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she'll be 4 in September and.....poop! A+E VBAC mama! 2 kids; Gaylord, Minnesota 12223 posts
29th Apr '13

I can't for the life of me get her to poop on the potty. I'll forever be washing shitty underwear.




I'm just so frustrated. She has been pee trained since a month before her 3rd birthday.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46831 posts
29th Apr '13

Yikes.



Does she have hard poops?
Maybe if pooping is uncomfortable she needs to take a stool softener.
I think its time to lay down expectations for her. She is plenty old enough to know better than to shit in her pants. She cant go to kindergarten if she isn't potty trained! Id tell her to poop on the potty and start taking away privaledges if she is intentionally pooping her pants. She has GOT to know what she is doing for crying out loud.

A+E VBAC mama! 2 kids; Gaylord, Minnesota 12223 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" Yikes. Does she have hard poops? Maybe if pooping is uncomfortable she needs to take a stool softener. ... [snip!] ... taking away privaledges if she is intentionally pooping her pants. She has GOT to know what she is doing for crying out loud."</blockquote>




Yes they are..... But i was thinking it was from her holding it...



She won't go till she's almost 6. But i know what u mean.



Idk how to get through to her that she can't keep doing it

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46831 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting Ah TAM:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" Yikes. Does she have hard poops? Maybe ... [snip!] ... it... She won't go till she's almost 6. But i know what u mean. Idk how to get through to her that she can't keep doing it"


I would start by talking to her pedi and getting her on a regimine for Miralax. Explain the problem. If shes on the Miramax she won't be able to hold it in.... She will have to go.. at which point you lay down the law. You are mom. Not her. Pooping her pants is unacceptable and don't tolerate it. Make HER help clean it up. Explain how gross it is and take away a privaledge. For example, big girls get to ride their bike. If she poops hee pants, she isnt acting like a big girl and thus does not get to ride her bike. Things like that. Really emphasize being a "big girl" and getting to do big girl things. When she does poop on the potty, reward her. Praise her. But dont put up with the shitty pants. She is doing it because you are tolerating it.



Start off with a stool softener, daily, though and get her on a normal pooping schedule. That's the best way to start.



Good luck.

meghanrachelle Due September 4 (girl); 4 kids; Pontiac, MI, United States 185 posts
status 29th Apr '13
Quoting Ah TAM:" I can't for the life of me get her to poop on the potty. I'll forever be washing shitty underwear. I'm just so frustrated. She has been pee trained since a month before her 3rd birthday."


This sounds sounds like my daughter. She turned four in November and STILL won't poop on the toilet! She'll pee no problem, but if she has to poop she will hide and go in her underwear. If I can tell that she needs to go, I have to pick her up and physically put her on the toilet all while she screams and kicks the crap out of me (not easy at 6 months pregnant). I'm seriously losing my mind!!!

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
29th Apr '13

Agree w AP start laying down the law. Dd1 was 3.5 n still pooping in her pants on purpose bc she could. We'd clean it up, she'd get to play or w.e. we wanted her in a pre-k program so started telling her if she didn't quit going in her panties we'd take them away (a very big deal to her) and she couldn't go to school. Within a week she did a turn around. We punished for what was clearly not accidents. When she saw we meant business she went on her own.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25150 posts
status 29th Apr '13

I have no clue. It'll click eventually is all I can tell ya. My son turned 3 in February and is FINALLY pooping in the potty and 3y3m. I never thought I'd see the day considering he pee trained before he turned 2. He just magically started pooping in the potty one day just recently and we PRAISED him like crazy. He loves making "mommy and daddy happy now".