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Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... in their work and makes them want to do things for self satisfaction and not feel the need to get fulfilled by someone else."</blockquote>




Yep, exactly. If its just a scribble (and she's two, so it's always a scribble) I ask her what she has drawn/written - the other day she 'wrote' "I love my mummy, mummy is my best friend" :)))))))

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... jobs around and the kids just flock to them all day looking for praise. It's like throwing a French fry to seagulls haha!!!!"</blockquote>




Maybe it's not supposed to be that way every day for life but that's what I was taught from my sons psychologist. It's only until a certain age or something to build their self esteem. . And show that good behavior is rewarding. Its all proven to be most effective.

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's ... [snip!] ... age or something to build their self esteem. . And show that good behavior is rewarding. Its all proven to be most effective."</blockquote>




What are you saying is most effective?

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's ... [snip!] ... age or something to build their self esteem. . And show that good behavior is rewarding. Its all proven to be most effective."</blockquote>




You can praise it just should be effective praise. Focusing on what they did not how they did it.

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" ... [snip!] ... behavior is rewarding. Its all proven to be most effective."</blockquote> What are you saying is most effective?"</blockquote>




Most of what lolajessup and I have said.

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" ... [snip!] ... You can praise it just should be effective praise. Focusing on what they did not how they did it."</blockquote>




Yes this is what I mean.

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... What are you saying is most effective?"</blockquote> Most of what lolajessup and I have said."</blockquote>




Ohh I thought so but your last post sounded like you were disagreeing, it's late here though so it's probably just my lack of brain function :D

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" ... [snip!] ... but your last post sounded like you were disagreeing, it's late here though so it's probably just my lack of brain function :D"</blockquote>




Lmao I was confused too haha. Now I get it :)

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... though so it's probably just my lack of brain function :D"</blockquote> Lmao I was confused too haha. Now I get it :)"</blockquote>




You just explained it better than me :) I'm on my phone too and I hate typing long messages on here.

sealionsarah 2 kids; Livonia, Michigan 2538 posts
Apr 27th '13
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Jenna + 2! 34 kids; Australia 4425 posts
Apr 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12 weeks with #3!:</b>" They dont have the brain development to know what they are doing is wrong but they do to be able to ... [snip!] ... been VERY effective on my son. If your not consistent, than no, they wont work. But thats because of the parent, not the child."</blockquote>




Agreed! Time outs work amazing for my twins! If your consistent to start with you only have to threaten it after a while and they stop the bad behaviour! My boys started at 18m corrected and they definitely understood. I make them say sorry (or give a hug if they can't talk) at the end and then they go off and play again.. I completely agree that it's the parents actions that dictate if it will be successful or not

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
Apr 28th '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" no, they wont sit and 'think about ... [snip!] ... take time out when things are getting stressful, but we do it together and in a nice loving way so that we both calm down."


When he was your sons age, he had a chair in his toy room, I just had him sit there. I was always close by, I was more teaching him about time outs at the age then using them for discipline.



Now at 3.5 he goes to the steps so he can be 'away from things' ...if he cant calm down he goes to his room for a break.