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The married "single" mom user banned
29th Apr '13

I dont know how i feel about this article and the fact that married women are now calling themselves single moms. Being a single parent for a long period of time before my SO came along I also dont know if I agree. IMO a single parent has no help whatsoever. I wouldve been grateful for having a mate come home every other week or on the weekends to help out and give me a break. Single parents dont have that. I believe the married single mom thing can apply to military moms bc their husbands are gone for large amounts of times but to label moms with working husbands single parents IMO is incorrect. What do you think? D&D
http://www.today.com/moms/rise-married-single-mom-6C9604069?ocid=msnhp&pos=4



The rise of the 'married single mom'



1C5054993-urist.blocks_desktop_avatar.jpApril 25, 2013 at 10:30 AM ET
Can a married woman ever really call herself a single mom? The Obamas seem to think maybe so. President Obama defended First Lady Michelle Obama

ℐαzmчn 2 kids; Somerset, Kentucky 12712 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."


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InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."

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I agree with every single word.
I have been a single mom and I am now a mom who does majority of all of the work by myself but I am married. There is a GIGANTIC difference...

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."


I wasnt even thinking income wise. I have to agree with you.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."


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The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59762 posts
status 29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."


This.



☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45407 posts
status 29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."</blockquote>



This

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I was raised by a single mother and I watched two of my sisters be a single mother at one point and time so yeah, these females need a got damn reality check."


I myself was a single parent for a very long time. My SO is not home as much as i would like him to be but i wouldnt dare call myself a single mother anymore bc he is here to help. When i was a single mom i had no help from anyone. My family is just starting to come around to help now that hes here and his family is a big help.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
29th Apr '13

I guess I can see their point but idk if its the best terminology. But it is hard doing things on your own SO or not.



One thing I do find frustrating is when someone pulls the single mom card but they have every other weekend without the kid(s) and have their mom or whatever watch them all the time and then complain about being a single mom. I'm sorry but you have help. Just because you have a SO doesn't mean you have help. Plus you never get a break from the kids to gather yourself. It is very exhausting. All types of parenting have their struggles. Whether you have a SO or not parenting is hard and every situation is different.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
29th Apr '13

No. A single mother has to do everything described above, plus support the household. How disrespectful to their husbands. :?

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
29th Apr '13

I was a married "single" mom for 2 yrs. Its how I always labeled myself.

To have a husband who was only home 4 days a month, and to which he slept and went out drinking with friends on those days, never paid a bill or rent or groceries car insurance daycare etc.......I paid and did everything with my own money, he kept his to himself and made more too (truck driver)

Way different then the story tho. But I had considered myself the married "single" mom, now that was 10-11 yrs ago tho. lol

I'm me 4 kids; Kentucky 3109 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I think that label is disgusting. Even military mom's aren't "single" because they have the help of their ... [snip!] ... None. Physically, emotionally or monetarily. I think this label is highly offensive to what in fact is being single mother."


what about child support, I know not everyone gets it but most truly single moms do get support money from the BD.



I think the president was trying to back peddle out of something stupid his wife said. I feel that a term of primary caregiver or sole caregiver would work better than single mom. The "single" for many years has always meant without a SO.

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status 29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I guess I can see their point but idk if its the best terminology. But it is hard doing things on your ... [snip!] ... All types of parenting have their struggles. Whether you have a SO or not parenting is hard and every situation is different."</blockquote>



Whats this break single moms get that married moms dont ?

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting I'm me:" what about child support, I know not everyone gets it but most truly single moms do get support money ... [snip!] ... caregiver or sole caregiver would work better than single mom. The "single" for many years has always meant without a SO. "


Youd be surprised. A lot of single mothers do not receive child support payments from their BD. I didnt and I know of a lot of other women who dont. Most single moms Bds are not even around. I dont even know where my daughters father is but she has my SO as her dad now.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45407 posts
status 29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm me:</b>" what about child support, I know not everyone gets it but most truly single moms do get support money ... [snip!] ... caregiver or sole caregiver would work better than single mom. The "single" for many years has always meant without a SO. "</blockquote>




Child support aint shit for some people