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Surgery How to Cope Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
28th Apr '13

DD is having tubes put in her ears tomorrow morning. I know I am going to be a nervous wreck. I am even more nervous because they told me that I would be able to be with her while they put her out and then they would take her to surgery and have me wait in recovery so I would only be away from her for about 15 minutes. Then I found out I won't get to be with her while they put her out and I don't get to wait in recovery and we will be apart for about 45 minutes to an hour. How do you cope with this. The only surgery I have ever had was my c-section and I was (somewhat) awake for that. I know I am going to be a complete mess the whole time I am away from her and I am going to have trouble keeping it together all morning.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
28th Apr '13

My nephew just had tubes in last week. It last 10 minutes and he was awake maybe 5 minutes after that. It was quick and he woke up groggy but 100% fine and happy. This is the easiest and safest surgery's to have.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting nothinuneed2no:" My nephew just had tubes in last week. It last 10 minutes and he was awake maybe 5 minutes after that. ... [snip!] ... after that. It was quick and he woke up groggy but 100% fine and happy. This is the easiest and safest surgery's to have. "

That's what I have been told but it really upsets me that I am not allowed to be with her while she wakes up. They said they are going to keep her in recovery for about 30 minutes after she wakes up and watch her vitals and then I get to go be with her. She's only 9 months old and freaks out if she wakes from her nap and mommy isn't right there to get her.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
28th Apr '13

You just got to find your mom strength and be cool.




when my son had his biopsey, Broviac insterted, Port inserted, and 3 ribs removed...I would sit and think how many parents are sitting in the same spot with much much worse!

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Jeeper:" That's what I have been told but it really upsets me that I am not allowed to be with her while she wakes ... [snip!] ... get to go be with her. She's only 9 months old and freaks out if she wakes from her nap and mommy isn't right there to get her."


My sister was right there when he first woke up. I think you should discuss that with them.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting nothinuneed2no:" My sister was right there when he first woke up. I think you should discuss that with them. "

I did I am going to talk to the actual doctor in the morning about it but the nurses said its against the surgery center's policy to have me back there with her while she comes out of the anesthesia

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Jeeper:" I did I am going to talk to the actual doctor in the morning about it but the nurses said its against the surgery center's policy to have me back there with her while she comes out of the anesthesia"


Honestly, they do this because of the parents. Some parents cant cope seeing their child sedated. And when they come out, you never know the reaction you're going to get.



Show them you are strong and not an emotional ball of wack-o-ism and they will let you back. I was always let back and we were always allowed to hold him until he was sleeping.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" Honestly, they do this because of the parents. Some parents cant cope seeing their child sedated. And ... [snip!] ... of wack-o-ism and they will let you back. I was always let back and we were always allowed to hold him until he was sleeping. "

That's what I was told I was going to be allowed to do by the lady who scheduled the surgery. The nurse I had for my pre-op appointment wasn't the most empathetic person and I think she may have been mixing up the policy for older children and babies. If they try to put her out without mommy near her she isn't going to let them put the mask on her to give her the gas she will just kick and scream and I am going to discuss it with the doctor in the morning. The doctor is part owner so I am sure what she says is okay overrides anything the nurses say

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Jeeper:" That's what I was told I was going to be allowed to do by the lady who scheduled the surgery. The nurse ... [snip!] ... with the doctor in the morning. The doctor is part owner so I am sure what she says is okay overrides anything the nurses say"


In my experience its up to the anesthesiologst.



things will be fine mama. good thoughts k