I know exactly how you feel. I am due in 4 days and will be induced to to pregnancy issues on my due date if I do not go into labor before then. I am married and have been separated from my husband since December 2012. I was about 5 months pregnant. He chose drugs and being a drunk over me and our baby and I had to make a decision on whether I wanted me daughter raised in that kind of enviroment. He has not called or even checked on me. I am pretty sure he is with another person even though we are still married. My advice to you is not to call him when you are having this baby. He does not deserve to be there and unless you want child support from him, do not put him on the birth cirtificate. He sounds like a unpredictable guy who might try something stupid in the future and you do not want your baby in the middle. Best Wishes.
i am halfway in the same boat you are. basically, i would put 0 effort into anything. if he wants anything to do with you or your child then he will ask or step up and be there. i regret letting my son's father in the delivery room. he didn't deserve to see that special moment because it obviously meant nothing to him.
ALSO, in MO, i would give your child YOUR last name. i regret nothing by having my son's name Dilks vs Chiari.
I have a 6 yr old and she hasn't seen her father in almost 5 yrs he has tried to call just recently and his excuse is rehab....for 5 yrs and no phone call yeah right....I say if he hasn't been involved since the beginning he shouldn't be there for the miracle...