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Boyfriend left me 6 months pregnant Sarina Thompson Due July 12 (boy); Japan 2 posts
27th Apr '13

So after almost a full year of my boyfriend begging me to have a baby we finally got pregnant. Everything was perfect and happy. Then when I hit 6 months he just up and left and never came home. He tried to say he had cold feet and was overwhelmed with everything. But then I found out e had left for another girl, a girl he met at the bar the night he left. After 3 weeks he finally admited to seeing her and them being in a relationship. Well come to find out he moved in instantly with her. Shortly after all this I was diagnose with two auto immune diseases that started attacking me and put me in the hospital. The whole time he never came to see me or anything but he would constantly text saying he hopes I'm ok and its scaring him and he wants to be a family in the end. He would only call at like7:20 in the mornings while he was just leaving her house to go to work to tell me he misses me do much and loves me, yet still never came to see me. He hasn't naught anything for the baby either or financially helped me since he walked out on our house and bills and left me to figure it out. Now I have to be seen by a high risk pregnancy doctor because my diseases could cause harm to the baby, he still hasn't asked to go to any appointments. I'm due in 10 weeks unless they decide to induce early because of complications and he says he wants to be there. I'm confused because to me it's weird thinking of calling him while he's sleeping next to another random girl or having him see that. Half of the people say have him there it may snap him out of it, and half the people say hell no. I'm very confused what I should do at this point.....

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3757 posts
27th Apr '13

He's not worth it. If he wants to be a part of your child's life, that's great, but I suggest not getting back into a relationship with him.

Sofie+#2 Due March 10; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7383 posts
27th Apr '13

What an absolute c**t. I'm so sorry you're going through all this.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
27th Apr '13

I would let him in the room to see his child be born but not as my SO. You deserve better then that.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8474 posts
27th Apr '13

The fact remains that that is his child just as much as yours and he has every right to be their when his child is born. If you dont feel comfortable with him seeing the actual delivery have him stand up at the head of the bed he wont see what is going on. But if you chose to exclude him from being there when his child is born please know that it very well may blow up on you and cause him to want even less to do with you and your child.

"L" 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5901 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting ℳary ℐane:" I would let him in the room to see his child be born but not as my SO. You deserve better then that. "


this

I'm me 4 kids; Kentucky 3109 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" He's not worth it. If he wants to be a part of your child's life, that's great, but I suggest not getting back into a relationship with him."


this I would not get back into a relationship with him! If he wants to be in the child's life that is good. But honestly if he isn't worried about helping you now will he help when the baby gets here?

Mrs.O! 18 kids; your moms ass, HI, United States 21428 posts
status 27th Apr '13

I've heard a lot of people say that happened to them. That the guy left because of cold feet and that he came around afterwards....but until you find out what he is going to do in the end I'd just call him the day you go into labor or you're induced and just be like "hey, I'm having this baby...if you want to be here I'll be in room ___" I wouldn't keep him away but I wouldn't go out of my way to make it as easy as possible for him especially if he isn't really trying.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" He's not worth it. If he wants to be a part of your child's life, that's great, but I suggest not getting back into a relationship with him."


I agree with this. Dont talk to him until the baby is born.

* MRS KING * 2 kids; Whitesboro, Oklahoma 1550 posts
27th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" The fact remains that that is his child just as much as yours and he has every right to be their when ... [snip!] ... child is born please know that it very well may blow up on you and cause him to want even less to do with you and your child."</blockquote>




Her labor, her baby. Hes not daddy until his name is.on the bc. Op, dont worry about hurting his feelings, look what hes done to you. If you want him there thats fine, but he has no rights as fat as im concerned. Dont let him be there cuz you feel obligated.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting I'm me:" this I would not get back into a relationship with him! If he wants to be in the child's life that is ... [snip!] ... in the child's life that is good. But honestly if he isn't worried about helping you now will he help when the baby gets here?"


Men are different than women. I would give him a chance to be a father when the baby gets here.

I'm me 4 kids; Kentucky 3109 posts
27th Apr '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Men are different than women. I would give him a chance to be a father when the baby gets here."


I was just meaning it wouldn't suprise me if he doesn't help then either.



InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
27th Apr '13

You don't have to have him in the room when you have the baby, you can have him wait out in the waiting room.

Momma Rawks 1 child; Iowa 7171 posts
27th Apr '13

If I were you, I would allow him the option of being in the waiting room. If he was genuinely concerned, he would find time to be at the hospital to see you. He wouldn't just be calling you when he's away from her. I personally don't think he deserves to be in the room during birth, and if I were you, I wouldn't want him crashing in on my special moment/day.



Considering what you've said, I'm going to guess that he'll bail out and not show up anyway.

Cat Fritz 4 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 45 posts
27th Apr '13

Maybe in the waiting room..
I wouldnt have him in the room with me..for one if he truly loved you and missed you he would be there and wouldnt have walked out. All heneeds to be is there for his child..but i wouldnt get back with him or have him in the room. Best wishes and good luck.