i have a two year old son. his father and i broke up when he was two weeks old because he snapped and i found out he had been lying. he had become a registered sex offender for having sex at the age of 18 with a 13 year old girl. when we broke up he choked me and tried taking off with the baby. so i went to stay with my mom. while i was there i got a phone call about something my nephew had said my ex did to him. well i ended up coming back for various reasons and the day i came back i was served court paper work and i had gotten a restraining order. that same day my 5 year old nephew completely came out and said that my ex molested him because he knew with the restraining order, he wouldnt have to fear my ex. we contacted the police and the investigation has been ongoing for 2 years now and its still in the District Attorneys hands. when we went to court for our son, my ex was granted every other weekend visits with no supervision until my ex is proven guilty. then they must be supervised but he will still get visits. the judge also said he feels that i could be lying because the timing was too close to when i got the paper work. which this was definitely said by my nephew.
my family constantly gives me crap and makes me feel worse that i have to send my son..if i didnt have to i wouldnt but its court ordered. the judge already told me that if i didnt send my son i would lose rights and the father would just get him full time. my family is always putting me down and calling my sons father names in front of my son..i dont need my son hearing that no matter what his father does because i dont want my son to know what his father did until he's old enough..if ever. im just not sure what to say to my family anymore to make them stop running their mouths. =/
Have you tried talking to your parents about how they speak about BD in front of your son? If they don't stop, don't bring your DS around them.
In the meantime, I would be doing everything in my power to speed up the process of having BD charged and proven guilty. Won't he have to do jail time as well?
Quoting MommyToWesley:" Have you tried talking to your parents about how they speak about BD in front of your son? If they don't ... [snip!] ... everything in my power to speed up the process of having BD charged and proven guilty. Won't he have to do jail time as well?"
ive tried talking to them, my mom has stopped but my dad lives in my house and had no respect so he wont stop no matter how much i ask.
the district attorney said he could serve 7-15 years in prison. when we called 3 weeks ago they said there was slight progress finally but that they had to have the court order a sex offenders class my ex has to take for 5 years to release paper work. which the teacher hadnt done and still refuses. so thats caused a hold up. but we've all been interviewed and my nephews has 3 interviews. i also had to send pictures proving the rooms were as my nephew said so they could see it. its been a long slow process which will hopefully be done soon.