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Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" He just came back in... took more beer, his case of cigars, and left again. Now I'm fucking livid."</blockquote>




Aw boo. I would be too. I did not see this before I posted so obviously my plan would of failed. That's rude that he did that though. Did he talk to you at all?

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27754 posts
29th Apr '13

Yeah, did he say anything at all?

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" He just came back in... took more beer, his case of cigars, and left again. Now I'm fucking livid."</blockquote>




See now that is something to be bugged about! I'd be pissed

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Yeah, did he say anything at all?"


He peeked his head in the patio door and was like "oh you are still alive" and asked when I locked the front door... and I said "shortly after you left" and he said, "well it must not have been that soon after cuz I came back in for another beer"... and that's when my blood started boiling because the ONLY time I was not in the living room was when I was back in the bathroom puking and the baby was screaming. So he snuck in for a beer, had to have heard baby screaming, and just left. Then he was in the kitchen and I just sat there, I figured he was grabbing food and was going to sit down with me but he starts out the door with his cigar case and more beer and I just looked at him with this shocked look on my face and he's like "I'll be back"... and I shook my head and he says "or just shake your head at me..." and I said "thanks for spending time with me and watching those movies!" He just walked away. Then the baby woke up, so I locked both doors, took the baby outside with me, threw a set of keys at him and came back in and went to bed. I don't know what time he came in, he's still passed out on the living room floor now. And I puked again on the way taking the boys to school this morning... so glad he gets to do whatever the fuck he wants to do while I feel like shit. He's getting a damn earful when he wakes up.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27754 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" He peeked his head in the patio door and was like "oh you are still alive" and asked when I locked the ... [snip!] ... so glad he gets to do whatever the fuck he wants to do while I feel like shit. He's getting a damn earful when he wakes up."


Wow.... he needs a HUGE wake-up call!

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" He peeked his head in the patio door and was like "oh you are still alive" and asked when I locked the ... [snip!] ... so glad he gets to do whatever the fuck he wants to do while I feel like shit. He's getting a damn earful when he wakes up."</blockquote>




Wow is right. I would be losing it. I hope you gave him hell....hope even more that he listened to you.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Bobber:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" He peeked his head in the patio door and was ... [snip!] ... Wow is right. I would be losing it. I hope you gave him hell....hope even more that he listened to you."


I couldn't scream at him like I wanted to cuz I don't like fighting in front of the kids but we talked and he apologized and admitted he messed up. Said he was just enjoying the company outside, which stung a little, like he couldn't enjoy my company? But whatever. He said he figured I wouldn't make it halfway through the first movie anyway and I was like, Just tell me that then instead of lying and saying you'll be back soon then! It's not the fact that he stayed out til 3 am with his buddies, I don't care about that... it's the fact that he lied and ditched me. He also claimed the baby was not screaming when he came back in, which I find hard to believe, but he wouldn't lie about that right to my face so Idk. We finally watched both movies last night and btw, Gangster Squad is really, really good!

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11613 posts
30th Apr '13

It sounds like you guys have poor communication. If this is a recurring problem I would look at sitting down together and working out certain times for each other (like every Saturday night is a date night unless something else comes up). This will prevent this kind of issue from happening again.



Until then realize that everyone needs time with their friends. He's entitled to go hang out with friends on occasion just like you are. In fact, it's extremely healthy to maintain friendships outside of your relationship.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Derp:" It sounds like you guys have poor communication. If this is a recurring problem I would look at sitting ... [snip!] ... friends on occasion just like you are. In fact, it's extremely healthy to maintain friendships outside of your relationship. "


You're completely right about the communication... I keep my mouth shut too often when I should speak up. And I have no problem with him spending time with friends, I even encourage it! The part that irked me was the lying and sneaking.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11613 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" You're completely right about the communication... I keep my mouth shut too often when I should speak ... [snip!] ... I have no problem with him spending time with friends, I even encourage it! The part that irked me was the lying and sneaking."

Understandable. You guys need to sit down and have a discussion. Keep it calm and don't get try to belittle one another. Just explain why you're upset and let him talk about how he feels too. Once everything is out on the table decide on some kind of compromise; meet each other halfway.



I'm convinced compromise is easily as important as trust in relationships. Not enough people are willing to compromise with their partners.