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KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5399 posts
2nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" So, just so I understand, many people in this thread feel that the rules of the daycare should overrule her right, as a mother, to descipline her own child? Is that right?"</blockquote>




Absolutely!



I live in the UK and I am in total agreement with the Nursery. If she is at home with her child that's her choice however this is not her home this is her place of work. There are rules and regulations within a workplace that you must abide by and within a Nursery no smacking is quite a MAJOR one. Yes she is the Mother of the child but whilst she is in her place of employment, in their centre, being paid by them and during working hours then she will behave like every other employee or face the consequences. She wants to excersise her rights as a Mother? Fine she can do it in her own time, if she wants to do it on her employers time, in her employers place of business then her employer will excersise their rights to dismiss her for breaking their employee rules. I am quite sure they don't have a clause saying "unless you are related to the child", no they will have a no smacking policy PERIOD.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60983 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" So, just so I understand, many people in this thread feel that the rules of the daycare should overrule her right, as a mother, to descipline her own child? Is that right?"

Not me. But I think I'm the only one in here :lol:




Other than you, I'm sure.

michele is expecting Due October 28 (boy); New York, New York 319 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting FarminMomma:" That is ridiculous! It's her kid..and it's not like she punched her in the face!"


true

michele is expecting Due October 28 (boy); New York, New York 319 posts
2nd May '13

it's better than beating a child dumb ass people always worried about other people and there kids

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
2nd May '13

I guess I am one of the odd ones out. If my child was acting out, I would spank them no matter where I am at. Even at work. They can suck it!

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3303 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" So, just so I understand, many people in this thread feel that the rules of the daycare should overrule her right, as a mother, to descipline her own child? Is that right?"


I would say that the paying parents would have the ultimate rights. If the mom wants her child spanked than she can leave them at grandmas

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3303 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" I guess I am one of the odd ones out. If my child was acting out, I would spank them no matter where I am at. Even at work. They can suck it! "


And you would be fired

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:" And you would be fired"


Honestly I wouldn't care. I would still tell them to suck it.

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
2nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Madi's*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" So, just so I understand, many people ... [snip!] ... couldn't spanked her own child (which she stated she clearly knew the rules) than she should have enrolled them someway else."</blockquote>




This is just one of the reasons that people are leaving the public schooling system, in favor of home schooling. Her right to discipline her own child should trump the "rules".



I would NEVER sign my child up in a school that I had to give up those rights.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
2nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Madi's*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie ... [snip!] ... her own child should trump the "rules". I would NEVER sign my child up in a school that I had to give up those rights."</blockquote>



And that's what she should have done. Enrolled them somewhere else. She knew well before this incident that the rules weren't the same as her parenting.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59929 posts
2nd May '13

Okay...



Here's my question.



I have mixed feelings. It's a parent's right to discipline as they see fit. Absolutely.



However, it's also an employee's job to follow their company's policy.



I feel like in most daycare centers if your child attends the center you're not allowed to be a teacher in that room for reasons like this, is that not always the case?

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5399 posts
2nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Madi's*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie ... [snip!] ... her own child should trump the "rules". I would NEVER sign my child up in a school that I had to give up those rights."</blockquote>




Not when she's an employee, in her place of employment, during working hours.



You're getting yourself awfully confused between a regular Mother disciplining her child and a Mother who is employed by a Company having to follow employee rules.



ETA: This particular Mother didn't sign her child up to a School where she gives up her parental rights, she signed herself up to rules and regulations as an employee in that company.



It is my legal right as a 26 year old woman to drink alcohol however I do not rock up to my place of employment on a Monday with a bottle of Vodka expecting that I can get wasted because it's my legal right :roll:

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7964 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Iggy Azalea:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Madi's*Mama:</b>" ... [snip!] ... between a regular Mother disciplining her child and a Mother who is employed by a Company having to follow employee rules."


:!:



Exactly. When she is on the clock she has to follow company rules. They have every right to expect her to follow their rules while she is working.

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5399 posts
2nd May '13

Added more in edit.

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5399 posts
2nd May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" :!: Exactly. When she is on the clock she has to follow company rules. They have every right to expect her to follow their rules while she is working."</blockquote>




Yup. I don't see what is so difficult to understand :? "They're taking away my parental rights!!" No they're not, they're setting out rules and regulations for you to abide by as an employee in their company. These rules and regulations will be very clearly set out in the employee contract which you have a choice to sign or not to sign. If you don't like them then don't sign, if you sign up to them and agree to abide by their rules and then they sack you because you don't follow them then that is their right.