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Not sure what to do... Gavin's Mommyyy 1 child; Massachusetts 1557 posts
29th Apr '13

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lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
29th Apr '13

It takes a long time to build trust back. The more open and understanding you are of him the better it'll get. And when he has bad days just offer comfort and reassurance. Don't get mad or defensive. That makes it worse. Are you two religious cause there's a book calle healing your marriage when trust is broken by Cindy beal that we read together that was helpful for trust issues.

Gavin's Mommyyy 1 child; Massachusetts 1557 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting lolajessup:" It takes a long time to build trust back. The more open and understanding you are of him the better it'll ... [snip!] ... a book calle healing your marriage when trust is broken by Cindy beal that we read together that was helpful for trust issues."


no were not very religious... although anything helpful would probably be good for us... I know its hard to trust again... i know id feel the same way... but he makes me re live what a horrible thing all the time... the pain i caused hurts me just as badly... especially because i know im not some cheating wh**e... i';m a normal person who just made a mistake...

Mason & Carmen's Mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 2709 posts
29th Apr '13

The same thing happened with me, I cheated on SO after 6-7 yrs of dating, I hurt him soo bad it killed me, but we go over it.. he asked me to give him a child becasue he wanted someone to love him unconditionally , I agreed lol I know very stupid but that made him realize I would never do it again and I love him... 6 yrs later were doing awesome, we have 2 kids and the past dosn't get brought up too often, sometime he jokes around saying "he owes me one" but I know he will never cheat on me and I will never cheat on him again, we don't have time for that nonsense anyway.
I would give him some more healing time.
It will hurt more to leave him then to stay with him but sometimes you gotta do whats best for your future

Gavin's Mommyyy 1 child; Massachusetts 1557 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" The same thing happened with me, I cheated on SO after 6-7 yrs of dating, I hurt him soo bad it killed ... [snip!] ... more healing time. It will hurt more to leave him then to stay with him but sometimes you gotta do whats best for your future "


well the difference is that we had a son already when it happened. He calls me selfish, because i wasnt thinking of my son when it happened... But it had nothing to do with our son... i wasnt thinking at all.