posts
status 27th Apr '13

im sorry for your loss. my oldest daughter's father died when he was only 23. its hard to get through. again im sorry.

Momma Rawks 1 child; Iowa 7152 posts
27th Apr '13

My fiance and I were together for four years. Our son was only two when he died unexpectedly. My son was too young that he doesn't really have a lot of memories. After he died, I couldn't afford our house bills on my own, so my son and I moved. We put up a couple of pictures of him on the wall. A couple of his hats hang up on the wall as well, and there's a shelf of some of his knick-knacks. I also leave a pair of his shoes by the door, and his deodorant and cologne are in our medicine cabinet. My son also has a "Daddy Book" which was a gift from a friend that's full of pictures of my fiance from childhood until just a few days before his death--including lots of pictures of our son and him together. We visit his grave often (we live 45 minutes away), and we celebrate his birthday, and do balloon releases at his grave for special holidays (including my son's birthday). We also talk about him on a daily basis. For instance my son will tell me that his favorite color is red, so I'll be like, "oh, that was Daddy's favorite color too!". I just incorporate him into our lives, without trying to over-do it. This also helps so my son knows things about his dad, little things, like what type of truck he drove, his favorite movie, funny things he did, what instrument he played, his favorite color, etc.

user banned California 8675 posts
27th Apr '13

I am so sorry hun but death doesnt pick particular ages, gender, etc.. Life is unfair sometimes but in the long run youll find out why things happend the way they did. I am sure he is looking down and is proud of you. Pick names that is meaningful and if you knew him really well youll know what names he didnt like. The name will come to you and youll know that is the one. You are going to be going back to that name. The videos and pictures is a great idea. Is up to you in keeping his memory alive. God bless you and your unborn baby and hope you find the strength to stay strong throughout this process. Sending you my sincere condolences and a warm hug.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
27th Apr '13

I'm very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine.



What was his name? Maybe you can incorporate his name into hers.

user banned California 8675 posts
27th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I'm very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine. What was his name? Maybe you can incorporate his name into hers."</blockquote>




Great idea.

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
27th Apr '13

im so sorry for your loss. i lost my DH in 2011. if u ever need to talk u can pm me

Jessica (Missing my Love) Due July 23; 1 child; Florida 14 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I'm very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine. What was his name? Maybe you can incorporate his name into hers."


I have thought about this. His name was William "Billy" so I was thinking maybe Willow? I know its kinda different but I kinda like it. I just wish I coulda known what he thinks of it. There is so much I wish I could ask him. There's no getting easier its just sinking in more each day.

user banned California 8675 posts
27th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica Marotto:</b>" I have thought about this. His name was William "Billy" so I was thinking maybe Willow? I know its kinda ... [snip!] ... what he thinks of it. There is so much I wish I could ask him. There's no getting easier its just sinking in more each day. "</blockquote>




That sounds perfect hun. Beautiful.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting Jessica Marotto:" I have thought about this. His name was William "Billy" so I was thinking maybe Willow? I know its kinda ... [snip!] ... what he thinks of it. There is so much I wish I could ask him. There's no getting easier its just sinking in more each day. "


Willow is beautiful and a lovely way for you to honor her father. I'm sure he'd love it.

user banned California 8675 posts
27th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" Willow is beautiful and a lovely way for you to honor her father. I'm sure he'd love it."</blockquote>




This!