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--------------------------------- ♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
29th Apr '13

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lise. ෆ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 58752 posts
status 29th Apr '13

If that's all you want, state it. No one can make the decision for you. I'd just ignore outside input.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
29th Apr '13

You can do what you want. I gave up everything just so there wouldn't be anything to fight over and it'd be done quickly

Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
29th Apr '13

You definitely don't have to go after anything you don't want to. My Mom walked away with nothing but the beds we slept in and child support; which they agreed on, not the court, so my Dad was paying a lot less than he could have been.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21591 posts
status 29th Apr '13

I don't have any advice but I wanted to tell you I respect the fact you aren't going to take him "to the cleaner" so to speak. And want to keep the peace.



I wish you luck in this. I'm sorry you are in this situation.

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
29th Apr '13

They can be, but people are really only telling you this stuff for your own good. Especially where the house is concerned.

Iyahna :^P Temecula, California 11371 posts
29th Apr '13

If my husband kicked my kids and i out i would not have a care in the world about f**king him over with money.Sorry you're going through this.

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" I don't have any advice but I wanted to tell you I respect the fact you aren't going to take him "to ... [snip!] ... him "to the cleaner" so to speak. And want to keep the peace. I wish you luck in this. I'm sorry you are in this situation."</blockquote>




Thank you very much. I truly appreciate it. We weren't married long which is anotherreason I don't want that stuff... I just want the NY mandated amount of child support and my legal fees paid.

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" They can be, but people are really only telling you this stuff for your own good. Especially where the house is concerned."


And I understand that completely but like I said, I am financially stable on my own and want my kids to still go to that house when he has them.

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Iyahna :^P:" If my husband kicked my kids and i out i would not have a care in the world about f**king him over with money.Sorry you're going through this."


Thank you... But I feel if I screw him, I screw my kids as well. They LOVE that house and I want them to still have it. (DH does not want to move/sell) I don't care what happens to HIM though. If they kids weren't involved I couldn't care less if he was homeless but since they are, I want what's best for THEM.

Schmayder ♥ 1 child; Iowa 11769 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting ♥TwinsRock25♥:" Thank you... But I feel if I screw him, I screw my kids as well. They LOVE that house and I want them ... [snip!] ... though. If they kids weren't involved I couldn't care less if he was homeless but since they are, I want what's best for THEM."


My current boyfriend could have rocked their mom's world for all it was worth, but he didn't want his kids to "suffer" in his words. Like you said, if he didn't let her take over the house, and pay her a pretty penny in child support every month he wouldn't know where his kids were going to sleep at night, wouldn't know 100% that they were taken care of when they aren't with us. I totally understand where you are coming from, and I just wanted to say I respect what your doing so very much. You have your kids best interest ahead of any hard feelings you might have towards him as an individual. :D

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21591 posts
status 29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥TwinsRock25♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" I don't have any advice but I wanted ... [snip!] ... which is anotherreason I don't want that stuff... I just want the NY mandated amount of child support and my legal fees paid."</blockquote>




You're welcome! If you need to vent you can PM me, I'm always willing to listen :)

Iyahna :^P Temecula, California 11371 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥TwinsRock25♥:</b>" Thank you... But I feel if I screw him, I screw my kids as well. They LOVE that house and I want them ... [snip!] ... though. If they kids weren't involved I couldn't care less if he was homeless but since they are, I want what's best for THEM."</blockquote>




Maybe i feel like this because he did kick me out our first house when we had a rough patch when my oldest son was 3 months.I went and filed for child support and did a bunch of things.I did not work but my name was on the lease.I did not fight but wished i did.We got back together got married and about to have our third child.good luck fo you.

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
29th Apr '13

Thank you so much ladies for all of the advice and words of encouragement. It really means a lot right now... My life has been turned upside down and you all are making me feel a lot better. :)

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting ♥TwinsRock25♥:" I'm going through a divorce. Everyone keeps telling me to screw my soon to be ex-husband over when it ... [snip!] ... have this all be over with... EDIT: Oh, and I want him to pay my legal fees since I am not the one who wanted the divorce."


sounds completely reasonable... and GOOD for you. fighting over stupid shit is ... stupid.



we didn't fight over any belongings or finances.. at ALL. Unfortunately we DID fight over custody for 11 months.