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does anybody else feel guilty? Dexterr Due February 6; 1 child; United Kingdom 130 posts
1st May '13

Does anybody else feel guilty about not breastfeeding?
I feel terrible, I didn't even try. My health visitor keeps making me feel horrible about it to the point of where I just want to break down and cry.

Bella_Chelle 1 child; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 5416 posts
1st May '13

I feel very guilty. I tried so hard for a few weeks. The whole time I couldn't pump more than half oz a day. She was s*****g for an hour because she was getting nothing. It made me feel like less of a woman because I couldn't feed my baby. I feel better now that she is older and on whole milk. But the whole time she was on formula I was upset.

Mak&Row 18 kids; Portland, Oregon 763 posts
1st May '13

Are you opposed to trying? Talking to a lactation specialist? Of course that would mean you are interested...you might be able to relactate with help.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
1st May '13

My sister didn't feel guilty because she didn't care for even trying. She started harboring feelings of guilt & envy after I had my son because he is breastfed & perfectly healthy. He's never been sick but her baby had to switch between 4 formulas to find a good one for him & has been sick constantly

Our Precious Little Girl Due December 8 (twins); 1 child; Saskatchewan 111 posts
1st May '13

Don't let someone make you feel guilty about a parenting choice you made. It's your choice no one else's.

Dexterr Due February 6; 1 child; United Kingdom 130 posts
1st May '13

I wish I had tried.
He's 9 weeks old now, isn't that too late?

Mommy to munchkin 17 kids; Bandera, Texas 1229 posts
1st May '13

To breastfeed or formula feed is a personal choice and no one sgould make you feel guilty. I am sure you had your reasons why you didnt breastfeed. Is your baby healthy and happy? Thats all that matters.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
1st May '13

Nope. My kid is healthy and fed.

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 3 kids; Minsk, Belarus 15331 posts
1st May '13

With my second son I felt like crap and it made my PPD a thousand times worse when I got sick and lost my supply. (had to have surgery so couldn't eat or drink for 3 days, just IV)
then when I got it back my son wasn't interested at all.



But it is SO wrong of them to make you feel bad if you chose not to do it.. Formula is perfectly fine and if you thought it was best then nobody's opinion matters. Sorry they are being douche bags.

Dexterr Due February 6; 1 child; United Kingdom 130 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Mommy and daddys angel:" To breastfeed or formula feed is a personal choice and no one sgould make you feel guilty. I am sure ... [snip!] ... feel guilty. I am sure you had your reasons why you didnt breastfeed. Is your baby healthy and happy? Thats all that matters."


He's perfectly healthy, it's just the way i'm being put down by a professional makes me really upset.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Nope. My kid is healthy and fed."

!!!!!!!!!!



I did at first because I only breastfed for a week before I got terrible PPD and decided it was best to stop. I felt like I failed as a mom and a woman but DD is perfectly healthy and happy. We also have a great bond and I wouldn't change anything. I'm not even attempting to BF this baby and I am totally ok with that decision because it's what's best for my family and I.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
1st May '13

I don't feel guilty. I never produce anything at all. I didn't leak ever, I didn't get engorged after she was born. Nothing.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ReubensMummy:</b>" I wish I had tried. He's 9 weeks old now, isn't that too late?"</blockquote>



Not at all! You can call a lactation specialist(almost every labor & delivery/maternity hospital has one)& get a lot of info from her. Even mamas who adopt can start up their milk supply.

Our Precious Little Girl Due December 8 (twins); 1 child; Saskatchewan 111 posts
1st May '13

Also I breastfed my little girl it was really difficult she was allergic to all milk and egg products that I consumed. Check out some labels everything contains lactate and eggs. What I'm trying to say is that it's not for everyone I don't know many people who breastfeed I did until she was a year and a half, the new recommendations are to try for two years.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
1st May '13

i didn't bf Jade,



I felt more guilty that i didn't want to breastfeed her, eventually i got over it, and once i got into treatment for myself, i was able to find other ways to bond with her...
don't let anyone make u feel bad, it's no 1s business what ur baby is eating...



personally i would call whatever agency ur using ask for the case manager and her supervisor, ask them to not send her, and make complaint...