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Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Destinite:" Also, spanking a 2 year old disgusting. S if he understands why mom is hitting him"

Why is it disgusting?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" I think she needs to follow the daycare rules while at work. What if another parent was around and saw ... [snip!] ... not there? Regardless if it's your own kid or not, she is also an employee and needs to follow their rules while on the clock. "

This.



I use to work at a daycare, and we had a provider who was also a parent, take their own child into the bathroom and give her a spanking. Well of course the kid was screaming.. and another parent walked in... the next day she pulled her kid out. She didn't know that the kid getting spanked was Heidi's own child.
It's bad for business. If they need correction immediately, take them outside to your car or something. I think the employer made the right decision.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7948 posts
status 1st May '13

Spanking and smacking are different in my opinion. Why is it being considered the same thing?



If she was off the clock then she should be fired. But if she was on the clock, it is the rules of the daycare then I can understand firing her. Personally I think giving her a warning would be the first step but it is their business so it is their choice.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31529 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Thr3e Little Birds:" Why is it disgusting?"


Spanking children under two is not recommended. They have no understanding of why they are getting hit.

Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Destinite:" Spanking children under two is not recommended. They have no understanding of why they are getting hit."


You said a two year old. And where did you get your information from? I think each child is different, but I know all my children understood no and a swat on the bottom by the time they were 20 months or so.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31529 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Thr3e Little Birds:" You said a two year old. And where did you get your information from? I think each child is different, ... [snip!] ... child is different, but I know all my children understood no and a swat on the bottom by the time they were 20 months or so."


Research, articles, etc. The child in the OP is two, so I was referencing that. Many people spank children 2 and under & there a far more effective ways to go about that. Sure each child is different, but IMO no child should be spanked.



♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29454 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" Spanking and smacking are different in my opinion. Why is it being considered the same thing? If she ... [snip!] ... firing her. Personally I think giving her a warning would be the first step but it is their business so it is their choice."</blockquote>




How are they different?



I am from the country this article is from and to us smacking is exactly the same as spanking.

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3303 posts
1st May '13

Two years old is far too young to spank. To be honest I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my child where a provider had such a poor grasp on child development.



Furthermore, as a paying, anti spanking parent I do not want my kids exposed to any sort of violence. I certainly do not want them to ever think hitting is okay, which is why I don't spank in the first place.



Maybe at home she spanks, maybe at home she drinks wine in front of them, maybe at home she gets mad and calls them little motherfuckers. I don't care. If she can't parent and be professional at the same time then her kids should be some place else during working hours.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
1st May '13

I do spank my kids depending on what they are doing and I do work at a daycare however I would never spank them in front of anyone else and I most certainly wouldn't do it while on the clock.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7948 posts
status 1st May '13
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" Spanking and smacking are different in my opinion. ... [snip!] ... How are they different? I am from the country this article is from and to us smacking is exactly the same as spanking."


Well, you're right. By definition it is the same thing. I guess I associate smacking with open hand hitting someone in the face. It sounds worse than spanking to me.
But like I said you are right. I have just never heard of people calling spanking the same as smacking.

♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29454 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" Well, you're right. By definition it is the same thing. I guess I associate smacking with open hand ... [snip!] ... than spanking to me. But like I said you are right. I have just never heard of people calling spanking the same as smacking."</blockquote>



See in the UK it's just called smacking when it's on the bottom or hand.... I don't live there anymore but I assume it hasn't changed.



I personally call hitting someone on the face 'whacking' don't know if that's the norm haha

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
1st May '13

So, just so I understand, many people in this thread feel that the rules of the daycare should overrule her right, as a mother, to descipline her own child? Is that right?

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" So, just so I understand, many people in this thread feel that the rules of the daycare should overrule her right, as a mother, to descipline her own child? Is that right?"</blockquote>



I think the rules of the daycare should come first, yes. That is the risk you take when you enroll your children in the daycare you work at knowing they don't have the same discipline rules, IMO. It's something she should have taken into consideration before enrolling her kid (or taking the job, whichever came second) and if she had a problem with the fact that she couldn't spanked her own child (which she stated she clearly knew the rules) than she should have enrolled them someway else.

Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" Well, you're right. By definition it is the same ... [snip!] ... but I assume it hasn't changed. I personally call hitting someone on the face 'whacking' don't know if that's the norm haha"

Haha ok. Thanks for clarifying. :)

♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29454 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" So, just so I understand, many people in this thread feel that the rules of the daycare should overrule her right, as a mother, to descipline her own child? Is that right?"</blockquote>




You have a 'right' as a parent to do whatever you want, rules and laws permit you from doing certain things, like abusing your child, circumcising you daughter, tattoo'ing your son, etc.



I'm all for spanking/smacking but I feel rules need to be followed.