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what would you do if your child...? [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] ; 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3245 posts
29th Apr '13

My 4 year old must have gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning...he has melted down over every little thing, hasn't wanted to do anything at all but misbehave and bitch...refuses to eat anything but then cries for junk...he's just been awful.



I'm highly considering putting him in bed earlier tonight just because its obvious something is up with him. He hasn't been acting like he feels bad, and he's not hot...just grumpy and whiney. My mom said putting him bed earlier won't fix his attitude and I need to punish him (aka spank his ass...he's been in timeout several times today...she doesn't think timeout works)



He hasn't napped in years...so that option is/was out...so would you do an earlier bedtime if your child was acting like a hellion? Or do you agree with my mom and think he should get a more severe punishment? I'm not spanking him either way...just curious what other parents would do in the same situation.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
29th Apr '13

If you're not spanking regardless of what others say here why ask their opinions on it? Why not ask for other ways of discipline?

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
29th Apr '13

When my 2.5 year old acts like that, I make him go to bed early. Of course I feed him early, ect...but his ass is going to bed early.

A+E VBAC mama! 2 kids; Gaylord, Minnesota 12226 posts
29th Apr '13

We do earlier bed time often if she's been naughty all day. Usually she's over tired.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
29th Apr '13

Early bedtime for sure, maybe he's getting sick..the sleep will do him good either way.

::Nikki:: 1 child; Arkansas 2624 posts
29th Apr '13

You can only do so much if your child is just having one of those days. I spank my son, but when he has days like that I just put him in his room until he quits throwing his fit. I would ABSOLUTELY put him to bed early.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
29th Apr '13

Yup id put him to bed too

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Frankfurt, HS, Germany 16209 posts
29th Apr '13
Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:" My 4 year old must have gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning...he has melted down over ... [snip!] ... get a more severe punishment? I'm not spanking him either way...just curious what other parents would do in the same situation."


i have very little patience on those days since having a second kid so i would try to get him to bed early. i dont like spanking and only use it as a last resort, but i dont have the nerve to deal with non stop pointless whining and complaining, so before i spank i rather see if they need more sleep. DD sometimes wakes up at night and lays in bed awake for hours so i know she some times doesnt get enough sleep which results in those awful shoot me now days...lol

[Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] ; 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3245 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" If you're not spanking regardless of what others say here why ask their opinions on it? Why not ask for other ways of discipline?"</blockquote>




I didn't ask their opinion on spanking. If you reread that last bit...I asked if they would send them to bed or use a more severe punishment. So I was asking for other ways of discipline in a way. I just said I'm not spanking because its not effective with him and we don't use it.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
29th Apr '13

My 2 yr old gets like that a few times a week esp at 2am. Nothing comforts her she won't let us so we ignore it the best we can and try again in a few mins. If we continue to push her to figure out what's wrong she throws stuff, screams louder, etc. we've done timeouts until she calms down but that only works half of the time. She really has a temper on her. An earlier bedtime might not work and u may end up fighting w the kid up til regular bedtime hours. I'd try redirect cuddle w a movie they like or something. Usually cuddling helps calm my kid down may take a few trials to get it right like me or Hubby? Blanket or no? Chest or sitting up? Etc.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
29th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting nothinuneed2no:</b>" If you're not spanking regardless of what ... [snip!] ... for other ways of discipline in a way. I just said I'm not spanking because its not effective with him and we don't use it."</blockquote>




I feel like you shouldn't have to explain the way you parent... If you don't spank then you don't spank. No one should question it. JMO.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
29th Apr '13

I know you said he doesn't nap anymore but on days when my 6-year-old is just pointlessly grumpy all day I make him nap in the afternoon. I don't punish for a bad mood, if he's behaving badly and not listening he will get a time ou but not for just being grouchy. We all have those days and I would probably have just asked him to make a suggestion as far as what we should do to improve his mood.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
29th Apr '13

I'm not questioning the spanking part. Some people do some people don't. It's nobody's business whether you do or not. I was just asking why you'd bring it up in the end. But I see what you meant. I would send to bed early and since he's old enough to understand I'd be like it'll be earlier tomorrow and you'll be grounded from all toys if you act like this again.

[Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] ; 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3245 posts
29th Apr '13

Thanks everyone. I definitely don't want to punish him for being grumpy...I know I have my pissy days...but he has been so awful on top of that, that I've wanted to rip my hair out all day. I think were gonna do a bath in a few and then bed...so about an hour early. He WAS up later than normal last night playing with daddy, and the night before he stayed at mil's house so there is no telling how late he was up...he probably is sleep deprived. Now just cross your fingers for me that he doesn't wake up at 5am...yuck.