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Time out , am i doing it right? 1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

I dont spank my son, so i've been trying to do time outs, honestly i dont think my son understands tho :/ When he does something wrong i say No, time out, you dont ____ (whatever he did wrong) then i put him in the corner. He screams his lungs out and it breaks my heart. As he is screaming i try talking to him, i say when you quiet down you can get out of time out, if he doesnt stop screaming i wait until a minute has passed then i let him out. What do you think? He is 18 months old btw am i doing time outs too early?




Please Dont Bash Me!

~Ba.zin.ga+2~ 2 kids; Under your bed, OO, United States 4181 posts
Apr 27th '13
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user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
Apr 27th '13

Im sure I was doing time outs by then, but not as your first approach.



You want to redirect first, you also want to give him a warning.

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Javi's*Mami*[Bazinga!]:</b>" My son just turned 19 months yesterday and am definitely not doing time outs yet lol. I know he would not understand it. I'm sure others do it early and it depends on the kid."</blockquote>



Really? Ugh idk sometimes i feel like he understands, like if i say im going to put you i. Time out he runs tp the corner like showing me he knows where it is but then when he gets out pf time out he kinda just laughs like nothing happend. But he needs some type of discipline, yesterday we went to Best Buy and i wouldnt let him run all over so he smacked me in my face, 3 times. It was really embarrassing :/

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

Sorry for the grammer mistakes im on my phone. But i have tried redirecting , he is just very stubborn he knows what he wants and he wont have anything else.

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12 weeks with #3!:</b>" Your not supposed to talk to them when they are in time out. My son is almost 2 and has been doing time ... [snip!] ... until he calms down. All I have to say now is "think about what your doing, do you want a timeout?" and that usually stops him."</blockquote>



Should i not look at him either? I put him in the corner and stand behind him to make sure he doesnt move. But he turns around and looks up at me and cries. I like the timer idea though, gonna have to buy one !

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Apr 27th '13

I don't think time outs are effective anyway, let alone at 18m. I know that's not the popular opinion on here but I'll put my thoughts out there.



At that age, they're not going to sit and think about what they've done. They don't have the development of their brain which controls logic, so they don't really understand that what they've done is bad. At that age, a quick redirection and a gentle explanation is much more effective and produces less stress.

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12 weeks with #3!:</b>" Your not supposed to talk to them when they are in time out. My son is almost 2 and has been doing time ... [snip!] ... until he calms down. All I have to say now is "think about what your doing, do you want a timeout?" and that usually stops him."</blockquote>



Should i not look at him either? I put him in the corner and stand behind him to make sure he doesnt move. But he turns around and looks up at me and cries. I like the timer idea though, gonna have to buy one !

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12 weeks with #3!:</b>" Your not supposed to talk to them when they are in time out. My son is almost 2 and has been doing time ... [snip!] ... until he calms down. All I have to say now is "think about what your doing, do you want a timeout?" and that usually stops him."</blockquote>



Should i not look at him either? I put him in the corner and stand behind him to make sure he doesnt move. But he turns around and looks up at me and cries. I like the timer idea though, gonna have to buy one !

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
Apr 27th '13
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1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" I don't think time outs are effective anyway, let alone at 18m. I know that's not the popular opinion ... [snip!] ... they've done is bad. At that age, a quick redirection and a gentle explanation is much more effective and produces less stress."</blockquote>




Yeah i understand what you mean but like i said my son is very stubborn if he doesnt get what he wants he throws a fit and also throws something at me! I have tried giving him other things, taking his attention away, or trying to make him laugh but nothing works. So thats why i decided to do the time outs.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 1 child; 2 angel babies; Las Vegas, Nevada 8884 posts
Apr 27th '13

In my experience time outs hardly ever work but when they do its important to know that your child is going to act out to get attention. By talking to them or reassuring them when they sit there and scream your just giving them the attention that they want and the time out isnt being effective because they will soon learn all they have to do is act out to draw attention away from what they did to get into trouble in the first place. The golden rule in my house when it comes to time outs has always been Corner Time Is Quiet Time. Which simply means that there will be no communication of any kind between the child being disciplined and the adult doing the disciplining. So unless your child is going something to harm themselves or someone or something else ignore them let the scream let them yell just ignore it dont respond even if you have to walk away because if you respond your just feeding into that bad behavior. But in the end I personally believe 18 months is a little young for your child to get the concept of a time out.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
Apr 27th '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" I don't think time outs are effective anyway, let alone at 18m. I know that's not the popular opinion ... [snip!] ... they've done is bad. At that age, a quick redirection and a gentle explanation is much more effective and produces less stress."


no, they wont sit and 'think about it'



I use it to take him from an escalating situation, so he can calm down....Im sure the only thing hes thinking about is what hes getting at snack time lol

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" dont make excuses for him. Keep at it, be consistent. It may not feel like its working, but you'll have a much better behaved 5 year old if you keep at it now. "</blockquote>




Thanks.

1 child; Japan 482 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12 weeks with #3!:</b>" He is supposed to be totally ignored. He should be able to see you though so that he sees your having ... [snip!] ... I got my timeout technique from the book 1-2-3 magic. It might help you with timing out (thats all ive used it for so far)"</blockquote>



What? They make books fpr this stuff? Why didnt anyone tell me! Ill have to do some googling.