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Should I get involved? ♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th Apr '13

Last week I gave my son some money for a book fair that they were having at his school. A couple of days later he asked me how I felt about letting people borrow money and what to do if they don't pay you back. We went into further discussion about it and he told me that a fellow student asked to borrow 2 dollars from him so that he could buy some drum sticks because all he had was .25. The student told him he would pay him back on Thursday and he never did.



Do you think I should let his teacher know what is going on or should I just let my DS deal with it?

~Ba.zin.ga~ Due December 4 (girl); 1 child; Under your bed, OO, United States 3934 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Last week I gave my son some money for a book fair that they were having at his school. A couple of days ... [snip!] ... and he never did. Do you think I should let his teacher know what is going on or should I just let my DS deal with it?"


Over $2? I would let it go this time but tell your DS to not lend that person money again.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Javi's*Mami*[Bazinga!]:" Over $2? I would let it go this time but tell your DS to not lend that person money again."


It isn't really about the money. It is more about not letting the other child get away with ripping someone off.

~Ba.zin.ga~ Due December 4 (girl); 1 child; Under your bed, OO, United States 3934 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" It isn't really about the money. It is more about not letting the other child get away with ripping someone off."


How old are they? You could try talking to the principal or teacher but I'm not sure if they could really do anything besides talk to the boy and see if he has the money to pay your DS back.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3279 posts
28th Apr '13

How old? I wouldn't involve the teacher, but I would contact the other kids' parents. It's not the amount that matters, it's the principle, and this is a learning opportunity for your son and the other kid.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Javi's*Mami*[Bazinga!]:" Over $2? I would let it go this time but tell your DS to not lend that person money again."


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[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
28th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" It isn't really about the money. It is more about not letting the other child get away with ripping someone off."</blockquote>




How old are the kids? Maybe he honestly forgot. I wouldn't jump the gun and get the teacher involved. Have your son ask if he has his money yet?

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7179 posts
status 28th Apr '13

I would use it as a teaching tool. No need to get the teacher involved in my opinion.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" How old? I wouldn't involve the teacher, but I would contact the other kids' parents. It's not the amount ... [snip!] ... It's not the amount that matters, it's the principle, and this is a learning opportunity for your son and the other kid."


9 and yes it is a learning opportunity for both kids. I am going to talk to my son about his responsibility in letting people borrow money.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting [♥]Mrs. Taylor:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" It isn't really about the money. It is more ... [snip!] ... Maybe he honestly forgot. I wouldn't jump the gun and get the teacher involved. Have your son ask if he has his money yet?"


He didn't forget. DS asked him about it and told him he would talk to his mom and he told DS that his parents were not picking him up.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting [♥]Mrs. Taylor:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" It isn't really about the money. It is more ... [snip!] ... Maybe he honestly forgot. I wouldn't jump the gun and get the teacher involved. Have your son ask if he has his money yet?"


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Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45800 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" 9 and yes it is a learning opportunity for both kids. I am going to talk to my son about his responsibility in letting people borrow money."


At this point, it is a "live and learn" situation for both of you.



The teacher has far more important things to worry about, getting them involved would be ridiculous.

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7199 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" He didn't forget. DS asked him about it and told him he would talk to his mom and he told DS that his parents were not picking him up."


Might the other child have a troubled home life? Maybe he can't pay him back because he doesn't have it. Parents who have to work a lot and have a hard time making ends meet.
I would just tell your son to not lend him money again like another momma said.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
28th Apr '13
Quoting Two Princesses:" Might the other child have a troubled home life? Maybe he can't pay him back because he doesn't have ... [snip!] ... a lot and have a hard time making ends meet. I would just tell your son to not lend him money again like another momma said."


I don't think he has a troubled life at home, I don't think money is an issue either. I am going to have a conversation with him tonight about letting people borrow money.