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TTC PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 1st May '13

Ok so I have never had to TTC, but I want to get the last baby over with before I am 30. I dont even want another, but DH does. So I need some help and pointers.

Kait. [plus 2] 2 kids; Oregon 588 posts
1st May '13

IMO , flat out if I didn't want one, there wouldn't be another one.



You are the one that has to carry it, birth it, an then be it's sole purpose in life for the next couple of years lol.



Men don't quite grasp that.

PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 1st May '13

well he does, and honestly I have babies, i just hate being preggo

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
1st May '13

Well first I'd have a long talk with your husband and be really sure you want to go ahead with TTC. If you really don't want another, it could end up being a huge issue later on. I mean, it might seem like a good idea to make him happy now but down the road you might feel differently and end up resenting your husband for making you have a child you didn't want. Just my .02 cents.




If you're sure though, start having sex every other day, especially around the time you ovulate. You can use OPKs around the middle of your cycle and time sex according to when you get positives. You can also chart your basal body temp to confirm ovulation and help you better predict when you're going to ovulate in a given cycle. Watch for egg white cervical mucus, it usually occurs around the time you ovulate so when you see it, it's a good time to have sex. Good luck!

Kait. [plus 2] 2 kids; Oregon 588 posts
1st May '13

I did too. I had horrible pregnancies with both my biys. Uhg



But if you are intent on it, just start tracking your cycles, chart when you ovulate. You can buy tests that tell you your most fertile days.

PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 1st May '13
Quoting Triple A Mama:" well he does, and honestly I have babies, i just hate being preggo"


I meant I LOVE babies. lol Not Have.

PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 1st May '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" Well first I'd have a long talk with your husband and be really sure you want to go ahead with TTC. If ... [snip!] ... cervical mucus, it usually occurs around the time you ovulate so when you see it, it's a good time to have sex. Good luck! "


Your absolutely right. We have had the talk ever since we had our first child together (16 months ago). If it was his choice he would have 5 more!!! I dont want anymore because I want to close that chapter in my life and just enjoy the children I have now, but of course another addiction wouldnt be the end of the world. I completed a Hep C treatment and no longer carry the virus, I am in perfect health, I dont drink, smoke or drug, so there would be no reason I couldnt do it.



I really really want to make my DH happy. He is everytihng to me. So good to me. Appreciates me. Supports me in my recoveries, great father. Trust me we have our moments, ALOT!! But who doesnnt? If you dont fight, then you dont care! He is so derserving of more bio kids, even though he loves his step children very much. OUr son wants a brother from me. He has 5 little sisters (step and 1 half sister) and a half brother (new baby). But My DH and I enjoy our son so much we dont want another boy. We do want to pass down the last name though. Whatever we end up with, we will love. WHen I married my first husband, I wanted all boys. Then I had two girls, and I love boys!!!! I grew up a tom boy and I just get boys more.



Anyway, I am going to give my love what he wants, and I will eventually be ok with it. I just dont enjoy being pregnant. Plus I am in the middle of losing weight I gained during my HCV Tx, going to the gym, AdvoCare, etc. I dont want to get preggo in the middle of this.



thsnk you so much for the advice.

Kait. [plus 2] 2 kids; Oregon 588 posts
2nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Triple A Mama:</b>" Your absolutely right. We have had the talk ever since we had our first child together (16 months ago). ... [snip!] ... my HCV Tx, going to the gym, AdvoCare, etc. I dont want to get preggo in the middle of this. thsnk you so much for the advice."</blockquote>




If you dont mind me asking? What did you do for treating hep c? My Father in law has it and I didnt think there was anything they could do for it? It would be awesome if they could!

PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 2nd May '13
Quoting Kait. [plus 2]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Triple A Mama:</b>" Your absolutely right. We have had the ... [snip!] ... hep c? My Father in law has it and I didnt think there was anything they could do for it? It would be awesome if they could!"


I was super lucky!! I had Geno Type 2B, which my doctor gave me two choices. Live with it and live a long life, or get rid of it. I chose the latter, of course! I was recommended by the Mayo clinic I be on a 6 months Tx duration. I was on Pegasus (pegainterferon) injections and ribivirin pills, 4x's a day. I was so sick. I was losing my hair, I was exhausted all day everyday. It was worth it though. My doctor said when the Tx was over, they would test my viral loads 2 months after, and if undetected, another month after that. Since I came UND (undetected) both times, that means it will never come back. They dont call it a cure, but it will never show in my bloodwork ever again. Mind you its a spendy Tx. We have Bluecross i insurance, but to put it into perspective its $100,000/year. What Geno does he have, if u dont mind? If u ever have questions, please PM me.

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
3rd May '13

Correction- all of his siblings are equal status and all are half siblings INCLUDiNG YOURS so why label mine? I think you tend to forget that your daughters are no different then Ts and my kids and for some reason place labels to minimize the value of his other relationships which is sadly a huge fail on your part.



There are no step siblings. Ts name is on every birth certificate for every single one of our 5 children.



Just wanted you to know that labeling Adrian's relationships as inferior isn't really hurting my kids, it is simply hurting Adrian because he doesn't understand why you would want to invalidate his relationship w his family who he loves very much.



Sorry if you think cub scouts pales in comparison to soccer or karate, but Terry and I both felt it was a better choice than sports for him which if I recall correctly terry had tried to bring up w you about getting him in a sport and you wouldn't go for it.



"He wants to live with me". And on the minimizing the value of his relationships AGAIN- you've got a boy who STILL feels abandoned by you and would probably say or do anything to gain your favor- because he does love you and does care what you think. Why would an 8 yr old even consider this? he has and always will live with T. Its all hes ever known. However, he is very happy in our home, and T and I offer his only understanding of consistency as we have both from the beginning of our relationships w him been there and stayed there for him throughout. As his therapist told you- if he had actually said he wanted to live with you, simply a childish manipulative act to please you. But who knows because you told the therapist many other untrue things the whole two or three times you went.
Certainly he would like to live with all of us together at the same time because he loves us all. But custody isn't about what children want, it's about what's in their best interest.
Please be on time for drop off tonight!

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
3rd May '13

"Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" Well first I'd have a long talk with your husband and be really sure you want to go ahead with TTC. If ... [snip!] ... cervical mucus, it usually occurs around the time you ovulate so when you see it, it's a good time to have sex. Good luck! "



"Your absolutely right. We have had the talk ever since we had our first child together (16 months ago). If it was his choice he would have 5 more!!! I dont want anymore because I want to close that chapter in my life and just enjoy the children I have now, but of course another addiction wouldnt be the end of the world. I completed a Hep C treatment and no longer carry the virus, I am in perfect health, I dont drink, smoke or drug, so there would be no reason I couldnt do it.



I really really want to make my DH happy. He is everytihng to me. So good to me. Appreciates me. Supports me in my recoveries, great father. Trust me we have our moments, ALOT!! But who doesnnt? If you dont fight, then you dont care! He is so derserving of more bio kids, even though he loves his step children very much. OUr son wants a brother from me. He has 5 little sisters (step and 1 half sister) and a half brother (new baby). But My DH and I enjoy our son so much we dont want another boy. We do want to pass down the last name though. Whatever we end up with, we will love. WHen I married my first husband, I wanted all boys. Then I had two girls, and I love boys!!!! I grew up a tom boy and I just get boys more.



Anyway, I am going to give my love what he wants, and I will eventually be ok with it. I just dont enjoy being pregnant. Plus I am in the middle of losing weight I gained during my HCV Tx, going to the gym, AdvoCare, etc. I dont want to get preggo in the middle of this.



thsnk you so much for the advice."



For the sake of first party editing.
Unfortunately BG doesn't quote the entire post, so there's the quote and I've taken a screenshot because we never know what you will say in court.



And I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just being realistic based on the current situation which I would genuinely like to see improve.

PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 9th May '13
Quoting Triple A Mama:" Ok so I have never had to TTC, but I want to get the last baby over with before I am 30. I dont even want another, but DH does. So I need some help and pointers. "


So we have decided that it is better that since I dont want another we are not TTC. I just wanted advice on what to do, since I never had to. I had implanon, but I am getting it back. I am going to kick my health craze into high gear and focus on the kids I have. I love kids, but I couldnt handle a daycare coming out my Vag. (sorry too much?)

PRIVATE! palm beach, ca, United States 26 posts
status 9th May '13
Quoting Triple A Mama:" Your absolutely right. We have had the talk ever since we had our first child together (16 months ago). ... [snip!] ... my HCV Tx, going to the gym, AdvoCare, etc. I dont want to get preggo in the middle of this. thsnk you so much for the advice."


autocorrect grrrrr....another ADDITION.